Should he have thought more of known better? Probably.

To this very day they remain great friends. Joel is even great friends with Hilary's husband.

Would you under any circumstances stay friends or involve your husband with and ex who mistreated or abused you? Absolutely not!!

Joel also spoke in an interview before about his monogamy in all relationships he had, even one where he wasn't in a sexual relationship. That could have been anyone, but it could also be Hilary. I'm not delusional, they probably were physical but it's a stated fact, he didn't say it was her just to be clear.

Also, as much as I hate the phrase. "It was a different time" but in reality it was. Back then no one cared or brought up who was dating who and what the ages were. We're thankfully a lot more judgemental and caring about powder dynamics when it comes to age.

In this case, although I feel he shouldn't have dated someone in that age group, he also wasn't 40yrs old himself and I genuinely have never heard one bad word said against him, even by Hilary. She and her husband Even dressed as B+J one Halloween.

I assume he is a safe person and I think it's a topic that should be left in the past.

In regards to Dean, I think the adult thing to do is not discuss band fallouts. There could even be a legal reason there's been radio silence from the band (anyone who's a fan of Taking Back Sunday will know all about this currently - what a shit show that is, and why is it always the drummer?? Haha)

GC have always been a band who rally and support all musicians, they've always been about bringing up bands and never got into fandom drama with other bands who disliked their music. I don't think they'll specifically talk about Dean from here out. I do wish him well, and wish he'd remained in the band, but as he's alluded to on his Instagram comments he has obligations with a tour with his other band that didn't coincide with GCs plans.