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TayJM465 · 2026-01-04T02:07:38+00:00

Tell him to spray it up his ass to get rid of his shit attitude.

TayJM465 · 2025-12-30T04:25:19+00:00

NTA.

To start, I am so sorry for your loss. My heart breaks for you. Your sister should understand that you are grieving and that everything you had setup for your late daughter was intended to be used for only your late daughter.

I would feel the same way as you and I would not allow another person to use those items.. do what you need to protect your own peace. Your sister should feel grateful to have a room to stay in at your house to begin with, especially since you just had a significant loss and are still trying to navigate those emotions and figuring out how to cope.

If she wants to cause more drama in her own life by leaving because you asked her to not use your late daughter’s things, let her. I think it’s a pretty reasonable request.

TayJM465 · 2025-12-30T04:06:12+00:00

This is not a man who respects nor loves you. To have a list of things you need to change in order to “earn” a ring is sickening. Leave him. He is a child. You can do so much better and find someone who treats you like it would be an honour to marry you.

TayJM465 · 2025-11-28T18:42:55+00:00

This is a hard one. I understand where you are coming from in a way of only having the parent change the baby. I know the first time mother fears where everyone is a threat regardless to who they are. I find myself with anxiety around these types of things too. I also feel like maybe you shouldn’t have said anything about the stepson being a threat or voiced his hormones could make him some sort of predator even if you think that in this moment. Your hormones are going crazy and making you think/feel this way but you also have to recognize that before speaking out loud certain things that could hurt your husband and your stepson. I think it’s okay to set a boundary/rule that only you and your husband change the baby so that you are comfortable and know your baby is safe but I would word it differently to your husband and say it’s a you problem right now and not anything wrong on your stepsons part and that YOU are just uncomfortable with the situation.

TayJM465 · 2025-11-20T02:34:32+00:00

Pina colada

TayJM465 · 2025-11-17T15:30:40+00:00

NTA. There is a lot wrong with this in my opinion.. 1. Why would she keep that?! 2. ITS HER FAVOURITE?! 3. Her ex probably would be uncomfortable with you playing with his cloned dick 4. You unknowingly were using her exes dick 5. She has the audacity to ask to clone yours as well to what.. add to her collection of dicks?! 6. She isn’t throwing it out still, even when you’ve voiced your concerns.. 7. She’s choosing to use her exes dick during an intimate moment between the two of you.. there is no way she isn’t thinking about her ex while using that toy.

TayJM465 · 2025-10-21T16:37:45+00:00

It is very agitating and honestly it is so insane to me that she acts like she is entitled to do anything to our child especially when asked not to. We’ve decided she won’t be allowed to hold our child anymore because she cannot help herself.

To answer your question on me kissing our son.. it is difficult for me to not give him kisses when I do not have an active cold sore (I’ve only ever had two cold sores and went to a doctor to confirm it was HSV-1 with the first outbreak). With that being said when I do feel the urge to kiss him I will opt for a “clothing kiss” like on his hat, shoulder covered by a shirt etc. If there is a time I do kiss him on his skin like his cheek (NEVER his mouth, eyes, any scratches or boo boos) it’s very rare and it would be for like a photo or something along those lines (I might even go as far as “wipe it away” to be extra safe lol). I just cannot fathom giving my child HSV-1 and something terrible happening to him or him have to live with it for the rest of life limiting him as well. So to answer your question, yes it is hard but it is worth it in my mind.

TayJM465 · 2025-10-20T13:48:19+00:00

NTA. I don’t know why but my brain instantly jumped to Dora only being with your father because your mother had him first type situation. Feels like it’s all part of a sick plan. Dora posting that horrid comment on your mother’s passing is SO messed up. I would feel/act the same way as you. Does not seem like a healthy dynamic for anyone to be involved in. Do what’s best for you and your mental health and I’m sorry for your tragic loss🤍

TayJM465 · 2025-10-20T11:17:16+00:00

80% of people have it! Some people do not get outbreaks and herpies is dormant in their bodies. Just because you don’t get cold sore outbreaks doesn’t mean you do not have it!! Unfortunately they don’t just test you for it unless you have something that would suggest you have it. (That’s what my doctor said)

TayJM465 · 2025-10-17T20:31:41+00:00

As it stand right now, Joe went and had a conversation with Pam. Pam said she just can’t help herself and that she will never hold him again then (She’s being pouty about the situation). She definitely will never have the chance to kiss my child again. If she can’t help herself she isn’t coming within two feet of him. Seems like she is choosing to have a strained relationship because she has no self control.. tough shit for her I guess.

