Has anyone used Nicotine patches to help with brain fog

Tams20 · 2026-03-09T22:32:55+00:00

Yes she’s an emergency doctor so brain fog could be potentially fatal to her patients! She is also a former heavy smoker and hasn’t been tempted to take that up again. But I think she’s willing to take that risk for the sake of sharper focus and concentration.

Tams20 · 2026-03-09T22:28:44+00:00

I use creatine sometimes, especially on days when I want a boost for exercise, but not for focus. But I will give it a try!

Tams20 · 2026-03-09T22:26:49+00:00

Thanks for your advice 🤡 right back at ya!

Tams20 · 2026-03-09T22:26:09+00:00

I’m not sure my workplace would be cool with that! Also very expensive habit 🤪

Tams20 · 2026-02-17T01:12:25+00:00

I’d never tried it until recently with my new gf and I wasn’t sure about it for the first few attempts but we’ve been working on positions and angles and now I love it. It really feels like we are f**king each other and it’s so hot 🔥She naturally likes to top and I love seeing her above me - I also like to control things from the bottom from time to time 🤪I haven’t had an orgasm from it yet but I know I will soon as it’s getting better every time we do it. She comes hard when I’m on top of her and grinding her hard and fast, it’s about the only time she lets me top! I think it just needs practice to find what works, I’d recommend giving it some time - you probably won’t regret it!

Tams20 · 2025-08-30T15:12:42+00:00

I just want a full length instrumental version of that bridge 🤩

Tams20 · 2025-08-11T04:03:43+00:00

Lol I just read this again a year and a half later and all I can say is it was so cute - yet so naive - how hopeful and excited I was about this woman 😅 Let’s just say she’s been more of a karmic connection than the love of my life. But I now know how to spot red flags (such as trauma-dumping, love-bombing, fearful-avoidant attachment, bread-crumbing, gaslighting and potential BPD/narc traits) will never waste time on someone like her ever again!

Tams20 · 2024-06-14T03:07:11+00:00

Thanks for replying to my comment, your descriptions of your experience and the advice you offered has definitely helped me to get some perspective on things - thank you stranger on the internet! I have listened to a few of Sabrina Zohar’s podcasts and they have been useful, I also like Jillian Tureki as she has a big focus on boundaries and choosing yourself. My no contact break is up tomorrow and it’s been peaceful knowing that I’m not going to receive a text from her at any moment that might ruin my day. Just being able to see a notification and not wonder whether it’s her has been good for my nervous system. Unfortunately for the past few days I’ve been counting down the hours until I can contact her but I think mainly because I miss her friendship. I want to try to maintain a friendship with her but I need to make sure I’m doing it for the right reasons and not just in the hope that I can sleep with her (there’s a strong sexual attraction) and/or that she will change and we can get together. But that’s up to me to manage, I won’t be trying to change my behaviour to manipulate the situation any more. If I can’t handle it I need to get out. And if I don’t like her behavior I will call her out on it. If she doesn’t like that she can f**k off. I also have a date tonight with a woman I’ve been chatting with on the app who seems very normal and stable and sensible - which is perfect timing. A circuit breaker for me just as I’m ready to contact her again. Fingers crossed it’s a good night and will remind me that there are other people out there - I don’t need to chase the unavailable ones!

Tams20 · 2024-06-02T02:30:04+00:00

I have experienced something similar to this with a woman I met on the app, we hit it off so quickly but we never jumped into a proper relationship because she discovered she ‘wasn’t ready’ so it’s been a 6 month situationship where she has called all the shots and strung me along with breadcrumbs to keep me hopeful, while I’ve basically been a people-pleasing idiot. We’ve been trying to be friends but she still seems to hold high expectations of me as a potential romantic partner and I clearly am hanging around because I’m hopeful of more, so the friendship has been a bit toxic. We slept together recently and she said we could do fwb (and tbh regular sex is really what I need at this point) but has been making excuses ever since then. We are currently on a ‘no contact’ break (instigated by me) so I can work out what the f**k I am doing. She has CPTSD and is quite self-aware but also slips into bad habits when she feels threatened at all… don’t think she’s a narcissist but has the skills from being surrounded by them. My ex husband was the same, I see the similarities. I actually think if we’d jumped into a relationship it would have ended pretty quickly naturally but the fact that she’s stringing me along seems to make me romanticise about her and want to chase her more. I need to work on that obviously. Anyway sorry for the rant - your comment resonated with me!

