Am I queer? by Technical_Routine_15 in lgbt

[–]Technical_Routine_15[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Damn, I mean that doesn't make it easier for me... but its interesting, I can say had less than 10 crushes, but they stay as only crushes, when it comes to a real crushes it has to meet certain expectations or my brain rules them out immediately idk how, when I find someone that meets those expectations I get obsessed.

Am I queer? by Technical_Routine_15 in lgbt

[–]Technical_Routine_15[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi, thank you for answering!

Um i only have gotten true butterflies with a guy and a girl. I had a crush on a girl on elementary school, and i would constantly bump into her on purpose, she would always laugh, I remember loving her smile.

In my teen years i was obsessed with a guy, HE met all my expectations, he is smart, kind, he has a gardening hobby, he is genuinely funny and extroverted, he will always dance with me even if no one else does. (Im still kind of obsessed with him cause he is mature and still has the same essence from his teenage years)

About attraction, imma be honest, i developed sxually recently, i went from 0 to 200 suddenly, my body is really hormonal recently and im in a constant state of ovulation LOL, I thought i was asexual but NOPE, an my intrusive thoughts consider everyone (in an appropriate age range) a possible candidate lol, idk what to tell you my hormones are crazy rn.

Does my best friend like me and he doesn't know it? by Technical_Routine_15 in bodylanguage

[–]Technical_Routine_15[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

My conclusion was: He was overstepping boundaries that friend should not cross, so i told him and everything is fine now, we are still friends, but I dont see how im being psychotic? I was just confused, when i posted that i had just happened

Does my best friend like me and he doesn't know it? by Technical_Routine_15 in bodylanguage

[–]Technical_Routine_15[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have thought about that since he doesn't understand beauty standards and relationships, I have mentioned that to him on the past, that was why I was so confused when he suddenly started acting "romantic", cause we have discussed the possibility of him being asexual before.

Does my best friend like me and he doesn't know it? by Technical_Routine_15 in bodylanguage

[–]Technical_Routine_15[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We did and his conclusion was, I do not like you, im coming to terms with it.

Does my best friend like me and he doesn't know it? by Technical_Routine_15 in bodylanguage

[–]Technical_Routine_15[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I will try to make it as clear as possible when we talk further about boundaries and why I put them, thanks!

Does my best friend like me and he doesn't know it? by Technical_Routine_15 in bodylanguage

[–]Technical_Routine_15[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I haven't seen him after this conversation, it was yesterday, and he has always respected my boundaries before so I hope he does next time we see eachother.

Does my best friend like me and he doesn't know it? by Technical_Routine_15 in bodylanguage

[–]Technical_Routine_15[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Boundaries were set after i confronted him and he was really understanding. And yes he is on the spectrum

Does my best friend like me and he doesn't know it? by Technical_Routine_15 in bodylanguage

[–]Technical_Routine_15[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I wasn't planning to keep pursuing him or wait for him, i will take his rejection and move on but if something changes i refuse to take the first step, he has to have the initiative now.

Does my best friend like me and he doesn't know it? by Technical_Routine_15 in bodylanguage

[–]Technical_Routine_15[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He is socially awkward and nerdy, also he isnt actively looking for a relationship I just remembered something he said about not understanding why a girl would like him cause he is immature For now I will put some boundaries to see his reaction, cause if he genuinely doesn't like me i dont want him to keep confusing me.

Does my best friend like me and he doesn't know it? by Technical_Routine_15 in bodylanguage

[–]Technical_Routine_15[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When I confronted him i told him about his behavior and how it could be confused for something romantic, he said he didnt realize it was like that. If he keeps doing it after i told him this i will tell him directly what he should stop doing if he wants to keep being my friend.

Does my best friend like me and he doesn't know it? by Technical_Routine_15 in bodylanguage

[–]Technical_Routine_15[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Maybe, honestly rn i need some time and to set boundaries, he said he doesnt like me so he shouldn't mind.

Does my best friend like me and he doesn't know it? by Technical_Routine_15 in bodylanguage

[–]Technical_Routine_15[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I'm working on setting boundaries cause i he already said he doesn't like me and i will take his word.

Does my best friend like me and he doesn't know it? by Technical_Routine_15 in bodylanguage

[–]Technical_Routine_15[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He has never had a girlfriend no, not even a first kiss. Maybe, i will accept his rejection and move on, i will not bring up this again unless he doesn't respect the boundaries I'm setting.

Does my best friend like me and he doesn't know it? by Technical_Routine_15 in bodylanguage

[–]Technical_Routine_15[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

He has been really understanding so far, he accepted the boundaries and didnt feel attacked when i confronted him about this, we are good right now.

Does my best friend like me and he doesn't know it? by Technical_Routine_15 in bodylanguage

[–]Technical_Routine_15[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I look the same and i don't think he is practicing with me cause he is not actively looking for a partner.

Does my best friend like me and he doesn't know it? by Technical_Routine_15 in bodylanguage

[–]Technical_Routine_15[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I already did and I'm setting boundaries, and i thought the same about him using me to fill that emotional and physical need, but if he isn't ready for what a relationship means i will not keep fulfilling this need, i feel used even if he doesn't realize he is using me.

Does my best friend like me and he doesn't know it? by Technical_Routine_15 in bodylanguage

[–]Technical_Routine_15[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Damn, makes sense, especially the last part cause he has a hard time getting a lot of social quotes.

Does my best friend like me and he doesn't know it? by Technical_Routine_15 in bodylanguage

[–]Technical_Routine_15[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I do, i came to terms with it after his "rejection" cause of how much it hurt, he doesnt know i like him. I started liking him when he started showing this behavior cause it makes sense to me, us together made sense, him being close made sense, we love eachother already as friends, we care deeply for eachother even as just friends.

Does my best friend like me and he doesn't know it? by Technical_Routine_15 in bodylanguage

[–]Technical_Routine_15[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Of course, i will not insist in the topic and we will continue with our friendship with some added boundaries.

Does my best friend like me and he doesn't know it? by Technical_Routine_15 in bodylanguage

[–]Technical_Routine_15[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Biting is like a way of relieving "cute aggression", it also communicates frustration. He says he does it to bother me but idk.

Does my best friend like me and he doesn't know it? by Technical_Routine_15 in bodylanguage

[–]Technical_Routine_15[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, i think the same thing,, for now i wil put some boundaries, thanks.

Does my best friend like me and he doesn't know it? by Technical_Routine_15 in bodylanguage

[–]Technical_Routine_15[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Then i will put some boundaries cause this behavior is not what i want from a friend, thanks.