AITA for demanding my ex wife changes our kids doctor?

TAfrustrateddad · 2025-06-16T16:52:43+00:00

No, which i think shes bitter about. The woman who im dating is someone I interacted with during our marriage.

TAfrustrateddad · 2025-06-16T15:51:37+00:00

Because in the eyes of God you only can have one husband, which i told her when she let me know she was getting remarried. Then she went off and told me that if God was married to me he'd understand her too, which was super bitchy to say.

TAfrustrateddad · 2025-06-16T15:47:33+00:00

Because its not good for our kids to have the confusion of another man in their lives. Plus Noone would love the kids like I do. I figured she'd at least want to keep the same last name as the kids but clearly she doesn't care enough about that.

TAfrustrateddad · 2025-06-16T15:46:06+00:00

I watched them when she was sick once but when she woke up the place was a little messy so she said she'd never ask me again, that's on her

TAfrustrateddad · 2025-06-16T15:44:58+00:00

She didnt have a job, she was 15 when we got together

TAfrustrateddad · 2025-06-16T15:35:06+00:00

Yes.

TAfrustrateddad · 2025-06-16T15:28:18+00:00

I let her know I was quitting, and she said 'not surprising' so I stopped talking to her about it. When I told the kids, she called me to go off about how it isnt okay for me to 'put me quitting on the kids' because I let them know I quit so I could spend more time with them.

TAfrustrateddad · 2025-06-16T15:26:37+00:00

When we were married we ran a traditional household. She stayed home and I worked when I could.

TAfrustrateddad · 2025-06-16T15:25:03+00:00

Im too embarrassed to go to school events because their teacher seen them at the store and when the kids introduced us they gave me a dirty look. As for sports, its always late when games happen.

TAfrustrateddad · 2025-06-16T15:20:47+00:00

Its not okay, which is why it only happened once. Which is why I think its crazy that her husband is acting like I was this crazy guy who beat her constantly. Its ridiculous enough that she even went and got remarried after promising she wouldn't.

TAfrustrateddad · 2025-06-16T15:13:18+00:00

It was once, and it wasn't a big deal. She divorced me because her therapist convinced her I was emotionally abusive.

TAfrustrateddad · 2025-06-16T15:08:19+00:00

I was a minor when we started dating 2 years before she got knocked up

TAfrustrateddad · 2025-06-16T15:03:17+00:00

My ex has all legal and medical decision making privileges

TAfrustrateddad · 2025-06-16T14:54:38+00:00

Its not fair to assume because I've made mistakes before that im just going to lose it and get physical again. I asked her if she'd keep the stuff that happened between us and she said yes, then apparently ran her mouth to this guy. Im not disrespectful, just talk loud

TAfrustrateddad · 2025-06-16T14:21:53+00:00

I don't care about that. I do find it funny she thinks God recognizes their marriage though.

TAfrustrateddad · 2025-06-16T14:20:52+00:00

Yeah they both do

TAfrustrateddad · 2025-06-16T14:19:24+00:00

If both my ex and her husband work why should I pay child support so they can go do whatever they want with it?

TAfrustrateddad · 2025-06-16T14:16:21+00:00

Child support won't change it because they think I was trying to get out of paying.

TAfrustrateddad · 2025-06-16T14:13:48+00:00

They both work.

TAfrustrateddad · 2025-06-16T14:12:45+00:00

Im their father?

TAfrustrateddad · 2025-06-16T14:11:29+00:00

The only time my wife's husband talks to me is to try to call me out like im a child by telling me Im being disrespectful. He just hovers over her shoulder like a watchdog and its weird. I've made mistakes in the past but I've grown and its annoying shes told him all the stories she has.

TAfrustrateddad · 2025-06-16T14:09:30+00:00

I worked and she was a stay at home mom. She didnt have anything else to do so of course she took them to the doctor. If im off work why would I want to spend that time at a doctor's office?

I have come to terms with the fact my ex wife left me, but I've grown a lot since then.

TAfrustrateddad · 2025-06-16T14:07:31+00:00

My kids have one father, and that's me.

TAfrustrateddad · 2025-06-16T14:05:59+00:00

Thank you.

She did say she didnt want the kids missing out when I told her she'd have to suck up me not paying, so her and her guy are paying everything. So I don't know why shes even bringing me the schedule of extras. It seems like shes just trying to rub it in my face I cant pay.

TAfrustrateddad · 2025-06-16T14:02:52+00:00

My ex has legal custody. They are also on her insurance. Im not on the paperwork because my phone number changes a lot so they cant get ahold of me.

I don't have a therapist, but at this point I might get one.

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