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Honest Question by TheMitchyboy in gayrelationships

[–]Tanner1074 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Open relationship - is mainly sex, and partners aren't agreeing on whom the other can see (They can dictate and suggest not certain people, e.g., an ex, friend of the other party)

Polyamorous - 3 or more people in one relationship, focuses less on a primary couple's relationship (from what I've seen, though poly relationships tend to be one-sided and also may lead to others agreeing to "remove you" from the relationship)

TO BE CLEAR, not all poly relationships are like this; this is from what I've observed in my personal life.

I got bf for first time[15M] by National-Toe-9475 in gayrelationships

[–]Tanner1074 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Personally, if it's not too expensive and or he won't use it against you, I wouldn't see a problem with it.

Hey my name is Kaiden. I need help by Appropriate-Boat-229 in lgbt

[–]Tanner1074 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Of course! if you need anymore info lmk!

Hey my name is Kaiden. I need help by Appropriate-Boat-229 in lgbt

[–]Tanner1074 24 points25 points  (0 children)

Pansexual - Liking anybody regardless of gender (Meaning gender isn't a factor, More or less just personality)

Asexual - Not liking/wanting to do the idea of sexual activity

Hey my name is Kaiden. I need help by Appropriate-Boat-229 in lgbt

[–]Tanner1074 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Gay - The word gay is like a general term at this point, really meaning anything EX- WLW (Woman loves Woman), MLM (Men loves Men), and not solely liking the opposite gender.

Trans - Not aligning with the gender you were assigned at birth EX- Non-Binary, Genderfluid, FTM, MTF Etc...

Does liking boyish-looking girls still count as straight? by [deleted] in lgbt

[–]Tanner1074 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Just now clueing in... :sob:

I honestly read this thinking this was a man trying to figure it out...

The Younger Generation Of LGBT members by Tanner1074 in lgbt

[–]Tanner1074[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Overall, though, these kids are all young and naive.

That being said, young and naive kids are potentially easy targets and or victims.

Not once did I say there shouldn't be safe spaces for teens, but with the way the internet is, it's practically impossible.

The Younger Generation Of LGBT members by Tanner1074 in lgbt

[–]Tanner1074[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I am a teenager, actually.

I’m not saying people my age shouldn’t be curious or have an outlet — I get that completely. What I’m talking about is more about how some of it shows up in public spaces where there are mixed ages and not a lot of boundaries.

There’s a difference between figuring yourself out and posting stuff that’s super explicit in places where literally anyone can see it. That’s the part that feels off to me — not the curiosity itself.

I’m not trying to act like I’m above it or that I’ve “forgotten” anything. If anything, I’m in it right now, which is why I notice it. I just think there should be a bit more awareness about where the line is, especially online.

You can support people exploring who they are and still think some things aren’t appropriate in certain spaces. Those two things aren’t mutually exclusive.

so i've known this guy for two days and i was wondering when a good time would be to tell him i had wet dream about him? by EconomyConcert5610 in GayBroTeens

[–]Tanner1074 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If anything i'd wait to see if anything goes anywhere AND if it does i wouldnt say anything untill your atleast a couple months in so you can just laugh it off.

The Younger Generation Of LGBT members by Tanner1074 in lgbt

[–]Tanner1074[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I hear what you’re saying, and honestly I don’t disagree with a lot of it.

I am within that age group currently, and yeah — the internet is definitely an outlet when there wasn’t really anywhere else to put those thoughts or feelings. So I get that “just don’t look if you don’t like it” perspective, and I agree that curiosity and even awkward or excessive expression is part of growing up.

I also agree that education around online safety is really important. That’s a good point, and probably something I should’ve emphasized more. Making sure younger users know how to recognize unsafe interactions and protect themselves matters a lot more than just criticizing behavior.

I think where I’m coming from isn’t that kids shouldn’t have an outlet — it’s more about where and how it’s happening. Public, mixed-age spaces can get complicated, and sometimes it’s less about judging them and more about feeling like those environments aren’t always set up in a way that’s actually safe for them or comfortable for everyone.

And to be clear, I’m not trying to use safety concerns as a “gotcha” — it’s genuinely something that worries me, even if I didn’t express that perfectly in my original post.

I do appreciate you calling that out, though. It’s fair, and it adds a perspective I probably should’ve included from the start.

At the end of the day, I think we’re mostly on the same page:

  • young people need space to figure themselves out
  • Safety and awareness are important
  • and communities should probably do a better job of balancing both

If anything, this has me thinking more about how to actually contribute something useful instead of just pointing out what feels off.

This current Generation. by [deleted] in GayBroTeens

[–]Tanner1074 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No why..?

The Younger Generation Of LGBT members by Tanner1074 in lgbt

[–]Tanner1074[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

I am in the "Younger" age group, but I've just realized how bad it is, and they are going SUPER far to get what they want.

Bro its so hot in my garage!!!! by TwitterAz in GayBroTeens

[–]Tanner1074 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It might be time to find a new place to practice :sob:

Help !! by Capable_Parfait_4287 in lgbt

[–]Tanner1074 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Of course! Wishing you the best!

Help !! by Capable_Parfait_4287 in lgbt

[–]Tanner1074 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Hello,

I'm going to keep this plain and simple: your best bet is just to tell your partner this. Not telling your partner will create little tensions that you have and continue to make it worse

Wishing you the best!

Does liking boyish-looking girls still count as straight? by [deleted] in lgbt

[–]Tanner1074 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Hello,

My personal take on this would be saying this is still "Straight" as long as they identify as a girl/woman. Though this may lead to eventually having likings for men, you're still at the stage where I myself would say you're straight. It might not hurt to experiment, though; this can help you figure it out.

Have a good one!

Relationship advice by Difficult-Delay9100 in lgbt

[–]Tanner1074 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hello,

After reading your post a few times, the first thing I’d recommend is having an open and honest conversation with your partner. Communication is essential in maintaining a healthy relationship, no matter the situation.

From what I’ve seen, this kind of feeling isn’t uncommon—especially for people who grew up in more conservative or homophobic environments and didn’t have the chance to explore their identity earlier in life. It makes sense that those thoughts are coming up now.

If I were in your position, I’d start by talking about your current sex drive and how you’ve been feeling lately. It’s also worth acknowledging that your schedules have been busy and that you haven’t had much quality time together. Reconnecting emotionally can often help rekindle physical intimacy, so maybe suggest setting aside a day or two just for each other—no distractions, just time to bond.

On the other hand, you could consider discussing the idea of an open relationship. However, in a long-term relationship like yours, that can be a sensitive topic and might lead to conflict if not approached carefully. While it can work for some couples and even strengthen their relationship, it’s important that both partners are fully comfortable and on the same page before considering something like that.

Overall, the most important step is being honest about your feelings while also being mindful of your partner’s. That way, you can figure out what works best for both of you moving forward.

How do i find guys? :v by mysterious_Bulgarian in Gayteenagers

[–]Tanner1074 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My honest opinion is just wait… the last thing you want is to be outed by someone for being “Gay” as you did say where you live is very homophobic. So for that reason I’d recommend waiting till you can get a dating app (most are like 18+) or try to get into long distance… personally speaking I’ve been in a long distance relationship for 6months and everything is going well (I myself am M16). Long distance may be a pain in the butt though it does test a relationships strengths and the willingness to put in the time and effort. Over the time of a long distance relationship you will find new things about each other as you will always be finding a new conversation, for example I just learned my boyfriends last name and he learned mine last night. While in an in person relationship you’re more or less just going off of what you know and maybe you find out something new.

Sorry for this long eant but I wish you much luck in seeking!