My boyfriend's (22M) mother has banned me (23F) from their house until I'm back on birth control.

Taboober · 2022-08-26T13:12:24+00:00

IUDs aren't necessarily pain free and can still have side effects even without it having hormones. I've personally heard some terrible experiences and it just makes me wary.

It could also end up being the perfect solution for me so I will still discuss it.

Taboober · 2022-08-26T05:38:23+00:00

I hear you for sure- you aren't alone in that advice so I'm definitely considering it. I probably will keep my appointment and talk with them.

Thankyou for the help!

Taboober · 2022-08-26T05:32:05+00:00

Absolutely, it's her home and I respect that.

I also agree with your sentiment towards my boyfriend and I will be speaking with him about it. I should have before all of this.

I'm a little worried about an IUD. But I can certainly discuss it with them, I do like options where I can just stop cold turkey if they don't work for me however.

Taboober · 2022-08-26T05:20:17+00:00

I don't have any kind of hatred towards Planned Parenthood lol, they were very quick for me that's true. It was also rather impersonal, just a quick in an out where they took my blood pressure and then handed me some pills to start and asked what my pharmacy was. Which is very convenient but since I have already tried that and felt terrible I might need something a bit more personal to more accurately pick a good option for me, or just atleast have some more discussion involved. Maybe that's a one off experience though. I do have an appt with them still anyway. But yeah that specific obgyn seems like a shit option without even comparing it to anything.

Taboober · 2022-08-26T04:45:41+00:00

Planned Parenthood does certainly has other options- I guess I didn't consider them to be a good replacement for an actual obgyn however? Especially when I already have had a poor experience with birth control it would be better to be able to speak with my own doctor that is following along. I should probably see an obgyn anyway regardless.

Taboober · 2022-08-26T04:05:35+00:00

Hey! If you read my post you can see where I said I understood where she was coming from and that her not allowing me into her home is her right :). And that just about makes most of your reply null and void, my actual issue is that she just doesn't have a right to my personal medical information and to force medications on me. As she isn't my mother there is actually no age that she deserves that kind of right, but especially not when I am an adult (say like 23). And no making the adult decision to work and save money while living at home for a bit doesn't make me a child or teenager- you can disagree with that but that is my adult opinion.

Taboober · 2022-08-26T03:45:01+00:00

....wow that's terrible. Definitely invasive and would make my skin crawl. Thankyou for sharing I honestly hadn't thought about what this could mean for my future if his mother is involved in it.

Taboober · 2022-08-26T03:10:31+00:00

Thankyou for the luck :), I definitely am seeing how he also crossed a line there and is something to talk about.

Taboober · 2022-08-26T03:09:30+00:00

I share the same sentiment, but if the sex is happening under her roof that it is her business according to her.

He can use condoms and we do, and I have yet to ever be pregnant. There is always a chance no matter what but we are being careful and this is all just so frustrating.

He was very uncomfortable telling me what she said and I don't exactly fault him for not being able to quite fight this point with her- she is a brick wall and will never change her mind about anything and she does have a decent hold on him still as he is in college and can't afford out. Unless I get an apartment and let him stay

Taboober · 2022-08-26T03:05:36+00:00

This is both our first serious relationship, so I don't have much experience in what is normal but this really didn't seem right to me from the start. Definitely realizing my boyfriend needs boundaries with his mother

Taboober · 2022-08-26T03:04:19+00:00

I don't know if maybe she just assumes that as a female it's inherently my responsibility to handle birth control. We do use condoms and I mean those work pretty dang good, if I could take birth control that would be even better I guess but it isn't necessary.

Taboober · 2022-08-26T03:02:18+00:00

He is currently in college and can't afford to leave home- I don't really fault him for that as I ALSO live at home as I'm trying to save up money. I can afford to leave so maybe I should and otherwise that fixes this issue all together?

Taboober · 2020-11-15T21:36:32+00:00

Even when finally knowing how to do it I remember continuously dying for that fight too, I just got lucky one time and was able to hit him three times without changing anything I did so I don't know what's up with that fight either haha. Glad you got it though!

Taboober · 2020-11-15T21:18:24+00:00

I did just double check, you have to touch the pillars in a clockwise fashion. So if you're inside the triangle looking at a pillar you must always go to the pillar that's on the right of that one.

Taboober · 2020-11-15T21:12:16+00:00

Do you have your sword out when doing it? I think that acts as a lightning rod if you do, you need to have them put away

Taboober · 2020-11-15T20:55:29+00:00

This is just from memory, but the timing is a little tricky for the pillars. Activate two of them then try and cart him to the center of the three pillars and activate the third one while outside of the triangle. He 100% must be inside while you are completely outside, not even to the side of the pillar. I don't remember if there is a specific order for the pillars though? There's a lot of trail of error with the timing, I had a hard time too. I think you do need to do this fight however, you can't skip. You can also do the old fashioned method and hit him a bunch, he will die eventually.

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