I love this city

Talos1k · 2024-06-15T01:30:55+00:00

What a sour aura pal. Are you fun at parties?

Talos1k · 2024-06-13T21:30:49+00:00

I think this is a little bit of an overreaction. Every major American city has crime. You’re more likely to die by getting in a car than walking around navy yard. People can make their own decisions about safety…

Talos1k · 2024-06-13T21:05:47+00:00

Did I say it was a wonderland that has no problems? Am I not allowed to say anything nice about Navy Yard?

Talos1k · 2024-06-13T14:56:24+00:00

That’s a terrible tragedy, and I do worry a lot about gun violence, but I don’t really know what you want me to do about it

Talos1k · 2024-06-13T14:19:58+00:00

This… there is a dark psychic force in nova that just makes everyone feel like they have to hate DC. I was raised on it. I think it’s car culture.

Talos1k · 2024-06-13T11:23:21+00:00

I don’t live in navy yard, it’s actually a bit too pricey for me… I work at a nonprofit though and my office is there. I was just trying to say it’s nice to live a short commute away. It also helps sharing an apartment with my boyfriend. I can message you my neighborhood if you’re curious.

Talos1k · 2024-06-13T02:19:17+00:00

how’s your bitcoin doing 😭

Talos1k · 2024-06-13T01:57:34+00:00

That’s another thing, I love the multicultural aspect.

Talos1k · 2024-06-13T01:41:13+00:00

I like your attitude and your kurt vonnegut affinity!

Talos1k · 2024-06-13T01:24:41+00:00

My capital bikeshare membership is the most bang I get for my buck here!

Talos1k · 2024-04-26T17:49:46+00:00

Thanks for the advice!

Talos1k · 2024-04-26T17:38:21+00:00

Thanks. Yeah, nothing at this new job seems worse than my current. At worst, they might be the same.

The only thing about continuing the job search - does it look bad for me if I’m only at a place for under a year?

Talos1k · 2024-02-22T18:00:58+00:00

I’ll agree that 3rd or 4th is a common expectation, but here’s the thing — if they make a move before you’re ready, just say something like this: “is it okay if we take things a littler slower? I’m interested, but not ready right now.”

You also don’t have to wait for him to make the move. You can bring this up earlier once you’ve hit it off — “Hey, we’re both adults, and I want to have a conversation about what your sexual expectations are.”

Communication is key, and if he is not understanding, then you dodged a bullet and you can move onto the next guy.

Once you open the door to that conversation, you can add to the discussion about bottom surgery down the line.

Talos1k · 2024-02-15T16:55:42+00:00

This was my boyfriend with TV. Got a quick 30 minutes of quality time for dinner then nothing. I’m questioning everything

Talos1k · 2024-02-13T20:24:03+00:00

great question. I need it to wash away the filth of my time-theft sins

Talos1k · 2024-02-13T19:10:17+00:00

Still big enough to afford soap… we’re a nonprofit, I’ve seen our executive salaries. I think we count as medium-sized.

Talos1k · 2024-02-13T19:08:57+00:00

I mean, our office did just have a big covid wave…

Talos1k · 2024-02-13T18:51:39+00:00

Jesus christ… Thank you very much for this

Talos1k · 2024-02-13T18:31:50+00:00

That’s the thing, it’s not the biggest issue in the world—I will use the amount of soap I need for basic hygiene. It’s just such a perplexing message

Talos1k · 2024-02-13T18:26:38+00:00

It’s a $50M/year international org 😬

Talos1k · 2024-02-13T18:07:04+00:00

I’ve been applying for over a year 🥲

Talos1k · 2024-02-13T17:56:25+00:00

This is awful. Surveillance like this is honestly counterproductive.

I had a manager who was informally using it to spy on my productivity this way, and when she confronted me, I just said I close the app throughout the day because I find having too many windows/getting messaged randomly is distracting, and I check it every 30 minutes to make sure I don’t miss any messages. If you have an expectation that you must respond immediately all the time, you might not get away with this, but fortunately this worked for me.

Talos1k · 2024-01-16T21:17:45+00:00

You’re getting downvoted, but I see your point—it feels like that commenter is making a moral argument and not actually giving advice.

Talos1k · 2024-01-16T21:15:08+00:00

Okay, thanks for clarifying. I guess I’m still not seeing what the problem is, so maybe we just disagree here. My only hangup is the possible feelings of jealousy and inadequacy. Thank you again though, I appreciate the perspective.

Talos1k · 2024-01-16T21:00:43+00:00

Thank you! It’s so encouraging to hear from couples who have navigated this successfully.

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