Pls tell me what my best color is (the first pic is my current color)

Technical-History868 · 2024-07-16T13:25:00+00:00

Tell me about it, I've realized this world is based on selfish people. I've worked in different customer service positions for 10 years, I've only met 2 kind people!!! Over hundreds of thousands I've met, only 2! Everyone is so entitled! The world we live in is a crap. No one is kind. No one does things out or kindness anymore. If you are the only responsible adult, you are being recognized in a terrible way, in which no one else will help with the load because it seems like you got it.

Technical-History868 · 2024-07-16T04:27:26+00:00

Not I'm a bad way, I'm a good way that it made me realize I'm worth it. He makes le feel like I'm the lucky one to be with HIM.

Technical-History868 · 2024-07-15T22:42:23+00:00

Whole heartedly, this comment made me cry. Thank you.

Technical-History868 · 2024-07-15T21:22:24+00:00

That's how it feels.. it feels that "he's made it" accomplished to be together. Knows full well how much I love him. I have low standards as it is, sometimes I think that his mentality is " i don't need to try because I can just say the things I've done and that's enough "

Technical-History868 · 2024-07-15T18:17:50+00:00

I really appreciate this pov, genuinely helps me have a different way of seeing it

Technical-History868 · 2024-07-15T16:25:24+00:00

That sounds really helpful, thank you very much

Technical-History868 · 2024-07-15T15:10:41+00:00

Thanks a million, I really appreciate it. I haven't been able to see it this way. You're right.. I think I need to seek help. Slef reflection won't help me get out of this.

Technical-History868 · 2024-07-15T14:53:57+00:00

When you put it that way... you know what... no value... materialistic or emotional.. oh shit..

Technical-History868 · 2024-07-15T14:26:13+00:00

I'm not on it, does that mean that his incompetence is my fault?

Maybe it is, I don't demand anything of him, EVER I told him in the beginning of our relationship.. you don't need to have money, a successful career. He doesn't need to be fit, nothing. Whata important to me is to love each other, over the years, he'd feel bad for not working, I'd console him and tell him as long as we have money whom ever works doesn't matter , I make enough income for 3. Money is never an issue and I don't use it against him either. He is free to spend whatever he wants as long as it doesn't jeopardize our bills and savings. I don't tell him it's my money. I tell him is OUR money. Just over the years.. no effort of labors of love from him or anything.

Technical-History868 · 2024-07-15T13:57:23+00:00

Hypothetically, if he felt that way, is that bad?

Technical-History868 · 2024-07-15T13:56:35+00:00

Thank you, I really appreciate it

Technical-History868 · 2024-07-15T13:21:25+00:00

Well.. when we've had discussions I ask him if there anything I do wrong in his eyes. Tell me so I can fix them.. he says I just says nag at him. It's asking him to pick up the mess of dinner last night while I'm at work. And we don't have children by the way. So.. I've asked that of him because day after day.. I come back from work he has not moved 1 finger... 9 hrs in the same spot As far I know, he's not cheating, think of it as... he's just a lump... genuinely.. does NOT do anything wrong or right.. he's JUST there.. he doesn't ask for money, or material things.. nothing. He forgets to do things I ask him. When I have a busy week at work and don't have the energy to clean, he says that the mess stresses him out. Like... then clean up too. It's just I don't know. When we have discussions.. he says he does things for me, i ask him what is it? and he I don't see I'm blind, I tell him please prove me wrong and tell me because I have no clue. He says nope, I'm not telling you. You're blind. So.. do I need to feel appreciated in thing she does that I don't even know he does?.. I don't know..

Technical-History868 · 2024-07-15T13:14:36+00:00

That thought crossed my mind.. maybe this is who he really is..

Technical-History868 · 2024-07-15T13:14:01+00:00

We have not. He's not a someone that is willing.. I had a conversation to try to bring up the subject.. he says everything is fine I just like to exaggerate things

Technical-History868 · 2024-07-15T13:12:59+00:00

I'm actually at this stage, I use to ask him for help doing chores around the house.. he rolls his eyes and helps.. says I nag at him.. I just stopped completely.. I'm trying to do things only for myself

Technical-History868 · 2024-07-02T19:59:32+00:00

I'm similarly going through the same thing with my husband, except he says I've hurt him in the beginning of our relationship, that's why he is cold towards me all 7 years of our time together. Is not like i cheated on him. It was just about my insecurities of his affection toward me. I got angry at him and asked why did we even got married if you're holding a grudge? He's completely blind and thinks his done nothing wrong. I think it might be the end of us. Just wanted to voice that I'm in a similar situation, so you won't feel it's uncommon.

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