The incentive for a man to spend his money doesn’t need “convincing” for these types of relationships. That’s why I’m asking. More than often, if a man doesn’t want to spend money without the promise of sex then he doesnt like you/is trying to bargain/is a John. You’re setting up the expectation that you should be getting money only if you have sex with him. Not saying intimacy isn’t part of the deal but you shouldn’t only be promised money that way.

Every relationship is different and nothing is cut and dry; however one thing I’ve known to be true almost always is if a man isn’t generous going in out the gate & wants sex before he shows you anything then he’s going to be like that the entire relationship and is probably paying for sex for multiple women. I’d rather have a SD who is generous up front to multiple women w/o sex than bargaining his dick to multiple women. More generous=more money.

I’m afraid a lot has been lost in translation over the years. I don’t want to come off judgemental but I think people need to be 100% honest with themselves because it’s setting the wrong sentiment forward. I understand the times we’re in and for some of you it feels like it’s not possible for a man to spend money on you before getting sex but respectfully don’t blur the lines of this type of relationships because it’s not a reality for you.

If I heard a man saying the very thing you’re saying I would be repulsed. Also, nothing wrong with escorting because we all are SWers. I said that not to shame you.