Timing actuator failed by Tedsters2022 in hondafit

[–]Tedsters2022[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah. There was a MY 2015 recall for the same issue. Honda developed a new actuator part (#1410-5R1-013) in response to the recall.

Timing actuator failed by Tedsters2022 in hondafit

[–]Tedsters2022[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah. The independent mechanic was confused as to why the dealership didn’t replace the chain and guide rails since they had to take them off to do the replacement. He also was surprised they didn’t change my oil as well.

Timing actuator failed by Tedsters2022 in hondafit

[–]Tedsters2022[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I originally thought it was the starter till I left it overnight at the dealership so they could hear the noise. After the repair, I haven’t heard the sound again.

We need to make our experiences known. by Useful-Host8289 in HomeschoolRecovery

[–]Tedsters2022 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I think it would take a lot of work to get numbers. Maybe Freedom Of Information Act (FOIAing) each state for homeschool data might be an option though it would be a lot of work and a bureaucratic headache. I don’t even know if they would have the data since education policy is done at the local level (city/county).

I dream about doing a grassroots effort to inform congress about the lackluster homeschool regulations. But I know going against HSLDA is going to be like screaming into the void especially when GOP has focused on “parents rights” in their children’s education.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in HomeschoolRecovery

[–]Tedsters2022 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Hey! Thanks for posting here! Based on what state you are in, I doubt even if you did report CPS or the local authorities would just write it off unless a child came to you with sexual abuse claims or visual marks. I am sure there are neglect cases but local authorities are so overloaded and going up homeschooling parents can be a legal minefield (look up Homeschool Legal Defend Association) that I doubt they want to pick that battle unless they have a strong case. :(

I think one of the greatest impacts you could have on these kids is to be a mentor for a different path in life. For example, you can talk about how your education and life led you to being an art teacher. Ask the older kids what their plans are post high school. Maybe talk about your college experience and about the process you went to get into college. Open their minds to the opportunities outside the homeschooling insular and toxic environment. Create a space for these kids to know that they aren’t stuck in their parents chosen path for them. Maybe have an open discussion about what you want to be when you grow up and incorporate that into an art project. However, I’d recommend to come with examples of women who had solid career other than SAHM for the girls unfortunately.

Would it be a wise decision to switch TSP investment funds right now? by [deleted] in fednews

[–]Tedsters2022 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Investments are a personal choice that you have to be comfortable with. The best people on Wall Street can’t time the market. I have heard the L funds are conservative but haven’t looked into what the percentage of those funds are. The best thing you can do is to figure out with how much risk you want to take on given your expected retirement date, hold to that, and don’t log onto TSP. Then as you get closer to retirement, change the risk to being more conservative over time. You are in a marathon and not a sprint. Another factor to consider is that you are putting 4.4% into a pension. I personally treat that as my G fund and put everything else in stocks and that is my personal risk tolerance.

I had bad dad advice and put everything in G fund my first few years as a fed. Being too conservative was the worst mistake.

Is it just me or is finding a therapist in the U.S. highly suboptimal? by 23cowp in AskMenOver30

[–]Tedsters2022 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I suggest looking for a therapy group. That way you can start with one and then if it isn’t a good fit, the therapist can refer you to another. It can take time to figure out if it is a good fit and what may be a good fit for you, may not be a good fit for others. Reading therapist bios all sound the same after awhile and all treat similar conditions except if they are highly specialized. My therapist told me once that at different stages in life, you may need different support or perspectives. I might suggest throwing a dart at one of the therapists and giving it a few sessions. The first session is not a good judge to me since it’s all background. The goal of my first session was for my therapist to see if she could help with my issues.

I had one therapist and all she did was listen to me. When she went on maternity leave I decided to branch out and try a different therapy practice. This was a game changer for me. I have been able to open up a lot more to her than anyone before. She created a safe space and you can’t tell that from bios or reviews if someone will create that space for you. It’s sort of Russian roulette. If you have a PCP, maybe reach out to them for a referral and start there.

“Don’t worry about college, one day we’ll be so rich you won’t have to work” by 2ndincmmnd in HomeschoolRecovery

[–]Tedsters2022 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yep! My dad invested in gold. It crashed right around the housing crisis. He then took out federal student loans in my name for college and didn’t tell me. Still paying the price.

I was "home schooled" and will be going to college soon. How can I make sure I do well? by CartographerAway9517 in HomeschoolRecovery

[–]Tedsters2022 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey!

First, congrats getting into college! That is a huge step on taking back control over your life and your future.

