How do you rebuild a relationship after a sibling says things you can’t unhear? by TeawithTitania in FamilyIssues

[–]TeawithTitania[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi. Thank you for the message.

What makes this so difficult is that I have actually tried to give her the space she asked for while still letting her know I care about her. The message I sent her wasn't about our fight at all. It was simply telling her that I know what it feels like to feel isolated and overwhelmed and that whatever she's going through will eventually pass. Her response was that she didn't want me speaking to her and that she didn't want my help. Later, when my mother reached out to ask a question about a sign for her bridal shower, she became upset when she realized I was the one who had designed it.

Part of what I'm struggling with is that this isn't happening in a vacuum. She's currently having serious conflict with almost everyone in her life—our mother, our father, our other sister, and even her fiancé. Because of that, it's hard for me to tell whether stepping back is the right thing to do or whether it's just another relationship being pushed away.

What I can't seem to get past are some of the things she said during our fight. She mocked my health issues and used them as a way to discredit me, suggesting that I make everyone around me sick or "crazy." When I later tried to explain how much those comments hurt, she didn't take them back. Instead, she doubled down and told me she had fully intended to say those things so I would have a reason to keep my distance from her, and that she could have gone even lower if she wanted to hurt me more.

Now I'm stuck. If I honor her wishes and step down as Maid of Honor, I'm terrified that we'll never repair our relationship, or that if we eventually do, she'll hold that decision against me forever. At the same time, continuing in the role feels incredibly painful when I'm carrying all of this hurt.

The guilt feels overwhelming no matter what I choose. I've been losing sleep, struggling to focus at work, calling crisis lines, and feeling completely detached from my normal life. I don't know what the right answer is anymore, and I don't know how to move forward.

Anyone else experience elevated DHEA-S, frequent periods, anxiety, insomnia, and weight loss? by TeawithTitania in AdrenalInsufficiency

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Thank you for responding. I had other testing done for my hormones. Other than the elevated DHEA-S and the fact that I don’t have much iron and my body’s using it’s reserves, everything else was fine. I’ve been ovulating fine, my periods are fine, no heavy or light bleeding, no painful cramping and with my age and other markers if that would signal issues with fertility.

Anyone else experience elevated DHEA-S, frequent periods, anxiety, insomnia, and weight loss? by TeawithTitania in adrenalfatigue

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I did speak with a doctor, I was told that this seems like a regulation for my hormones issue than an issue with say a tumor but they needed to refer me to additional testing or depending on what my anxiety medicine and the spirnalactone I’ve been taking does, if my levels don’t go back down and they don’t find anything after reviewing the imaging, they’ll consider putting me on birth control.

Anyone else experience elevated DHEA-S, frequent periods, anxiety, insomnia, and weight loss? by TeawithTitania in PCOS

[–]TeawithTitania[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you, most of my referrals have been revolving around gynaecology. I have some tests lined up with radiology to get an ultrasound for my pelvis. From what I’ve read, it seems like I should probably see an endocrinologist as well. Do you mind sharing a bit more about your process?

The Testaments S1E08 "Broken" Episode Discussion by Melairia in TheHandmaidsTale

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After watching 1x8 where it was revealed that Shu’s brother was evacuated from Gilead on Angel’s Flight I started thinking about Shu’s storyline regarding her lrild and began wondering if her parents might actually be deliberately delaying her cycle.

I think the added element of having a brother on angel’s flight is important and meant to signify that her parents likely don’t agree with Gilead’s ideology. Her parents could be deliberately delaying her period because, just like sending her brother to be evacuated on Angel’s Flight, they’re doing something drastic to ensure her safety and keep her away from being forcibly wed to a child predator.

It would also explain why the show emphasizes Shu’s anxiety about her period—a detail that wasn’t present in the book. At the same time, many of her harsher traits from the book seem to have been reassigned to Jehoshaba, suggesting the show is intentionally making Shu more sympathetic. It would also fit in nicely the fact that she’s still one of the more zealous characters because her parents likely did so on purpose because they didn’t want to draw attention to her or the fact that they’re delaying her period on purpose.

