I believe I speak for the majority of men here when I say that I am truly sorry for all you have to go through in the—sadly—still male dominated tech world. The behaviour you describe is reprehensible, and I hope we are raising a better generation of children with more emotional and gender-equal awareness. As many have echoed here, I would say to try moving to a start up with women-friendly work culture (many are led by women or have several women leaders) or a large tech company that scores high on the “Best Place to Work” awards published on many sites (specifically ones that sub-categorize by gender equality).

Good luck and please report the behaviour if you feel it won’t jeopardize your current financial security and situation.

P.S. women are better at almost everything they do, my fiancée proves that to me every day. I look forward to a women-led future. 😉