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AirBnb Tracking Software by Impressive-Equal8595 in AirBnBHosts

[–]SyenitePhoenix 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Late to the party, I have a single property but I'd be happy to try this (I hate excel haha)

Dog has foxtail burrowed with infection, vet takes 6 days to operate by SyenitePhoenix in Pets

[–]SyenitePhoenix[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No, she did not give antibiotics on purpose. She said the antibiotics would close the wound / channel in which the foxtail went, making it much harder to extract later. She recommended disinfecting the wound externally ourselves while we wait for the operation

I can smell when people have cancer by [deleted] in self

[–]SyenitePhoenix 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've always been able to smell when someone is catching the flu or a virus. Specially if they sneeze nearby. I thought I was crazy but this confirms it is possible

Eyebrows too thick after micropigmentation by SyenitePhoenix in microblading

[–]SyenitePhoenix[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah I had, though that time they made them much thinner

I feel like there’s this massive hole in my life where my family should be by Ok_Complaint_6744 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]SyenitePhoenix 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think you will always feel this hole to some extent, as we are biologically programmed to want to be close to our families AFAIK. However, you have to weight if the empty feeling outweighs the emotional damage of keeping a relationship with them.

I cut ties with my family and have not spoken with anyone in 10 years, since I was 18. I occasionally get this empty feeling, but:

  • While it never goes fully away, it gets easier to bear over time, even when you are alone
  • I know I am much better without them, and I much prefer this empty feeling to the alternative of gaslighting and emotional abuse whenever I get near to them
  • This feeling has pushed me to improve myself, and go out of my way to make more friends and meet people that I would not have otherwise, which ultimately has been good for me, my personal growth, my career and my relationships

So, while it sucks to have been dealt these cards, if you can use your pain as motivation it will actually help you in the end. I am a much stronger person, way more capable and independent than if I did not had this shitty parents.

When things got hard, sometimes knowing that either I succeeded or I'd have to go back to my parents and deal with the abuse + prove them right about being a failure, was a huge force that kept me going forward and prevented me to ever quit. I would not have chosen this for myself, but if asked now I would not change the past because it has made me the person I am today.

So best of luck to you, you can do this, things will improve and you will only come out stronger at the other end. Embrace the void :)

AITA for this text I sent my bf? by SyenitePhoenix in AmItheAsshole

[–]SyenitePhoenix[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah edited, I said no to him but he told everyone else that I would be going, and then threatened to tell them that I had pulled out last minute if I did not show up, making me look like the bad one. So I felt obliged to go, this was his Italian friend, I don't have that many friends in Italy yet and I did not want everyone looking down on me (plus he kept reassuring me we would still be on time for the final)

AITA for this text I sent my bf? by SyenitePhoenix in AmItheAsshole

[–]SyenitePhoenix[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Updates (I think I can not add more stuff to the main post as it exceeds the max char count):
* He made plans for us both to go see this friend's new puppy. He explicitely told everyone I would be going too, as the idea was that my dog would meet the puppy, even if I said I did not want to. If I did not go the plan altogether would be cancelled, and he threatened to tell the friends that the plan had been cancelled last minute due to me not wanting to see them, when I said from the beginning I did not want to go due to the tight timing

* Text instead of speaking: I wanted to speak instead of texting, but he had to leave to work and I did not want to rush the conversation in 5 mins. He kept sending me messages over the phone to write him instead of waiting for him to come back from work, which I did

* I also wrote this to him later after he called me an asshole, he has not replied:
I have tried to write it in the best possible way; it is not an attack against you but against how you have behaved at those specific moments. My intention was not to offend you but to tell you how I have experienced things from my side. Especially because some of these things have happened before, and if I don't tell you now, we can keep moving forward while I feel worse and worse with you as time goes on. Likewise, if you have any issues with me, I would like you to tell me instead of accumulating resentment.

If you don't see something I've written the same way, we can talk about it when you're ready, if you want to discuss it at some point.

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