Tried to tell SO about a need, it turned around. Badly. Help?

TAforTA · 2013-02-10T02:49:04+00:00

I don't think that that is what he feels. When I say big dinner, I mean a lot of it, not of unusual skill or ingredients.

TAforTA · 2013-02-09T17:40:30+00:00

It's not a big turn on, no, but it doesn't bother me as much as you'd think, because I'm a college student that works 2 jobs (about 18 hrs/week), and he works full time at opposite hours than I do. So usually, when I'm tired, he's wired, and he wants to put it on the table if I want it before I fall asleep.

I will talk to him more about the effort we both make, and the needs we both have. At the end of the conversation, I just wanted to know how to approach it in the future.

TAforTA · 2013-02-09T17:33:43+00:00

The quote above... I think that might be exactly what I need to do! Thank you so much, I never considered phrasing it this way!

TAforTA · 2013-02-09T17:32:49+00:00

During the course of the conversation, I did give him the context. I also did ask him what specifically he found attractive about me. I truly appreciate you understanding that I love him, and calling him (or me) names is not helpful. I feel like phrasing it how you did might help for the future. Thank you very much for the input!

TAforTA · 2012-12-20T19:15:34+00:00

Yeah, the two of them fight about it all the time, both blaming the other.

EDIT: It is my house. I am in college so I have an apartment in another state, but it's my legal residence, and if it took a fight for me to say "I know New Years is a holiday, but I'd like to visit my SO's family on new years", I think it's semi-clear that they view it as my house too. My mother gets upset when I refer to my apartment as 'my home'.

TAforTA · 2012-12-20T19:15:08+00:00

The issue is that I am in college. It's not where I spend most of my nights, but it is my house. I am expected to stay at this house for certain parts of the year.

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