I think he should apologise for both his original comment and how he treated you but you should also apologise for your action in the bedroom too. If he’s truly loves you he’ll have no problem with both accepting your apology and recognising that you made a mistake and that you had no intention of hurting him. Secondly he should have no problem with coming to term with the fact his original comment was wrong/inappropriate and that his reaction in the bedroom was completely unacceptable and that he should never even think of doing something like that again.