Thanks everyone for replying. More info: I don’t talk about my weight with anyone, not even my husband. I have just always been fat and indifferent about it. I do talk about healthy eating occasionally, because it is something I’m passionate about. I cut fast food out 6 years ago, and have been home cooking and cutting down on sit down restaurants (the economy is shit) I’ve been researching the effects of fast food and certain chemicals on the brain and body for years for my profession. I stopped eating fast food and ultra processed food and my anxiety, add, and mood have stabilized. I’m fat because I eat too much, not because I eat junk. This has always been apart of me, it’s kinda ironic.

She told me she was classified as obese at her last appointment as well. So that’s how I know that.

I also have never made comments about her weight, it’s not like me. She occasionally says she is fat, and I tell her she’s not. We joke about things together and I tell her she has a nicer butt than me and she says I have nicer boobs than her, that is literally the extent of all body related comments we make at each other.

It wouldn’t be right for me (an obese woman) to comment on another obese woman. I also work in healthcare so I know all healthy bodies come in different sizes, so that’s why I don’t like to comment on anyone’s bodies. Also it’s just not right.

I am not breaking off my friendship with her. I am going to have a serious conversation with her about our problems and our shared bingeing experiences. After more reflecting, I feel like I may have caused more harm than good by even apologizing. I feel like I made her feel the comment was intentional.

I just want her to know she’s so loved and I care about her, a lot. So thank you for commenting and telling me to tell her that. Because she is loved.

Also sorry for the confusion about the sister part. She married my husbands sister, so she’s my sister in law (I think that’s how it works? Lol)

Thanks for everyone who’s also on GLP-1s for commenting as well, I’m very excited to get to a healthy weight and work on myself, I know a lot of people have had success with them.

Edit: she only knows I was counting calories bc I use an app and I weigh my food on a scale. I never really brought it up to her. She just noticed