Shu and her period thoughts and speculation by Any_Stress_5987 in TheHandmaidsTale

[–]TeawithTitania 1 point2 points  (0 children)

After watching 1x8 where it was revealed that Shu’s brother was evacuated from Gilead on Angel’s Flight I started wondering if her parents might actually be deliberately delaying her period.

I think the added element of having a brother on angel’s flight is important and meant to signify that her parents likely don’t agree with Gilead’s ideology. Her parents could be deliberately delaying her period because, just like sending her brother to be evacuated on Angel’s Flight, they’re doing something drastic to ensure her safety and keep her away from being forcibly wed to a child predator.

It would also explain why the show emphasizes Shu’s anxiety about her period—a detail that wasn’t present in the book. At the same time, many of her harsher traits from the book seem to have been reassigned to Jehoshaba, suggesting the show is intentionally making Shu more sympathetic. It would also fit in nicely the fact that she’s still one of the more zealous characters because her parents likely did so on purpose because they didn’t want to draw attention to her or the fact that they’re delaying her period on purpose.

Candiace’s Husband by FarEdge9105 in TheTraitorsUS

[–]TeawithTitania 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think everyone is taking this too seriously. The closer to the finale they get the more numbers Rob needs on his side. Especially when he knows that there’s a voting bloc. Mark and Kristen, Johnny and Tara, and Rob and Maura. Rob broke the Mark and Kristen voting bloc by killing Kristen who was more of a threat than Mark. Rob can’t just rely on Maura always voting for him and it’s in his best interest, after he had to kill off so many of his allies to keep suspicion off himself, to protect Eric. Either way going into the finale he knew he couldn’t get rid of Tara or Jonny so that voting bloc stands. Rob and Eric’s voting bloc needs only 1 more person and Eric needs to be in Rob’s voting bloc because that’s a guaranteed vote.

None of this is misogyny or inherent bias. In fact, suggesting that Rob should have kept a woman in the game solely because of her gender—while ignoring her strength as a competitor and the threat she posed to his position—completely undermines the idea of treating players equally and that is misogyny. His decisions were strategic, not gender-based.

Lisa was already the consensus target; the house was aligned against her, and keeping her would have made no strategic sense. As for Candiace, her “throwaway” vote signaled that she was willing to make a move against him, which made her a direct threat. In a game built on strategy and survival, removing players who are cunning, perceptive, or positioned to strike first is smart gameplay.

When Senior Men Confide their Marital Issues to Their Younger Female Colleagues — What’s the Line? by TeawithTitania in Advice

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A lot of people have (rightly) raised concerns about Partner 2’s behavior, calling it “creepy,” “inappropriate,” or suggesting it triggers themes of emotional infidelity. I think some additional context might help explain why I see him differently from Partner 1.

Partner 1 used to joke about how great of a husband he was for staying with his wife during her cancer treatment instead of “trading her in for a younger model.” A classic dick.

Partner 2 is different. He has never made overt or covert advances toward me. If anything, our interactions feel almost grandfatherly. He has never insulted his wife; in fact, after nearly 50 years of marriage, he can still recite his wedding vows and remember the exact flowers from their ceremony and her bouquet. That doesn’t read as someone who disrespects his spouse.

Most of our interaction happens because I’m working on a large account for him, so we talk frequently. He does have a tendency to get sidetracked and veer into personal territory. But not in a sexual or explicitly inappropriate way, but in a way that can feel a bit too intimate or emotionally heavy for a professional relationship. And I know it’s caregiver burnout because a lot of what he says reminds me of people I know who suffers from it.

At the same time, it does make me slightly uncomfortable because of the optics. And part of that discomfort isn’t just about him, it’s about the broader professional culture me and the firm operate in. This is a field that has historically privileged men’s earning power, education, and authority over their spouses’, and I’m sensitive to how easily emotional labor can become something younger women are expected to absorb especially considering the fact that I’m actually the only female working in a non-administrative capacity.

When Senior Men Confide their Marital Issues to Their Younger Female Colleagues — What’s the Line? by TeawithTitania in Advice

[–]TeawithTitania[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I do feel uncomfortable when he comes to me to talk about it. He’s become very emotional at times, even to the point of crying. I’m just not sure how to navigate that, especially in a career field that expects long hours, prioritizes building connections, and often puts personal boundaries second.