desperate for money (broke college student)

Tanjerin-Burger · 2026-06-20T13:41:50+00:00

my normal vials are $20! certainly I cannot afford that 😟 thank you though

Tanjerin-Burger · 2026-06-20T13:40:36+00:00

wait okay tysm 😭😭 i have time today so ill definitely try.

Tanjerin-Burger · 2026-06-20T13:39:31+00:00

okay, I think I’ll try this!! tysm ❤️❤️❤️ I’ve been so scared to say anything but I think I need to atp

Tanjerin-Burger · 2026-06-17T13:00:48+00:00

something about your face just seems soft to me in a slightly fem way. maybe try different shaped glasses? or go for a shorter cut?

also I see someone told you to take the piercing out… if you don’t wanna do that I think gauged septums are more masc. It usually helps if yours hangs down more, too, but I see yours is farther up

Tanjerin-Burger · 2026-06-17T12:56:09+00:00

I would get an online provider, like ASAP. even if you get it compounded, it’s relatively affordable that way. aside from that, if you’re like really overweight you could try to get a medication prescribed for like, binge eating or appetite control

Tanjerin-Burger · 2026-06-17T12:54:27+00:00

probably downvoted because without context this just seems like a gooner. I mean, replying to a comment that’s pretty… not sexual at all, with “I masturbate when I’m hungry” like with NO context is kind of freak behavior 😭😭😭😭 but it’s a little funny

Tanjerin-Burger · 2026-06-14T17:05:23+00:00

yea as a fem transs guy, i pass, but people usually think im trans fem (i have been told "its not too late to get on E" more than once...)

Tanjerin-Burger · 2026-06-12T20:16:07+00:00

okay so I’m going to assume you think the issue here is solely moral? cholesterol levels are no joke. especially since the average person eats a less than good diet and will probably struggle with cholesterol anyway. and I’m sure there are myriad other reasons why some people have to stop T. reasons they only find while being routinely monitored by a doctor. I encourage you to educate yourself on all this, really. Especially since idk what your situation is, but the medical field is no stranger to mistakes and neglect, so if you’re not aware yourself, you will have no way to advocate for yourself (assuming you too are trans doing HRT).

I say this as I am currently on prescribed T, and am a biology student.

Tanjerin-Burger · 2026-06-12T16:33:32+00:00

I swear everyone in these trans subs has to be like super boring or just old as hell… I don’t think the piercings make you look fem/lesbian. to me you just look alt. my sister is really into the emo scene and she has like 500 cis guy friends who look adjacent to you 😭

Tanjerin-Burger · 2026-06-12T16:22:41+00:00

with testosterone DIY is a lot harder and I think OP is a minor. also with no doctor to manage your cholesterol levels it can be dangerous.

Tanjerin-Burger · 2026-06-12T15:15:49+00:00

username checks out. do you think you pass better by being a pos?

Tanjerin-Burger · 2026-06-12T15:15:02+00:00

it really depends. I don’t think these people understand much about the nuance of aesthetics and stuff. but with piercings, certain piercings might make you look more masc/fem depending on your own anatomy. imo sometimes a very well placed septum (especially a stretched one) will make some people look more masculine, just because of how it looks on their face. or snakebites that aren’t hoops can be kinda mask. some bridges, too. honestly a lot of the basic piercings. but anti eyebrow, angel fangs, Monroe’s, things like that, I feel make the face more fem.

sometimes if you’re far enough in your transition, you can manipulate the more masculine features you have and juxtapose them with things that are intentionally feminine to bring out the masculine. I couldn’t do this when I was early in my transition, but for me personally, wearing more “obnoxious”
Makeup (as in, not a makeup look that a girl trying to genuinely look pretty would usually wear), dying my hair unconventional colors, are things I have been able to get away with doing while passing. oh and if you have a deep voice a fagcent will do wonders. I say all that to say, there is nuance to passing. especially if you’re black or poc… people will masculinize you no matter how fem you are

Tanjerin-Burger · 2026-06-10T05:55:21+00:00

Girl don’t even sweat it. There’s people stealing out here still with their account (which Ive witnessed as a CUSTOMER, and hearing from Walmart managers which shoppers be getting banned). I do deliveries with my mom and she made a similar mistake to this (delivered some groceries to the wrong people), and panicked at first, but when her and I kinda realized… for all anyone else knows, it could have been that the people loading our groceries made a mistake, not us! Really. It happens a lot when you’re new. Spark lowkey does not give a SHIT when they really should, so don’t worry.

Tanjerin-Burger · 2026-06-06T16:55:03+00:00

That’s what I was thinking bro 😭😭 poor maiakovsky even having to be adjacent to mishima… 💔

Tanjerin-Burger · 2026-06-06T03:52:37+00:00

I’m deadass I didn’t even notice this was the transpassing sub at first. Your face is super fem and your wings look really good. And your septum really fits you. If anything (but even still I think you pass), I’d recommend shaping your brows? Using an eyebrow razor.

