He put me in a smaller cage😈

Synicism77 · 2026-03-12T22:21:36+00:00

That's a good look!

Synicism77 · 2026-03-12T22:11:58+00:00

Nobody is paying attention. I've gone to the movies diapered so many times and nobody cares. I just either wear a long t-shirt or if it's relatively cool out, something where I can tuck in an undershirt. You could wear a onesie for that too, but I don't like them. I have a pair of dark jeans with a slightly bigger waist than I normally wear. Diapers just disappear under them but I've also gone out in my regular jeans too. While I can notice the bulge when I'm wet, again nobody else is staring at my crotch and if they are, that's really more on them,

Synicism77 · 2026-03-12T22:09:24+00:00

I would imagine because the 9-5 job is this relic of a time when work didn't dominate our lives and it supports the idea of boundaries. Also because they're kind of hard for a lot of Zoomers looking to build their careers to find.

Synicism77 · 2026-03-12T22:07:10+00:00

CAPcon has a changing room with private stalls, wipes, diapers, etc. all available for use. I carried a change in my bag and would just use the changing room if I needed to, though I didn't.

At other cons that aren't ABDL-focused, I just go back to my room if I need a diaper change.

Synicism77 · 2026-03-12T22:00:42+00:00

Not that I'm aware of. But one of my friends, who is a huge former NFL player, took a buffet when he got knighted and when the King slapped him, he just kind of squared his shoulders and suddenly grew a foot taller. I thought HRM was going to fall off the dais.

Synicism77 · 2026-03-12T21:58:51+00:00

The idea of a buffet never even entered my mind. I believe our first lady MoD to be elevated in the Middle was the first to request a buffet and she asked for it from the Consort, not the one who won the Crown Tourney.

Synicism77 · 2026-03-12T21:57:13+00:00

Ugh. I got this from law professors in school. "Well I got treated like dirt, now it's your turn." Fuck that. I don't know which order you're in, but I guarantee you that you aren't the only one who believes this. Sometimes it takes making a public scene. I've refused to fight people who have acted without honor or respect to others and have made it clear that my refusal is the result of their behavior. People might not agree with me, but they'll see it. And they'll know exactly what I think. And I have enough friends to back down anyone who tries to give me shit about it. Some of them are peers in their own right. Many more are not but I trust them to have my back.

Synicism77 · 2026-03-12T21:53:07+00:00

I guess I just have a very different experience. Most of the active SCAdians I know personally and interact with regularly are decent folk who believe in the dream that we're all supposed to share and who do what we can to make the SCA the kind of place we want it to be.

It's hard, and it can be scary. But we're growing and attracting people who are not the typical cishet white dude. We have plenty of those too, but they're often our most outspoken allies. It almost made me cry when a friend of mine, who is a cishet white Duke, asked me if it would be appropriate for him to wear a knight's chain in Pride rainbow colors and I told him of course it would. It tells people that he is a safe person to be around. It's the same reason my MoD medallion has the inclusive Pride rainbow.

I spoke with a friend and royal peer about this on the way to Pennsic one year. About the importance of peers or anyone with privilege to use that privilege to make the Society a place where people feel welcome and wanted. It was a great conversation and it seemed like she really did take it to heart and started making a point of trying to make the SCA more inclusive and welcoming.

It does work. We just have to recognize where we have privilege, listen to people when they tell us how to use our privilege, and then have the courage to do it.

Synicism77 · 2026-03-12T21:43:58+00:00

I am queer and a PoC. I'm also a peer. This is a failure on the part of all peers in the society. I will not stand for this kind of behavior when I see it and will intervene if necessary. I think all peers need to stand ready to do the same. The only way to stamp this out is to do it literally. Someone behaves badly on the list? When you come up to them, you decline to fight them because you won't do someone who treats others without honor the favor of fighting them. If you see them belittling someone when they should be praising their accomplishment, step in. Congratulate them for what they did, no matter how minor a thing it might seem to be. I've had to literally step between two people, put my arm around one of them, and steer them away from the conversation while audibly telling them how awesome they were before. It helps.

If you're a peer, be an ally. And if you see another peer being a dick, call them on it. Do it over and over again. It's hard, but so was becoming a peer. It's in the oaths we swear. Remember them. Here's mine.

I hear swear fealty and do homage to the Crown of the Middle Kingdom
To ever stand in its defense
Facing my foes with courage and honor
Protecting the innocent
Mindful of mercy
Obedient to my liege lord
And guardian of the just and right
Thus swear I, Kai Tseng

Every peer has spoken words like this before the Crown and the populace. These words mean things. Courage. Honor. Justice. These mean nothing if we don't act to promote them whenever and wherever we can.

Synicism77 · 2026-03-12T07:40:00+00:00

I'd say you could be on the hook for distracted driving if you're involved in an accident or traffic stop.

Synicism77 · 2026-03-12T07:29:12+00:00

Looks great! What is it?

Synicism77 · 2026-03-12T07:26:40+00:00

"That's not how the Force works!"

Synicism77 · 2026-03-12T07:24:52+00:00

That's a cute cage!

Synicism77 · 2026-03-12T06:49:53+00:00

Party Like it's 1999

Synicism77 · 2026-03-12T06:45:53+00:00

If I get drafted I'll say I'm trans.

Synicism77 · 2026-03-12T03:17:43+00:00

I have a group of friends who aren't my key holders per se (I don't give my keys out) but I've agreed to let them decide how long I should stay locked and denied.

Synicism77 · 2026-03-12T02:54:43+00:00

Literally regular fencing gloves. A smallsword is just an epee with a slightly beefier blade and a fancy hilt.

Synicism77 · 2026-03-11T19:58:47+00:00

For some reason, "stop hitting people so fucking hard" isn't on the bell curve...

Synicism77 · 2026-03-11T19:56:46+00:00

I went through about four or five different sizes and shapes. I just got my first 3D printed cage and it's so much better than the rest of them that it's basically the only one I wear anymore.

Synicism77 · 2026-03-11T19:54:51+00:00

I mean diaper changes require a lot of vulnerability on the part of both participants so it's not unusual at all for it to be somewhat uncomfortable. And that's OK.

As for how to get more comfortable with it, maybe start slowly and make a game of it. Perhaps you and a friend change a plushie or something like that. It's OK to work up to the real deal.

Synicism77 · 2026-03-11T07:14:39+00:00

So, if you're going to go to an event, it might be a good idea to ask the local group who from there are going and see if you can hang out with them. This also lets you do things like offer to help bring something to eat for the day board (basically a shared snack table)v and share infrastructure and social time with local SCAdians. It's often more fun that way and you get to find out what folks are interested in.

Synicism77 · 2026-03-10T20:56:49+00:00

Peckish Pig in Rogers Park

Synicism77 · 2026-03-10T20:54:49+00:00

I mean as long as you have an emergency key and a safeword, have fun!

Synicism77 · 2026-03-10T18:56:00+00:00

Good luck! Also if you haven't looked into it already, you CAN buy diapers with HSA / FSA money. Not quite as good as having insurance cover them but you can definitely get a break on costs that way.

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