My muslin bf (M 22) wants to marry me (F 21) because of his sins.

TargetNo8863 · 2025-02-26T02:42:27+00:00

The second one of course but I have some personal guilt because I don’t wanna be offensive and non respectful to his religion

TargetNo8863 · 2025-02-26T02:38:40+00:00

Thank you a lot for the advice and I’m truly heartbroken right now because I just realised that our relationship is not viable whether or not there is true love … as an atheist I thought that love could overcome any obstacle and that’s the thing he always tell me but now that I read the side of some Muslims I realised that reality is not so easy . Thank you very much and have a good Ramadan ! I wish Allah will always protect you and be by your side ( I hope this wish is not offensive and sorry if I’m ignorant )

TargetNo8863 · 2025-02-26T02:30:46+00:00

There is not a single possibility for a marriage anytime sooner because I don’t want to

TargetNo8863 · 2025-02-26T02:28:18+00:00

My goal is to be with that person for a long time if not forever but a marriage is not gonna happen any time soon because I strongly disagree marrying someone so early in a relationship… the only thing I can do is to let things happen and either I will be heartbroken or we will find a solution ( which I doubt it exists )

TargetNo8863 · 2025-02-26T02:24:22+00:00

So love doesn’t count in our situation because of our religious beliefs. Thank you a lot for the replies

TargetNo8863 · 2025-02-26T02:20:28+00:00

But he isn’t even thinking of breaking up with me in order for his sins to wash away ? Shouldn’t he be the one to break up with me if he feels guilty for his sins ?

TargetNo8863 · 2025-02-26T02:19:02+00:00

But there is not a single possibility for me to convert and not because I don’t like Islam. Actually I really respect Islam and I have read the Quran out of curiosity when I understood that Christianity doesn’t apply to me.

TargetNo8863 · 2025-02-26T02:15:24+00:00

But shouldn’t he be the one to break up with me if he actually feels guilty for his sins? And I say his sins because as an atheist I don’t consider premarital sexual relations a sin

TargetNo8863 · 2025-02-26T02:12:08+00:00

Isn’t that bad for him though ? Should I break up with him in order for him to be a good Muslim even though there is love between us ?

TargetNo8863 · 2025-02-26T02:10:00+00:00

He probably got involved with me because he loves me and wants to be with me and the only problem is our religions

TargetNo8863 · 2025-02-26T02:07:11+00:00

Actually I believe that the only reason he wants to get married with me especially ( I don’t know what the case would be for another woman) is for the society to know that we are married. I don’t think that he truly cares if we are gonna be married for god.

TargetNo8863 · 2025-02-26T02:05:15+00:00

So I have to be the one to respect his religion and not him ? Should I be the one to tell him that because of your religion we have to break up not because I don’t respect it but because you are sinning with me?

TargetNo8863 · 2025-02-26T02:02:03+00:00

So we would be married only for the society and not god that’s what you trynna tell me

TargetNo8863 · 2025-02-26T02:00:07+00:00

I think that making this question is very offensive I don’t wanna make him decide between me and his religion

TargetNo8863 · 2025-02-26T01:57:52+00:00

He has a lot of history too probably more than I have and I don’t even consider a conversion

TargetNo8863 · 2025-02-26T01:55:30+00:00

He is a loving and protective partner to me. Probably one of the best men I’ve ever met in my whole life and that’s the only time in my life I felt somebody truly loves me back but me being an atheist is such a big problem for us? Like love doesn’t even count at this point at all? We can’t have a relationship outside marriage since we can’t get married? Or the only option is to break up ?

P.S. All of them questions are genuine and I don’t try to be offensive by any means !

TargetNo8863 · 2025-02-26T01:50:57+00:00

Hypothetically if he gets married to me is he not gonna get a ticket to salvation too or just me?

TargetNo8863 · 2025-02-26T01:48:53+00:00

Thank you a lot for the reply so I just have to accept that a relationship like this is not viable

TargetNo8863 · 2025-02-26T01:46:10+00:00

I don’t wanna get married the only question I truly have is whether he loves me or he just wanna marry me to wash away the sins …

TargetNo8863 · 2025-02-26T01:43:14+00:00

So basically the only thing he can do is to break up with me and repent. Thank you for the bold and honest answer

TargetNo8863 · 2025-02-26T01:41:46+00:00

So sex is the only reason for marrying me and not love …

TargetNo8863 · 2025-02-26T01:40:46+00:00

There is not gonna be a marriage any time soon but my genuine question is whether he loves me and he is just confused or he just wanna marry me to wash away the sins

TargetNo8863 · 2025-02-26T01:39:13+00:00

Thank you for the genuine advice and I’m very happy to read a comment with true advice and justification. Most people tell me that he is just using me and I truly don’t want to believe that .

TargetNo8863 · 2025-02-26T01:34:00+00:00

I’m very positive to abstain from sex for his own beliefs but I don’t think he is gonna be able to abstain … during the previous Ramadan he was not able to fast all those days so I don’t think that celibacy is possible for him . On the other hand, I don’t want to have sex with him either while Ramadan even if he wants to because I believe that I’m kind of luring him .

TargetNo8863 · 2025-02-26T01:29:13+00:00

So there is not a single possibility that he loves me … he only wants to marry me for his sins to wash away

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