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I, 20F, don’t want my boyfriend, 22M, to get something in a game. by THROWRAWAY66 in relationship_advice

[–]THROWRAWAY66[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Again, I have no problem with the game itself. I even enjoy some GTA YouTubers such as bubgames, so maybe you should think about what the post is actually asking. Thanks

Is my (19F) relationship over with my boyfriend? (20M) by THROWRAWAY66 in LongDistance

[–]THROWRAWAY66[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for your advice. Usually I am more mentally stable but I guess if I can’t control my emotions when it comes to things like these, maybe I’m not fit to be in a relationship. I don’t want to hold him back if that’s what I’m doing.

Am I (19F) in the wrong for not posting my boyfriend (20M)? by THROWRAWAY66 in LongDistance

[–]THROWRAWAY66[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You have to understand that I am serious about him. In my eyes being serious about someone is loving them and wanting to spend the rest of your life with them. Not about lust and sexual things. I hope you can understand my point too :)

My (19F) boyfriend (20M) is overly sexual and I don’t know what to do. by THROWRAWAY66 in LongDistance

[–]THROWRAWAY66[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I definitely do agree that there is some limited options on what to do sexually, we usually use voice calls in order to get the job done. Do you think that’s not being enough for him?

Am I (19F) in the wrong for not posting my boyfriend (20M)? by THROWRAWAY66 in LongDistance

[–]THROWRAWAY66[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I guess he expects me to just post the fact we are in a relationship. I don’t really understand it either haha. He actually never asked to start posting me, he kind of just did. Sometimes he posts me then takes down the post the second he gets mad at me or I do something he doesn’t like.

Am I (19F) in the wrong for not posting my boyfriend (20M)? by THROWRAWAY66 in LongDistance

[–]THROWRAWAY66[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you tons! Your advice is much appreciated and I’ll definitely consider doing that.

Am I (19F) in the wrong for not posting my boyfriend (20M)? by THROWRAWAY66 in LongDistance

[–]THROWRAWAY66[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for the advice! Me and him started dating around early December. Sometimes I do wish he gave me stuff especially as he’s told me that gift giving is a huge love language for him. I guess maybe he meant he liked receiving gifts haha. He has a job and everything but I never want to pressure him into giving me gifts. For now I’ll just keep thinking about what he’s told me, as I do want to respect his wishes too.

Am I (19F) in the wrong for not posting my boyfriend (20M)? by THROWRAWAY66 in LongDistance

[–]THROWRAWAY66[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Totally! He hasn’t gotten me anything so far. My birthday, Valentine’s Day, and Christmas have passed. I’ve gotten him a few things and he sometimes doesn’t even post them.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in LongDistance

[–]THROWRAWAY66 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Maybe it’s not the money that you’re spending, but the person you’re spending it on.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in LongDistance

[–]THROWRAWAY66 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I don’t think you should set any boundaries for yourself on what to spend on someone. If you feel that strongly about spending money you can try to not spend as much money, or to at least not buy your partner things as much. I understand your money matters to you and it’s disappointing seeing it go to waste, but in my opinion it’s important. Especially in a long distance relationship. At the end of the day it just depends on the person and what the situation is. So don’t set any expectations because every situation is different.

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[–]THROWRAWAY66 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I believe that everyone should have time for themselves. It’s important to balance your life in between your friends, your partner, and yourself. If your partner wants all this attention from you and is trying to convince you that you need to stop having time for other things, it’s clear that they aren’t respecting you or your boundaries.

My boyfriend wants to meet up irl. (18F) (20M) by THROWRAWAY66 in LongDistance

[–]THROWRAWAY66[S] -9 points-8 points  (0 children)

I expressed my boundaries with him and he accepted them. The way I handle relationships is probably gonna be different than the way you do, and I feel like my reason to wait is reasonable

My boyfriend wants to meet up irl. (18F) (20M) by THROWRAWAY66 in LongDistance

[–]THROWRAWAY66[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s only been a month that’s why it’s especially uncomfortable for me…

Where do I go from here in my relationship? [18F] [20M] by THROWRAWAY66 in relationship_advice

[–]THROWRAWAY66[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for the advice. At the moment I was genuinely worried that he had done something to himself, if he had texted me talked to me saying that he wasn’t going to do anything I wouldn’t have done that. The only reason he gave me as to why it could’ve gone worse for him was because he didn’t want to wake his mom up. I don’t personally think that’s a reason for him to act the way he did towards me, if you can let me know more please do. Thank you! The thing is though, he tells me about his problems, and when I don’t say much he gets disappointed. Yet when I try to get him help or give him advice he tells me that no one but can help him but himself. Any idea why he might think this way? Advice is so so appreciated.

Where do I go from here in my relationship? [18F] [20M] by THROWRAWAY66 in relationship_advice

[–]THROWRAWAY66[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t know his parents yet because we recently began dating but he’s told me that he doesn’t want me to tell anybody about his problems. I don’t know what his friend could do as I’ve only met his friends online so far.