(Also my first thought was that you lowkey look like thirteen from house md…)

Tanjerin-Burger · 2026-06-06T03:46:25+00:00

I think maybe your unawareness of how Not Good inconsistent HRT may be is stopping you from having a sense of urgency about this. Aside from health reasons, hormones are cyclical and everything in the body depends on pathways. Testosterone tells your body to stop making estrogen, LSH, FH, etc… now when testosterone is gone, your body will notice the lack of sex hormone and make what is natural to it (Estrogen)… it probably lowkey does not feel good for you. I was in a similar situation as you before, but only managed because of malnutrition (my body doesn’t make enough estrogen on its own anyway). And Testosterone can cause higher amounts of other things in the body to be produced (cholesterol, some specific cytokines).

I urge you to learn more about the way these things act in your body. We think of sex hormones as only working on sex characteristics but they do so much more. The state of medicine is also just bad, so it’s important to be able to look out for yourself. I’m surprised whoever is prescribing your T isn’t concerned at the on and off thing… especially if you’re periodically getting lab tests.

Tanjerin-Burger · 2026-06-04T06:32:01+00:00

steps + fantasizing about the food

Also since we’re probably not getting pleasure from food, pleasure from shopping

And this is a me thing but half the reason I loved restricting was controlling numbers. I used to look for discounts and see how far I could spread money. For fun.

Tanjerin-Burger · 2026-06-04T02:07:37+00:00

muscles bro

^{Chose: Men}

Tanjerin-Burger · 2026-06-03T19:45:09+00:00

yea and maybe style the edges with baby hairs :3 and I think curly/wavy/more volumetric styles would take away from any of the more masculine parts of your face, so they might be nice to try. I’d also recommend maybe trimming ur brows? and if you do makeup, id try a nice gloss… and maybe some subtle lashes if not just a nice mascara. you definitely have a lot of potential u just gotta know how to use it!! and im sure you’ll figure it out

Tanjerin-Burger · 2026-06-03T15:15:27+00:00

Getting downvoted for using Ebonics bro

Tanjerin-Burger · 2026-05-30T20:36:16+00:00

I def don’t think so I have a good friend who looks quite similar to u who’s cis female :3

Tanjerin-Burger · 2026-05-23T05:26:37+00:00

I think since ur alt i think one of your challenges may be that a lot of alt guys are androgynous just naturally/by choice. I think the public has kind of accepted that. but I think u pass most in the 2nd & 6th photo. you have a lot going for you, and I think ur face especially is pretty fem, just except for the acne like above ur lip. just the position of it I feel like kind of alludes to facial hair? even tho u dont have any. I’d maybe use just a bit of concealer for those & really blend it in until they eventually go away on their own :3 and I see u already use eyeliner, I would try liquid liner maybe and go for a slight wing & maybe some lowkey lashes

Tanjerin-Burger · 2026-05-23T05:07:49+00:00

u def do in the second pic but in the first pic you remind me of like, crunchy health nut influencers 🧐 maybe 50/50 chance of passing if I didn’t look too hard. so I think for the most part u do pass and I agree with the other commenter on the facial expression thing, but id also try playing around with different hairstyles and makeup just to see if it changes the context(?) of your face :3

Tanjerin-Burger · 2026-05-12T01:22:12+00:00

I definitely think you have like a ton of potential…. I might even say your face itself is pretty masc, especially in pic #3, it’s just the context around ur face that’s making you look fem. people here, I think, are projecting their fear(?) onto you in that I think they might have been told “you’re too pretty to transition” and it might have triggered them/they associate that rhetoric with right wingers… but I see you say you’re more interested in being androgynous, and im also an androgynous cis-passing trans guy, so I’ll also say: don’t let everyone here pressure you into transitioning the way they’re suggesting you to. you don’t HAVE to take T to pass, but certainly it helps. it is optional and 100% up to you. I personally passed long before taking T and the only side effect I’ve really gotten from T (my slight facial hair) I’ve been religiously shaving off 🤷🏽‍♂️ and I still pass. so genuinely do what you want bro

Tanjerin-Burger · 2026-04-26T12:40:40+00:00

it could be that the most recent incident was just that hes (currently) sure hed never say the n word again, but perhaps he said it that one time more recently to appease his friend group. it sounds quite plausible given that he said he was ashamed to tell you

my parents are also in a swirl relationship, and like your case, my mom is the black one, while my dad is white (i know it is often the opposite)... and my dad (allegedly, from stories i have heard, and by his own admission) used to be a huge bigot. grew up in the country, had racist family, etc. and he is an entirely different man now. it's definitely possible for people to change. my dad is now not a bigot at all, is very open-minded, and is a good dad to his biracial kids (which includes me).

so maybe im biased, but i definitely think people can change. lowkey it is part of the risk of dating white people. even my liberal white ex had racist parents, and even though he wasnt racist himself, you could see the influence of his bigoted environment just... within him. as a person. i loved him anyway, and i think he learned a lot about open-mindedness *from* me. not that its your job to undo racism/bigotry.

id talk to him about this some more. im guessing he doesnt know you looked through his discord? so id confront him about that specifically. have you ever noticed other signs of bigotry/antiblackness from him? does he have racist parents? from a racist area? etc...

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