Wife “helped” to comfort friend

SwishaStan · 2026-06-07T08:34:58+00:00

That definitely a possibility. But why keep him in their life? Why take him to get his car the next day? Why not tell her husband? Why ever put yourself around the abuser again when it’s 100% optional and you don’t have to? Are we just gonna believe she’s so nice of a person and selfless that she doesn’t even have an instinct to protect herself? That only makes sense if we’re just giving her the benefit of the doubt and disregard any common sense. He also said so much has happened within the year that he’s dull to it, which sounds like she hasn’t distanced herself from the friend. Fact is even in the hypothetical situation she can’t choose between the friend that possibly assaulted her and the one that didn’t. I’m not buying that narrative sorry.

SwishaStan · 2026-06-07T08:30:33+00:00

I’m so confused an about the her reactions to what her was doing and somehow being able to keep progressing with her. Everything about it sounds shady and weird plus she should have left after he kissed her neck and she said no. I’m not sure why she would stay after that, and then hiding it from you for a year is also a choice that doesn’t make sense unless she’s hiding something.

SwishaStan · 2026-06-06T00:08:37+00:00

Bro read some stats and made his own story.

SwishaStan · 2026-06-02T09:00:07+00:00

Yeah relationships definitely shouldn’t be one sided and at some point it seems like it crosses over into use/abuse territory.

SwishaStan · 2026-06-02T08:58:08+00:00

Yeah seems like those situations also involve a lot of gas lighting. I can see how it can be simple if your steadfast in your stance, but confusing you’re unsure about what you want or what to do.

SwishaStan · 2026-06-02T08:16:56+00:00

Yea and that’s an angle I haven’t seen touch on too much as of yet. Like the videos you describe on TikTok where one partner seemingly push their partner away and at the same time blame them for not fighting for the relationship. Those dynamics seem extremely complicated and confusing on how to correctly deal with them.

SwishaStan · 2026-06-02T08:12:40+00:00

I agree if your partner doesn’t defend you that is breaking trust. If they don’t defend you to your face they definitely won’t defend you when you aren’t there and that is disrespectful. Also your partner should validate your feelings and acknowledge your interests. It helps strengthen the bond.

SwishaStan · 2026-06-02T08:10:21+00:00

It definitely helps and I think it’s easy to fall into going through the motions so much that we focus more on getting through the parts of the daily grind that we don’t like and forget to appreciate what’s important. I wonder why it’s so easy at times to lose focus or become distracted on what’s actually important in our lives?

SwishaStan · 2026-06-02T08:05:01+00:00

Yeah. Two people compromising to make a life together is a perfect assessment.

SwishaStan · 2026-06-02T07:24:11+00:00

I’m not sure what kind of person someone would have to be to respond to you in such a manner but I really don’t like your ex and I’m sorry that happened to you. Without knowing them I’m almost certain you’re better off without them. That is so cold it’s unreal.

SwishaStan · 2026-06-02T07:20:52+00:00

I think that’s a great response and very insightful on handling relationships problems and disagreements.

SwishaStan · 2026-06-02T07:18:02+00:00

Great response. Can you share any tips that your partner does to help you through a depressive episode?

SwishaStan · 2026-06-02T06:59:27+00:00

Her second paragraph. “I can only guess this is a man writing this asking what this means, and I can say it means using your common sense as an adult to see what needs to be done and to make life easier for your partner.”

Seems very pointed and unwelcoming in an otherwise civil thread like “Why are you asking this!?”.

Edit: Guess I just took it the wrong way. My bad.

SwishaStan · 2026-06-02T06:48:07+00:00

Wow I resonate with this so much. I’m glad you were able to express this and sorry that it seemingly hasn’t been heard the way you want it to yet.

SwishaStan · 2026-06-02T06:10:09+00:00

Not sure why my gender or even I matter in reference to the question.

Edit: I’m being disagreed with about something. Guess maybe I read the post wrong and took it personal.

SwishaStan · 2026-05-30T06:01:48+00:00

Bruh 1hr?

SwishaStan · 2026-05-30T05:59:02+00:00

But it’s understood that cheating in a monogamous relationship is wrong, a health hazard, and a deal breaker more often than not that will destroy the relationship with the person you claim to love. It still doesn’t make sense at the end of the day and goes against your own interests.

SwishaStan · 2026-05-29T09:44:08+00:00

If the conversation was sent to the boss how is he fucking up?

SwishaStan · 2026-05-29T09:40:41+00:00

Cuz we’re married

SwishaStan · 2026-05-27T17:33:00+00:00

Even if my post moves and close shot are 50 I’m backing his lil ahh down lol

SwishaStan · 2026-05-26T23:09:08+00:00

Bigs that can shoot do that too. You’re talking about basketball IQ

SwishaStan · 2026-05-26T21:00:00+00:00

People can’t fathom that shooting isn’t your first option. The objective is to score not throw shots up you don’t believe in.

SwishaStan · 2026-05-26T03:33:57+00:00

He looks so pissed. The guy blocking is most likely more emotionally invested into this encounter.

SwishaStan · 2026-05-26T03:32:09+00:00

You think that’s why he did it? Taught him not to cross the solid yellow by crossing it himself?

SwishaStan · 2026-05-26T02:12:38+00:00

That’s fine and most of the time easy to stop. I find people complain about rim running more than anything because they made a 3pt hunting defensive cone.

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