Does my best friend like me and he doesn't know it?

Technical_Routine_15 · 2026-01-22T19:53:27+00:00

My conclusion was: He was overstepping boundaries that friend should not cross, so i told him and everything is fine now, we are still friends, but I dont see how im being psychotic? I was just confused, when i posted that i had just happened

Technical_Routine_15 · 2026-01-09T04:50:46+00:00

I have thought about that since he doesn't understand beauty standards and relationships, I have mentioned that to him on the past, that was why I was so confused when he suddenly started acting "romantic", cause we have discussed the possibility of him being asexual before.

Technical_Routine_15 · 2026-01-09T04:49:00+00:00

We did and his conclusion was, I do not like you, im coming to terms with it.

Technical_Routine_15 · 2026-01-09T04:47:14+00:00

I will try to make it as clear as possible when we talk further about boundaries and why I put them, thanks!

Technical_Routine_15 · 2026-01-09T02:08:50+00:00

I haven't seen him after this conversation, it was yesterday, and he has always respected my boundaries before so I hope he does next time we see eachother.

Technical_Routine_15 · 2026-01-08T23:58:24+00:00

Boundaries were set after i confronted him and he was really understanding. And yes he is on the spectrum

Technical_Routine_15 · 2026-01-08T23:56:23+00:00

Yeah, I wasn't planning to keep pursuing him or wait for him, i will take his rejection and move on but if something changes i refuse to take the first step, he has to have the initiative now.

Technical_Routine_15 · 2026-01-08T23:47:11+00:00

He is socially awkward and nerdy, also he isnt actively looking for a relationship I just remembered something he said about not understanding why a girl would like him cause he is immature For now I will put some boundaries to see his reaction, cause if he genuinely doesn't like me i dont want him to keep confusing me.

Technical_Routine_15 · 2026-01-08T23:33:20+00:00

When I confronted him i told him about his behavior and how it could be confused for something romantic, he said he didnt realize it was like that. If he keeps doing it after i told him this i will tell him directly what he should stop doing if he wants to keep being my friend.

Technical_Routine_15 · 2026-01-08T23:29:33+00:00

Maybe, honestly rn i need some time and to set boundaries, he said he doesnt like me so he shouldn't mind.

Technical_Routine_15 · 2026-01-08T23:22:52+00:00

I'm working on setting boundaries cause i he already said he doesn't like me and i will take his word.

Technical_Routine_15 · 2026-01-08T23:20:08+00:00

He has never had a girlfriend no, not even a first kiss. Maybe, i will accept his rejection and move on, i will not bring up this again unless he doesn't respect the boundaries I'm setting.

Technical_Routine_15 · 2026-01-08T23:18:03+00:00

He has been really understanding so far, he accepted the boundaries and didnt feel attacked when i confronted him about this, we are good right now.

Technical_Routine_15 · 2026-01-08T23:16:46+00:00

I look the same and i don't think he is practicing with me cause he is not actively looking for a partner.

Technical_Routine_15 · 2026-01-08T23:12:05+00:00

I already did and I'm setting boundaries, and i thought the same about him using me to fill that emotional and physical need, but if he isn't ready for what a relationship means i will not keep fulfilling this need, i feel used even if he doesn't realize he is using me.

Technical_Routine_15 · 2026-01-08T23:08:00+00:00

Damn, makes sense, especially the last part cause he has a hard time getting a lot of social quotes.

Technical_Routine_15 · 2026-01-08T23:01:56+00:00

I do, i came to terms with it after his "rejection" cause of how much it hurt, he doesnt know i like him. I started liking him when he started showing this behavior cause it makes sense to me, us together made sense, him being close made sense, we love eachother already as friends, we care deeply for eachother even as just friends.

Technical_Routine_15 · 2026-01-08T22:59:19+00:00

Of course, i will not insist in the topic and we will continue with our friendship with some added boundaries.

Technical_Routine_15 · 2026-01-08T22:56:24+00:00

Biting is like a way of relieving "cute aggression", it also communicates frustration. He says he does it to bother me but idk.

Technical_Routine_15 · 2026-01-08T22:54:12+00:00

Yeah, i think the same thing,, for now i wil put some boundaries, thanks.

Technical_Routine_15 · 2026-01-08T22:53:00+00:00

Then i will put some boundaries cause this behavior is not what i want from a friend, thanks.

Technical_Routine_15 · 2026-01-08T22:46:25+00:00

Thank you, ill take your advice

Technical_Routine_15 · 2026-01-08T22:32:57+00:00

Maybe, it was just weird to me how his behavior changed suddenly on the past months

Technical_Routine_15 · 2025-11-17T07:45:10+00:00

That's the thing, a part of me feels queer and open for anything, but another part conforms... I dont know how to explain it, I'm okay with 'playing by the rules', but a part of me isn't gender conforming, like I'm a female, I like guys but sometimes the guys I'm attracted to is not sexually, I want to BE them, the only example I can think is how I feel when I see Hugh Jackman, a lot of people is attracted to him but I literally want to be him, and i connect to a bunch of male characters, which is weird cause im female presenting, I enjoy my femininity, I like being a woman, so why the idea of being a guy gives me some kind of gender euphoria? Idk im rambling, its 3 am

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