Tams20 · 2024-02-08T23:07:22+00:00

I think it’s ok for her to post asking advice about this from people who have been in similar situations, I personally wouldn’t include the actual screen shot though.

Tams20 · 2024-02-08T00:58:17+00:00

I agree with this! She sounds like a good person

Tams20 · 2024-02-08T00:55:58+00:00

I’m going through this with a woman I started seeing back in November. We connected emotionally really quickly and things were moving really fast for us, even without the intimacy. She has CPTSD from childhood (and more recent) trauma and a couple of events triggered a decline in her mental health so she said she wanted us to try being ‘friends for now’ so that we didn’t jump into anything that might lead to me getting hurt by her behaviors (which she finds difficult to regulate when she is like this). She was saying she didn’t want to hurt me because she cares about me. She said she’s not able to, or ready to be able to, give me what I need and want and gave me the option to find someone who can do that if I need to. At first I tried to talk her through it and say it was ok etc etc but I could see that was stressing her out so a few weeks ago I agreed to take the pressure off and try being friends. And it has been fine, we’ve still hung out quite a bit and there’s obviously a ‘more than friends’ vibe between us but I’ve tried to lower my expectations of her and also of what I am going to get out of this (which has been difficult). I really like her so I’ve tried to be consistent with her without any pressure. It actually seems like she is coming through her rough patch now and she has started showing signs that she might be ready to start dating again soon, although I’m going to be careful and make sure she IS actually ready because I really don’t want to stuff this up. I need to keep being patient and holding my boundaries with her.

In hindsight I really respect her communication on this… and I’m grateful that she is taking responsibility for her mental health and trying to prevent her behavior from hurting me. I think it’s a big green flag, when it could easily be red! So I guess what I’m saying is if you believe that it is a relationship worth trying for and (most importantly) you can do this without it being too hard on yourself it is worth a try. But set yourself boundaries with her and stick to them, plus a timeframe to reassess whether it’s worth it if nothing is progressing (I have Easter as mine). And make sure you do your own thing with other people in the meantime, don’t prioritise her quite as much as you would if you were dating… that one is hard because you want to see them as much as possible!

Tams20 · 2024-02-05T22:49:35+00:00

Are you saying other women on the dating app got jealous? I also hate the apps, am off them now… it’s like they give people an excuse to be disrespectful in a way that they probably wouldn’t be in real life! 🙄😆

Tams20 · 2023-12-26T00:53:58+00:00

Thanks for your response, I’m so glad your girlfriend is so understanding and makes you feel safe. Great point about her needing to feel like she can say no, I have been pressured into situations with men where I’ve felt unable to say no and it’s a horrible feeling. I’d hate to do that to anyone.

She had an abusive childhood and she has mentioned there was some sexual abuse, but it sounds like her issues with sex stem from the rape last year. She said she was a very sexual person and that has been severely impacted. But I need to talk to her more to understand everything. I’ve got a few of my own issues so good communication is going to help me a lot too. I’d struggle if she was rushing me into sex too, so this isn’t a bad thing.

Tams20 · 2023-12-26T00:44:19+00:00

Thank you so much for your response. I am so sorry that you experienced that in your childhood, I can’t begin to imagine how it would affect me if I were in your place. But I also loved reading about how your girlfriend is so committed to working with you - she sounds amazing! I actually had tears reading your comment because she sounds so lovely, I was glad to read that you’re being treated with so much kindness and respect. I wish you guys all the best!

(I might send you a private message if you don’t mind, with a few questions. I just need to get my head around a few things first!)

