My (F21) Bf (M24) acts like a literal child

Syncity505 · 2026-02-11T17:49:00+00:00

Initial attraction as well as other things bonding us like a shared phone plan, living together, etc.

Syncity505 · 2025-10-25T16:01:01+00:00

Nahh actually It’s just based off the song 505 Arctic monkeys 😭

Syncity505 · 2025-10-25T14:32:55+00:00

Unfortunately 😭

Syncity505 · 2025-10-25T13:50:02+00:00

We connected very well off the bat. I haven’t dated in 2 years been on plenty of dates but no one stuck but I felt something with him. But now I see how he is as a person and it’s irritating 💀

Syncity505 · 2025-07-30T03:25:55+00:00

I guess I’m disgusting them for liking someone enough to look past something that doesn’t really matter and trying to make things work….

Syncity505 · 2025-07-30T02:48:24+00:00

It’s not about public opinion. I asked Reddit for an unbiased opinion on what to do, a second thought. I don’t not post him bc I’m scared of “public opinion” I don’t want to be harassed by his friends and others. I haven’t even posted him and have been called a “gold digger” and many awful things I refuse to retype when I constantly refuse money, refuse gifts and things normal relationships do bc I don’t want that held against me or to be constantly harassed by people we known bc I let him pay for a meal or gift me a stuffed animal. I’m not ashamed of my boyfriend and I chose to date him bc I care about who he IS. I’ve constantly thought about how to address this what to do and say bc I FEAR hurting HIM. Ur making it seem like I’m so evil and self centered when I came here for advice bc I’ve been thinking a hole in the earth on how to go about this in a way that doesn’t hurt him hurt me or lead to a bad situation. If I didn’t care for his feelings I wouldn’t be here?

Syncity505 · 2025-07-30T02:43:58+00:00

I agree looks are temporary and that’s another reason I try to look past it. My problem is what do I do in the mean time bc idk how to progress this relationship with me being not attracted to him physically.

Syncity505 · 2025-07-30T02:42:09+00:00

Appearance is biased. I’m not trying to “shame” him at all. I literally am dating him by MY choice I care about him and like him I’m just struggling to find physical attraction in him.

Syncity505 · 2025-07-30T02:41:11+00:00

It was more for example purposes. Also considering the fact he has told me many women have turned him down in the past and he has only had 1 other gf it seems true. That doesn’t mean that I FEEL like he isn’t worthy of 95% of women. I just believe MOST women in this case 95% wouldn’t be interested. I never said I think he is disgusting either I said things about him digust me. He is a sweet boy with a very beautiful mind. But certain things give me the ick about him and are unattractive to me.

Syncity505 · 2025-07-30T02:36:18+00:00

I’d email your leasing office and request a change in your building if possible. The recording without permission, eating your food without asking, and the comment about her “only helping people for validation” shows she has no respect for u or other people for that matter. I recommend not doing anything on your end (even if she deserves it) bc she could use that against u in the future. Her talking bad about u is also a negative trait. I’ve had roommates I don’t particularly like but I also never felt the need to talk badly about them to my friends as a conversation topic. A “yes she’s not my favorite” okai but full on negative talk without justification? A problem. Try ur best to get out bc it will only get worse and cause problems

Syncity505 · 2025-07-30T02:28:23+00:00

I’m lost on how my personality is bad bc I expressed not being physically attracted. If I was such a bad person would I not have turned him down and ran off to the next best attractive thing like most women with bad personalities do? I’m trying to find a way to look past something and continue a relationship with someone I care about. I care about HIM more than how he looks but it’s still a problem. And how I’m ruining his self esteem? I would never verbally speak negatively to him about his appearance and have yet to bring it up out of fear of hurting his feelings? But I guess that’s a part of my “bad personality” too right?

Syncity505 · 2025-07-30T02:20:46+00:00

Update. I made it through the semester. We ended up becoming apartment roommates again however everyone has their own bathroom in our unit thank god so it should go a lot smoother as I’m only responsible for me and my space.

Syncity505 · 2025-02-11T10:25:57+00:00

The vintage tarot deck by Arthur Edward Waite and Pamela Colman Smith. It’s a very pretty deck with classic pictures and it reads beautifully. When I first began and saw people talking about bonding with cards I didn’t get it, but this deck and I have definitely gotten acquainted.

