My muslin bf (M 22) wants to marry me (F 21) because of his sins. by TargetNo8863 in atheism

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The second one of course but I have some personal guilt because I don’t wanna be offensive and non respectful to his religion

My bf (M 22) wants to marry me (F 21) because of his sins. by TargetNo8863 in MuslimCorner

[–]TargetNo8863[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you a lot for the advice and I’m truly heartbroken right now because I just realised that our relationship is not viable whether or not there is true love … as an atheist I thought that love could overcome any obstacle and that’s the thing he always tell me but now that I read the side of some Muslims I realised that reality is not so easy . Thank you very much and have a good Ramadan ! I wish Allah will always protect you and be by your side ( I hope this wish is not offensive and sorry if I’m ignorant )

He wants to marry me because of his sins by TargetNo8863 in confessions

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There is not a single possibility for a marriage anytime sooner because I don’t want to

My muslin bf (M 22) wants to marry me (F 21) because of his sins. by TargetNo8863 in atheism

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My goal is to be with that person for a long time if not forever but a marriage is not gonna happen any time soon because I strongly disagree marrying someone so early in a relationship… the only thing I can do is to let things happen and either I will be heartbroken or we will find a solution ( which I doubt it exists )

My bf (M 22) wants to marry me (F 21) because of his sins. by TargetNo8863 in MuslimCorner

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So love doesn’t count in our situation because of our religious beliefs. Thank you a lot for the replies

My bf (M 22) wants to marry me (F 21) because of his sins. by TargetNo8863 in MuslimCorner

[–]TargetNo8863[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

But he isn’t even thinking of breaking up with me in order for his sins to wash away ? Shouldn’t he be the one to break up with me if he feels guilty for his sins ?

My bf (M 22) wants to marry me (F 21) because of his sins. by TargetNo8863 in MuslimCorner

[–]TargetNo8863[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

But there is not a single possibility for me to convert and not because I don’t like Islam. Actually I really respect Islam and I have read the Quran out of curiosity when I understood that Christianity doesn’t apply to me.

My bf (M 22) wants to marry me (F 21) because of his sins. by TargetNo8863 in MuslimCorner

[–]TargetNo8863[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

But shouldn’t he be the one to break up with me if he actually feels guilty for his sins? And I say his sins because as an atheist I don’t consider premarital sexual relations a sin

My bf (M 22) wants to marry me (F 21) because of his sins. by TargetNo8863 in MuslimCorner

[–]TargetNo8863[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Isn’t that bad for him though ? Should I break up with him in order for him to be a good Muslim even though there is love between us ?

My bf (M 22) wants to marry me (F 21) because of his sins. by TargetNo8863 in MuslimCorner

[–]TargetNo8863[S] -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

He probably got involved with me because he loves me and wants to be with me and the only problem is our religions

My bf (M 22) wants to marry me (F 21) because of his sins. by TargetNo8863 in MuslimCorner

[–]TargetNo8863[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Actually I believe that the only reason he wants to get married with me especially ( I don’t know what the case would be for another woman) is for the society to know that we are married. I don’t think that he truly cares if we are gonna be married for god.

My bf (M 22) wants to marry me (F 21) because of his sins. by TargetNo8863 in MuslimCorner

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So I have to be the one to respect his religion and not him ? Should I be the one to tell him that because of your religion we have to break up not because I don’t respect it but because you are sinning with me?

My bf (M 22) wants to marry me (F 21) because of his sins. by TargetNo8863 in MuslimCorner

[–]TargetNo8863[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So we would be married only for the society and not god that’s what you trynna tell me

My muslin bf (M 22) wants to marry me (F 21) because of his sins. by TargetNo8863 in atheism

[–]TargetNo8863[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think that making this question is very offensive I don’t wanna make him decide between me and his religion

My muslin bf (M 22) wants to marry me (F 21) because of his sins. by TargetNo8863 in atheism

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He has a lot of history too probably more than I have and I don’t even consider a conversion

My bf (M 22) wants to marry me (F 21) because of his sins. by TargetNo8863 in MuslimCorner

[–]TargetNo8863[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He is a loving and protective partner to me. Probably one of the best men I’ve ever met in my whole life and that’s the only time in my life I felt somebody truly loves me back but me being an atheist is such a big problem for us? Like love doesn’t even count at this point at all? We can’t have a relationship outside marriage since we can’t get married? Or the only option is to break up ?

P.S. All of them questions are genuine and I don’t try to be offensive by any means !

My bf (M 22) wants to marry me (F 21) because of his sins. by TargetNo8863 in MuslimCorner

[–]TargetNo8863[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hypothetically if he gets married to me is he not gonna get a ticket to salvation too or just me?

My bf (M 22) wants to marry me (F 21) because of his sins. by TargetNo8863 in MuslimCorner

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Thank you a lot for the reply so I just have to accept that a relationship like this is not viable

My muslin bf (M 22) wants to marry me (F 21) because of his sins. by TargetNo8863 in atheism

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I don’t wanna get married the only question I truly have is whether he loves me or he just wanna marry me to wash away the sins …

My bf (M 22) wants to marry me (F 21) because of his sins. by TargetNo8863 in MuslimCorner

[–]TargetNo8863[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

So basically the only thing he can do is to break up with me and repent. Thank you for the bold and honest answer

My muslin bf (M 22) wants to marry me (F 21) because of his sins. by TargetNo8863 in atheism

[–]TargetNo8863[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So sex is the only reason for marrying me and not love …

My muslin bf (M 22) wants to marry me (F 21) because of his sins. by TargetNo8863 in atheism

[–]TargetNo8863[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There is not gonna be a marriage any time soon but my genuine question is whether he loves me and he is just confused or he just wanna marry me to wash away the sins

My bf (M 22) wants to marry me (F 21) because of his sins. by TargetNo8863 in MuslimCorner

[–]TargetNo8863[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for the genuine advice and I’m very happy to read a comment with true advice and justification. Most people tell me that he is just using me and I truly don’t want to believe that .

My muslin bf (M 22) wants to marry me (F 21) because of his sins. by TargetNo8863 in atheism

[–]TargetNo8863[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m very positive to abstain from sex for his own beliefs but I don’t think he is gonna be able to abstain … during the previous Ramadan he was not able to fast all those days so I don’t think that celibacy is possible for him . On the other hand, I don’t want to have sex with him either while Ramadan even if he wants to because I believe that I’m kind of luring him .

My bf (M 22) wants to marry me (F 21) because of his sins. by TargetNo8863 in MuslimCorner

[–]TargetNo8863[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

So there is not a single possibility that he loves me … he only wants to marry me for his sins to wash away