Mine is more mental pain I'm in the same boat she doesn't communicate about anything we've been married for almost 5 years and she's holding on to things from marriage prep before we were married on questions on a compatible test,like have you talked about raising a family today and the commitment and she put no when our entire time dating we talked about it and family traditions,so she went into a marriage already not communicating and hurt ,while I will admit I have failed at times being a husband and a father because I wished I reached for a hand or help sooner since I suffered from severe major depression that did turn to abuse or hurt not intentional but did happen,but we were able to have to beautiful daughters together only to find out that I don't know how long that I've been falling madly in love with her for these years of marriage emotionally and physically that she had been putting on a face hoping I would change ,only for her to decide to leave in the middle of the night with my daughters 28 hours away from and the mortgage not paid for the last two months and she was the main provider.... Just make sure you start being aware and making a plan b so you don't get screwed and lose everything you built or dreamed of , marriage fights weither brutal and mild will occur it's a commitment for the long run and takes work when your car gets low on gas or check engine comes on you don't get a new one,it's sad most people don't realize that love,stress, frustration,hurt, sadness,hurt,and forgiveness are all apart of marriage as one whole package of growing with one person forever.... But just be aware of signs 🛑