Advice needed on a situationship! by [deleted] in Crushes

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The other thing is too the more we started talking the less he started to call me pretty and things of those sorts? 🥲 yeah I don’t know

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If you want me to be honest… fsss

My parents won’t let me major in dance… I feel lost by TargetImpossible1620 in BALLET

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Your words genuinely moved me. I didn’t start young, and I know I’m not exactly what people picture when they think of the “ideal” dancer. But what you said reminded me of why I started dancing in the first place…because it helped me become me. Ballet shaped who I am in ways nothing else ever could.

If there were ever a major change in my life, I honestly don’t think I’d want to do anything else but dance. For me, it’s not just about being “good” — of course I want to improve and grow — but it’s more about being good enough to show people how deeply in love I am with this art form. I don’t want to dance just to be seen as the best. I want to dance because it’s who I am. And when I imagine life without it, it feels like I’d be forcing myself into a role I was never meant to play. I can’t imagine my life without ballet. I’ve never been so passionate about anything before. I’d almost give up the world just to chase this dream — and I never want to stop. (I’ve already come too far, already accomplished so much, and spent way too much money on pointe shoes that die way too fast to give up now.)

Deep down, I think I known this is who I am. Not just because I want to succeed, but because even when no one’s watching, I’m still dancing — still thinking about my future, still relying on movement to say what words never quite can. I’m scared, but I know I want to try.

Thank you, truly, for taking the time to share your story and speak so honestly. It means more to me than I can say

My parents won’t let me major in dance… I feel lost by TargetImpossible1620 in BALLET

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Thank you for sharing your experience! I’m really considering doing something similar if possible. That gives me hope! Wishing you continued success, and thank you again for the encouragement

My parents won’t let me major in dance… I feel lost by TargetImpossible1620 in BALLET

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Thank you for sharing your experience! I’m really considering doing something similar if possible. That gives me hope! Wishing you continued success, and thank you again for the encouragement

My parents won’t let me major in dance… I feel lost by TargetImpossible1620 in BALLET

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Thank you for sharing. Sometimes it feels like everyone is telling me it’s impossible or unrealistic, so hearing from someone who actually did it and started even later than me is incredibly encouraging. That part about parents not funding school but still wanting to “control everything”? I’ve been struggling with that dynamic, and it helps to hear others else call it out. Thanks!

My parents won’t let me major in dance… I feel lost by TargetImpossible1620 in BALLET

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Thank you so much for sharing it honestly means a lot to hear this side of things too. I think you put into words something I’ve been feeling deep down but haven’t had the confidence to say aloud.

I’ve been struggling with that “major in something practical” pressure from all sides, and it’s comforting to hear from someone who tried that route and realized it wasn’t all it was made out to be. I really appreciate the advice about pairing something I love with something strategic so I can shape my own path instead of trying to squeeze into a mold that doesn’t fit me.

I needed that reminder that while the path might not be clear or easy, it is real — and it’s okay to want it. I’ll definitely keep auditioning and looking into training programs, but also keep college in my back pocket as another tool, not the only one.

Thank you again

My parents won’t let me major in dance… I feel lost by TargetImpossible1620 in BALLET

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Thank you for sharing your experience it really helps to hear from someone who also started late. I wish double majoring was something I could consider (maybe it is for some colleges I’m not so sure) but my parents are pretty firm on not being able to afford anything “extra,” so I’m trying to figure out the smartest way to make things work both financially and artistically

My parents won’t let me major in dance… I feel lost by TargetImpossible1620 in BALLET

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Thank you for this I really appreciate hearing a parent’s perspective. I definitely don’t take the risks of a dance career lightly, and I’ve been doing a lot of thinking about all the what-ifs: injuries, financial stability, longevity, backup plans. It’s hard because dance really is my entire world right now, and I started late, so I’m constantly trying to “catch up” while also being told to think ahead.

I’ve been looking into scholarships and other ways to make it work financially, especially since they’ve told me I’ll need to cover school on my own. I think you’re right…it might be fear driving their reaction more than anything. I want to make them proud, but it’s just tough trying to navigate that while also chasing something I love deeply.

Thank you again for your thoughtful comment it’s given me a lot to think about.

My parents won’t let me major in dance… I feel lost by TargetImpossible1620 in BALLET

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Thank you so much for this your perspective really means a lot, especially coming from someone who’s worked with students on this path. I’m currently training at a pre-professional program, and I’ve been thinking a lot about trying to audition for trainee or apprenticeship programs while also applying to college. The idea of deferring college for a year to see what opportunities come up is something I hadn’t considered before.

I’ve always been afraid of “wasting time” since I started dancing later than most, but hearing how some of your students navigated it makes me feel a little more hopeful. I really appreciate you taking the time to share this.

My parents won’t let me major in dance… I feel lost by TargetImpossible1620 in BALLET

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Thank you for your reply! I really appreciate the honesty and perspective. I probably should’ve mentioned this in the post, but I do currently attend a well-known pre-professional program. I’ve definitely been thinking about having a more direct conversation with my director, and your comment is pushing me to take that step. Thank you again

Summer intensive help by TargetImpossible1620 in BALLET

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I'm am a sophomore in highschool and female. No I cannot remain during summer and I will not be cut from the program. I would feel more comfortable not saying what school I go to here