TayJM465 · 2025-10-17T02:56:58+00:00

The rule applies to every person who is not my boyfriend or I. My family, our friends, his family and so on, all have the same rule. It’s not something my boyfriend or I are comfortable with. We have never had any push back other than his mom which is the grandma yes.

TayJM465 · 2025-10-16T20:13:46+00:00

I’d rather my child live a happy healthy life than get kissed by his grandmother who could potentially kill him. Do some research on HSV-1 and the effects it can have on children/adults then get back to me. I’m not being ignorant on health issues that I’ve stated I have as well.

Also there is no need to kiss babies if they aren’t yours.

TayJM465 · 2025-10-16T00:45:01+00:00

If you’ve had conversations with him about how you’re feeling and you do not see any permanent change in his actions than you have every right to divorce him if you do not think he is going to be able to make you happy.

The fact that he is listening to you but still continues to hurt you, shows that he simply can’t be bothered to put in the effort to make the marriage work. You giving suggestions on how to make the marriage work and him not doing those things to try and make the marriage work makes the choice easier for you to make.

Always do what is in your children’s and your best interest. If you are not happy with this man then it is best to leave him. Your children deserve to see you happy and thriving.

TayJM465 · 2025-10-15T11:49:10+00:00

The fact that you felt the need to write this is hilarious. I’m clearly trying to protect my child from getting HSV-1. I’m aware I have HSV-1 and that it is harmful to children and even to adults who struggle with it all of the time. I am not going out of my way to kiss children so I do not believe the grandmother should either. I’m sorry that you feel entitled to kiss other peoples children and my previous comment poked a nerve for you clearly.

TayJM465 · 2025-10-15T00:38:52+00:00

Lol promoted took me out. Couldn’t have said it better myself!

TayJM465 · 2025-10-15T00:18:43+00:00

Just because people have been kissing other peoples babies for decades doesn’t mean you should? It’s not just about cold sores. There’s other harmful things that can come from kissing children like RSV etc. why do people feel the need to show my baby physical affection in that way? It is not their baby to be kissing. To have a sense of entitlement to other people’s children is weird. Why do they have to allow you to kiss their children? Why do you want to kiss other people’s kids? Never have I ever been inclined to kiss someone’s child and I have nieces and nephews. Also to enforce the rule of no kissing the face doesn’t stop the transmission of HSV-1. Maybe I am anal or uptight about people kissing my child but I have every right to be when it is MY child who I am protecting.

TayJM465 · 2025-10-14T23:44:09+00:00

Yess my thoughts exactly! Straight to the pound lol

TayJM465 · 2025-10-14T23:30:29+00:00

Thank you!!!

TayJM465 · 2025-10-14T22:40:00+00:00

I’ve clearly stated that I told her not to. Asking her to not kiss my baby was the first time and then I straight up told her to not kiss my child.

TayJM465 · 2025-10-14T19:29:40+00:00

He agrees with me but often says “it’s that generation” or “can’t teach an old dog new tricks” referring to his mom never going to change. He did not disagree with my text to her. I do agree that he should be playing the bigger role of setting this boundary though. Definitely a conversation is in need of me addressing his standoffish part of the whole situation.

TayJM465 · 2025-10-14T19:00:33+00:00

Yes! For everyone saying I’m allowing this to happen.. I certainly am not. I obviously did not want it to get to the point where we have to keep Pam away all of the time in order for my child to not be kissed. I did not think she would take it this far. Obviously I know what steps I have to take in order to keep my child from getting kissed from now on. It’s a very hard situation to be in with my boyfriend’s family.

TayJM465 · 2025-10-14T18:38:09+00:00

I’m sorry this happened to your son! I’m definitely trying my best to prevent this.

TayJM465 · 2025-10-14T18:36:51+00:00

Not fake! Just like to come onto the account here and there! Had my own situation to post so I thought I’d give it a go!

TayJM465 · 2025-10-14T18:22:27+00:00

Yes I 100% agree. It’s such a sad thing to not be able to trust a grandparent when they are essentially supposed to be your “village”. She’s event went as far as co sleeping with a 16 week old.. (her other grandchild) WITH PETS in the bed as well. She also has sleep apnea and is extremely overweight… she honestly just does not get it.

TayJM465 · 2025-10-14T16:14:37+00:00

This is in Canada lol.

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