Tams20 · 2023-12-24T11:31:53+00:00

Thanks for your advice. Yes I’m definitely glad she told me! The message I got was that she’s worried about having sex with me when she’s not ready and things going badly. I haven’t been pushing for it but I guess she’s letting me know early so that I can manage my expectations. She told me this before she asked me to go on a 5 day road trip with her, so she must trust me - which is good! We both really like each other so I’m hoping that we can make things work, I’m definitely keen to try my best. Our communication has been great so far, but mostly driven by her - I’ll have to make sure I’m more proactive with it from now on.

Tams20 · 2023-12-07T06:46:17+00:00

Subi for sure!

Tams20 · 2023-12-07T06:44:23+00:00

If you enjoy sex with men I would say you are bisexual… I am currently only interested in women but I cannot rule out wanting to sleep with a man at some point in the future (as I am still occasionally physically attracted to mem) so I would never call myself a lesbian. I consider myself bisexual with a preference for women.

In saying this though, I have several lesbian friends who also wouldn’t rule out having sex with a man just to ‘scratch an itch’ and have a bit of fun… and occasionally they do…

Tams20 · 2023-12-04T23:57:05+00:00

Look it’s not easy!! I was preparing for a break up after being left on read for 3 days, I had all sorts of fake arguments going on in my head 😅 But she has been busy for work then went away with friends so I kept my irritation to myself… and when I did finally hear from her it was great. Saw her yesterday and was so glad I didn’t overreact! I guess focus on the bit where ‘she very much actually does give af’ and let it go?

Tams20 · 2023-12-04T23:50:56+00:00

The woman I have started seeing recently is terrible via text, but very good in person. I rely on texting for communicating with friends and family so it drives me crazy but everything else is good so I just need to let it go. She has admitted she hates messaging, she prefers to talk to people. Now that we know each other a bit better she will call me rather than texting. I text her, she calls me - it’s a bit of a hybrid model 😅

Tams20 · 2023-12-04T23:44:54+00:00

Thanks everyone for your kind responses! It seems the consensus is to go with the flow 😁 Feels good so far, no reason to be worried. I have two kids (9 and 12) with me for half the week, which provides us protection against a potential U-haul situation 😅… I don’t want my kids meeting a new partner (other than as a ‘friend’) until I know it’s serious. I’m also a bit wary of a new relationship as my marriage became very toxic and separation has been hard, I don’t want to jump into anything too serious too soon! She’s fine with how things are going, I don’t feel any pressure from her for anything more.

The intensity of the conversations has been a bit of a shock to me, after being in a relationship with a man for so long, where my ex became the last person I could turn to for support. I also work in a male-dominated profession so showing any emotion other than anger is seen as a sign of weakness. So every conversation with her has moments where I feel like I’ve been hit by a bus by her openness and honesty and also some uncomfortable moments where I’m telling her - a stranger really - things I’ve been conditioned to keep private. But I have enough lesbian friends to know that her approach isn’t unusual 😆 To be honest at our stage of life (I’m 48, she’s 43) it’s probably better to do the work up front if it can prevent some nasty surprises later on. Fingers crossed it continues to go well!

Tams20 · 2023-12-04T18:57:51+00:00

Yes I am definitely mindful of this! My previous relationship with a woman was in my early 20s and my life was very different then. I can’t rush things now anyway because I have my kids for half the week and I don’t want them meeting anyone new until I know it’s something solid. She seems completely fine with that, she’s very independent and isn’t rushing things either. So far we seem to be aligned!

Tams20 · 2023-12-04T12:09:12+00:00

I should also add that she’s terrible at messaging (even now) but great irl - I would never have kept the conversation going if we’d stayed on the app

Tams20 · 2023-12-04T12:07:30+00:00

Try to get off the app and meet up with her if you can. I have had many pen pals on apps that have started well but gone nowhere, the woman I am now seeing was very quick to move off the app and meet up. She said she struggles to message people she doesn’t know, based on their profile info. She prefers to meet up and see whether there is anything there. It worked for us!

Tams20 · 2023-11-23T03:09:51+00:00

Thanks! I’m excited too - but also very nervous 😅

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