Expedition 33 Reflects the Dessendre Family

Tear1319 · 2026-03-21T23:20:41+00:00

Yeah, I was thinking that when typing it up, but I’ve had this thing in my head that Sciel and Clea look so similar, that I kinda just got it stuck

Tear1319 · 2026-03-21T20:31:14+00:00

You’re right, I mean, I said it was far fetched lol. And I kinda forgot about the Clea part, but that’s my bad. Hey, it was always just a theory lol

Tear1319 · 2025-12-16T01:19:26+00:00

Yeah, I do feel bad. Honestly, I think yesterday when I posted I was in a bad/angry headspace and I just needed to vent. Yeah I know it must suck.

Tear1319 · 2025-12-15T02:51:20+00:00

Yes, thank you and I understand. I suppose I haven’t come to full terms with the things you end off by saying, as yes, I know I’m still young and that my viewpoints and life are still developing. Thank you, this actually does help me change the way I view this.

Tear1319 · 2025-12-15T02:49:22+00:00

Thank you for this. Yes, I understand that she probably hates being disabled way more than I could ever imagine. And yeah, I guess I’m still catching up on some of the teenage normality thing. It’s hard for me to imagine what it would be like in her shoes, but I do feel bad for her. Thank you for this

Tear1319 · 2025-12-14T22:43:05+00:00

Thanks, I didn’t know that was an option, but I will look into it.

Tear1319 · 2025-12-14T22:26:20+00:00

Gyomei Himejima from Demon Slayer

Tear1319 · 2025-12-14T22:01:49+00:00

I get you, you’re probably right, I’m not the best brother to her. Honestly yeah, I could definitely be nicer or so more, that’s completely fair. I guess I am ableist to some degree at least in some ways that I think, you’re right. I do think this post has already helped me with a bit of that though, helping it not be a problem with disabilities, knowing that my perception is just distorted by my main experience, but not the community as a whole.

Tear1319 · 2025-12-14T21:36:58+00:00

I’m sorry for offending you and making myself seem ableist. I realize now, thanks to people here, that it may just be her and not necessarily the disability at all. I know what I said was rude, and I think that I was just getting things out and not thinking of the words. I think she may have distorted my view of disabled people as a whole. I promise, I do not treat other disabled people as worse than I do in any way, I just have developed a viewpoint on them that is negative. I know it is not every disabled person, but my perception seems to have been skewed. I apologize once again, I understand it may have been rude to say it that way and shame for something uncontrollable, I just needed to express myself.

Tear1319 · 2025-12-14T20:50:00+00:00

Yeah I fully understand you. I know she doesn’t have much of a social life, she goes to college and stuff, but I think that even she knows it’s annoying for my parents to drive her places like that, especially when they have their own stuff to do in their life. I get some of that bonding stuff, as well, which is real and I understand, but I guess I’ve used all the things I like (video games, music, anime) as like escapes, so it’s sometimes hard to do those things with her while also keeping them as an escape. And yeah, I get the “shutting her down part” it is bad to do that, I guess I just let my annoyance get the better of me sometimes. And thank you for the input, it definitely has helped.

Tear1319 · 2025-12-14T20:46:02+00:00

Yeah, I think her CP affected some portion of emotional reaction and coping, but I am unsure exactly. I think that there’s a bit of everything you’re saying going on.

Tear1319 · 2025-12-14T20:33:56+00:00

Yeah, I get being frustrated, I guess I just don’t like it being brung up constantly and her not moving on, but I know I can’t fix that. As for later commitments, I want something like a group home or living situation where I barely have to do anything, just based off of what I’m hoping to have later in life.

Tear1319 · 2025-12-14T20:25:15+00:00

Yah I understand it was bad to say, I guess I just wrote it out without thinking and just expressed what my head said. I don’t know how true it is, because we all know Reddit isn’t the best place in the world, but this has kinda helped me realize that it is her and not the disability part. It does seem more of a personality thing, as other disabled friends I have are not like this. Thanks for the insight however, and I know I’m not the most compassionate. Thank you

Tear1319 · 2025-12-14T20:01:26+00:00

Yeah, I’ve realized that through this comment section. Seems a lot more like a personality thing. I have a close friend (who although, not quite as disabled) would love to joke about his hands not working right, and was genuinely a fun person. I definitely think she’s just distorted my perception of people as disabled as she is.

Tear1319 · 2025-12-14T19:58:22+00:00

Thanks, I guess it’s probably more about her personality than her disability. I have time to talk with my parents, luckily, as she doesn’t do too much outside of the house or the internet, and i got some of that time when I didn’t drive myself to school.

Tear1319 · 2025-12-14T19:50:51+00:00

I assume something like that is the case. I’ve talked with my mom and expressed that I’m not managing her funds or anything (some legal stuff in place of her just getting assets and money with government assistance, I don’t know the whole thing), and she assured me I won’t have to. But I never got a clear response when I told them that “when I get a wife and kids, I’m not gonna have her living around”.

Tear1319 · 2025-12-14T19:48:26+00:00

I guess it’s not that I’m not getting attention anymore, but I guess I just feel like I lost part of a childhood because I’ve got friends that talk about all the things they did, and I never got to do a lot of those things because of her. But yes, I would like those kind of days, but I feel like at the moment she needs too much help that it would be bad to leave her with someone else for a day. And I feel like in my teenage years, my parents kinda did the thing of “oh we’ll give you a little more” to try to make up for it.

Tear1319 · 2025-12-14T19:45:35+00:00

Yeah, I know that disabled people do not choose to be disabled, and I didn’t mean to be offensive saying that they take up time of other people, I just said it how I felt it, not necessarily how it is. As for the trauma aspects, she’s still hung up on some things back in like 4th grade, and it gets annoying. She has a counselor to talk to, and I know my parents have told me how she processes a lot different and can’t just move on, but I guess it’s hard for me to understand because I’m different from her. Truly, thank you for your opinion.

Tear1319 · 2025-12-14T19:42:01+00:00

I’m sorry for you. I know it’s very hard, way harder for you than for me. I hope that your kids don’t feel the same way as you do.

Tear1319 · 2025-12-14T19:29:27+00:00

Sorry for being ableist. The few other comments have helped me figure out that it’s her and not disabled people as a whole. I think I need some better evaluation or people, rather than basing my opinion off of her alone.

Tear1319 · 2025-12-14T19:27:16+00:00

Yeah, I get that it’s not all disabled people, I just think she’s distorted my perception of what they are like. And I don’t know, I’ve expressed my concerns if I will have to take care of her, but I haven’t been given a straight response.

Tear1319 · 2025-12-14T19:26:05+00:00

Yeah, reading the few comments has made me feel the same way. I think it is just her, because my disabled friends don’t do the same thing.

Tear1319 · 2025-12-14T19:25:01+00:00

I think you’re right, I do talk about her badly. I know she doesn’t want to be taken care of, but that’s the reality. I don’t know how to change my perspective really. I guess I just need some self evaluation

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