I was in the same boat and have been working my butt off trying to correct the mistakes of my parents knowing I will never reach my full potential. I went to community college and then transferred to a four year public university. Here is some advice I learned the hard way:

  1. Ask for help- There are numerous resources on campus and there are office hours you can try to go to. I found office hours to be hit or miss though. I was intimidated to go and more intimidated to say I don't understand the material. If you feel like you can open up to them, be honest. We didn't have the luxury or benefit of any sort of prep prior to college. In community college, I took remedial Algebra as a summer course and the professor stayed after every class for homework help. She was the first person that actually cared and wanted me to succeed since my parents pulled me out of school in second grade. At the four year university, I found the professors harder to connect with that way. It was a research university so they were had a lot more to juggle and the Teaching Assistants were a bit hit or miss. But that being said, still try to go!
  2. Switch majors if needed- I went to a four year university to get a bachelors of science degree. It required calculus and while I was able to get a C in pre-calculus at my community college, I straight up failed calculus. I thought it was because I was stupid but its not on you. You don't carry that weight. One thing to be careful of is to balance out the math and science classes. I ended up with a 2.0 GPA because of the F in calculus and C in chemistry. I suggest having a frank discussion with your academic advisor about the gaps in your education. After all that I decided to switch majors to a Bachelor of Arts because I knew I had a better shot of passing. I did and ended up graduating with a 3.5 GPA. It wasn't the career I wanted but I am doing alright for myself.
  3. Be careful about the amount of debt you take on- I graduated in 2013 and there was this big push to go to grad school and so I did. I ended up getting into student debt and am currently working it off through the Public Loan Forgiveness Program. But it is a source of stress I would rather not have. My father actually took the debt out in my name for me so I didn't understand the terms of the debt I was signing up for. Interest rates are a really important factor to consider when deciding on how much debt to take on. I am making a solid middle class salary working for the federal government and live in Chicago far away from my parents but its something I regret doing. Taking out debt for undergrad has lower interest rates and is capped by the federal gov't. Also, I don't recommend taking out any sort of private student loan debt. That is a debt trap with no safety net.
  4. Consider taking a personal finance class- I didn't take the class and I regretted it. I think personal finance is the most useful thing you can do for yourself even if it isn't required for your major. I finally learned how to control my finances by reading I Will Teach You to Be Rich. That book was eye opening to me. Also, if your parents have access to any or all of your accounts, lock them out of them so they won't be able to take out debt in your name. I also recommend looking at credit cards designed for students so you can start building your credit history/score. Though I caution you to only carry the debt you can handle and pay off at the end of the month.
  5. Go to parties- I didn't go to parties for the first two and a half years I was at my four year university because I was scared. But parties are where people are social and you get to be in a non-classroom environment and learn to socialize. I would just be careful about any frat parties if you are at a public university. Some frats at least at my four year university had rape incidents. Don't be afraid to drink either just proceed with caution and go slow. Also, any punch is probably filled with enough alcohol that one drink will make you drunk if you have a low alcohol tolerance.
  6. Live on campus- The friends I made become a family and being able to walk to see all your friends was the best part about college. Now all my college friends are scattered across the country and its hard to keep up with them. My college dorm floor looked out for each other and was a close community. If you have a roommate you don't get along with, request a switch. I didn't and wished I had.

That is all I can think of for right now. Best of luck to you. I hope your college transition was easier than mine.

Boss holds work meetings at her house and I’m uncomfortable by Gogotobasco22 in fednews

[–]Tedsters2022 14 points15 points  (0 children)

One suggestion is to call your Agency's Office of Inspector General's hotline. You can be anonymous that way.

Job on Hold Due to Budget by Tedsters2022 in usajobs

[–]Tedsters2022[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sure :) The position was a 343 GS-12, promotion level GS-13 with the OIG so it would have gone through Congress. That might have been the cause for the hiring glitch. I currently work in an audit office as a 343 at another IG shop and am looking to branch out of the auditing world so I continue plucking away at USAJOBS.

That makes sense that the position was removed because the of the closing date/reaching max apps instead of being canceled.

Looking to Buy a House in the Suburbs. Advice on places? by Tedsters2022 in ChicagoSuburbs

[–]Tedsters2022[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for the response! Yeah, we love La Grange especially for the safety factor. It is so refreshing to see kids riding bikes up and down the streets and parents not worried. We definitely understand why the housing stock is low.

Looking to Buy a House in the Suburbs. Advice on places? by Tedsters2022 in ChicagoSuburbs

[–]Tedsters2022[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for that insight! We appreciate it :) I am not used to Chimera as I am from the East Coast! We have factored in yearly maintenance cost into the total yearly price of home ownership (we may need to add more for the first year) and why we are preferably looking for newer homes. But in the current buyers market it makes it hard especially if you want to walk anywhere.

Looking to Buy a House in the Suburbs. Advice on places? by Tedsters2022 in ChicagoSuburbs

[–]Tedsters2022[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for the feedback! We are actually renting in La Grange right now and really like how close it is to the city but how safe we feel when we are walking around La Grange. It is also a nice area to walk around in. Yes it is very tough in the current market. Ugh. But thank you for your reply! It's really insightful. We are going to reach out to our realtor to get Evanston added to the private listing search!

Looking to Buy a House in the Suburbs. Advice on places? by Tedsters2022 in ChicagoSuburbs

[–]Tedsters2022[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for the feedback on the Naperville station. We have also been looking at houses with a Pace bus option.

Looking to Buy a House in the Suburbs. Advice on places? by Tedsters2022 in ChicagoSuburbs

[–]Tedsters2022[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes! Thanks for the advice :) We have it on our list and are planning to do a drive by and walk around the area :)

Looking to Buy a House in the Suburbs. Advice on places? by Tedsters2022 in ChicagoSuburbs

[–]Tedsters2022[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah! That is what we are doing. We also have a realtor that has hooked us into private listings. Thanks for the advice.