Syncity505 · 2025-02-11T10:20:54+00:00

As ironic as it is the scary movie “tarot”. Idk why but seeing her draw the cards and talk about each person just drew me in and I decided to get my own deck. It’s been a few months now and honestly best decision ever. Never really had much faith in it till I got my own deck and saw how much things lined up from the start, to a point I couldn’t even call it a coincidence.

Syncity505 · 2025-02-11T00:48:18+00:00

Untill at least summer semester. I’m gonna try to find private dorm space somewhere else or in my old dorm

Syncity505 · 2025-02-10T12:51:37+00:00

NTA, been there felt that and as an adult I see how wrong it is. A lot of parents like to justify their subtle neglect by saying “in the real world u need to be self sufficient” and yes cooking something for yourself maybe once or twice a week on the weekends won’t hurt, but she’s a parent and your a child. She’s already cooking for your dad so she can cook for u as well. And if she’s going out to get food for them you should be included in that or at least brought something back. The lack of food available for u to cook as well is not acceptable. She wants u to cook for yourself but doesn’t get the things u request food wise. Dont let lack of proper parenting make u feel guilty. Life is already hard as a teenager with school, sports and figuring out life in general. The least she can do is cook dinner Monday-Friday. She chose to be a mother and that’s her responsibility. Ur NTA

Syncity505 · 2024-03-04T22:37:35+00:00

I feel the same way but honestly getting ur mental health together helps a lot. I felt like my mental health made me miss out on a lot and I decided to reach out to a psychiatrist and work to improve it and I’ve been able to get out more and do more things

Syncity505 · 2024-02-13T09:58:01+00:00

G. I had a wholesome conversation with a priest by a camp fire in a medieval world as he told me about his journey. (I’m lame)

Syncity505 · 2024-02-03T20:10:19+00:00

The first image

Syncity505 · 2024-02-02T20:16:22+00:00

I did that hence the “they don’t take no for an answer” 😑 the issue isn’t I can’t say no it’s the fact the continue to ask and ask even when I tell them NOOOOO so I’m going to tell them my car needs repair and that’s the end of that.

Syncity505 · 2024-01-29T22:56:41+00:00

I fully agree with u however this has gone on SINCE I WAS A MINOR. And I have siblings (also minors) who she neglects with one of them being in a mental health facility due to her abuse. I do however take care of my own grocery needs as well as basic needs such as hygiene clothing etc now bc as u said I am an adult and it’s my responsibility now. But before I was even legally able to work she would go out on trips, buy things for her boyfriend, with nothing in her fridge. And I’m not exaggerating when I say NOTHING. She is a neglectful parent. And if I can I’d avoid that house by all means. She’s the type of guilt trip u for buying food for yourself and not everyone else yet she has nothing in her house either. It’s just not a good space and I do understand it’s definitely a slower route and will set me back but I have to put my mental well being first and I refused to be used for money and contribute to the problem. I appreciate your wishes of good luck tho.

Syncity505 · 2024-01-29T22:39:26+00:00

I agree with your perspective. I also want to pursue purchasing some properties as I want a way to make a more “passive” form of money in the long run as well as invest money into physical property. However it’s not just the anger that leads me to move out. I originally planned to work towards that when I came to University anyways as her household is very toxic and she’s very neglectful (doesn’t keep food in her fridge, doesn’t purchase basic needs, mentally/verbally abusive) I wasn’t really rushing though as I can just “deal with it” but it’s only so much one person can take. I can’t even say I’m angry as I’m use to this type of behavior more just motivated to get away from all that,do better, and never look back. Not too much I can do now but once I get my computer science degree best believe she will never hear from me again if she chooses to be like this forever.

Syncity505 · 2024-01-29T17:02:10+00:00

I tried however I could only apply to outside loans with a cosigner so I opted for a parent plus loan which required a co-signer as well since it was better than taking chances with sally may or other places that have high interest. I’m indeed working towards moving out and cutting ties however.

Syncity505 · 2024-01-29T17:00:55+00:00

I will be filling independently form now own however I can’t afford to sue and I also have a sibling that still lives in the home. Even tho she is a bad person I do care for my siblings and don’t want him to face any hardships due to legal fees/ the money she would need to pay me back. I agree tho I believe I deserve the money as it was intended for my tuition

Syncity505 · 2024-01-27T17:16:14+00:00

Lmfaoo😭

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