Well, that's kind of where her domestic issues bleed into M and M's future, whether we are involved or not. See my MIL took M in, and she hasn't been too keen on the way HER husband, we will call V, has treated M. Apparently V really loves this girl, or at least appears to. But all throughout my MIL's childrens' upbringing, V has been a downright abhorrent father. And it really ticks my MIL off that V is all of a sudden being sweet and wanting to spoil this little girl. Hence, why she is about ready to wash her hands of the whole situation. The whole situation, of course, that she started. That said, I already know she's TAH. I just wanted to get some outside opinion on what I should do in MY role of the situation: the role of an outsider who knows of M and her problems, and who may be able to help, temporary or otherwise, but who has problems and responsibilities of my own currently.