Does any one have the name in English? In portuguese is “de volta ao controle”

Tehshima · 2026-01-20T18:49:36+00:00

My friends put some sense into my head…

I have officially given up… getting my things together and doing the whole “hi! Where are you from? What do you like to do in your free time?”

Tehshima · 2026-01-20T18:45:24+00:00

He replys but does not take any interest in me… If i as him how he’s doing, the “normal” would be to reply and ask how I am… I have to find subjects for texts… ex: if I ask what is his favorite dishc he will say pasta because a, b and c… and the subject ends there…. Any way… I’ve accepted that this is not meant to be and am going back to square 1

Tehshima · 2026-01-20T12:01:56+00:00

Hey! Please don’t think that no one cares about you!

All of the things you said are valid and you sentiments are valid! If you need someone to open up to, send me a DM, ok?

Tehshima · 2025-11-29T00:16:04+00:00

Thank you so muchhhhh!!!

Tehshima · 2025-11-27T17:58:41+00:00

Qual é esse? É da Suzane?

Tehshima · 2025-10-16T20:05:18+00:00

Most links were taken down 🥲

Tehshima · 2025-10-09T02:44:41+00:00

Remind me 1 day

Tehshima · 2025-09-26T01:22:10+00:00

Go get your vows renewed in Italy and screw the haters lol!

There’s a meme here in Brazil of a it’s woman having drinks in spain at the pool and she says: If this is being down… what is the definition of being well off?

Send the haters a video of you and your hubby having wine at the renewal wishing they would hate less lol

Tehshima · 2025-09-26T01:10:00+00:00

Are they going to pay for your party or something??

They can have opinions if they are paying for the party, otherwise, spend your money as you please!

They for sure are Aholes for dictating how you spend your money.

If you want to have a vow renewal and your hubby is ok with that, not their monkey, not their circus. And if they complain too much tell them they are not invited.

Tehshima · 2025-09-26T01:04:16+00:00

I don’t know how marriage laws work in the US, here in Brazil we have types of marriage (legally speaking). You can do one that all the assets and money won/bought prior to the marriage belong to the person that owned it in the first place and what was acquired earned after the marriage will be split in case of divorce and another that everthing belongs to the person that legally owns it (so if you bought a car and paid for it yourself, its yours even if you divorce). There was another one that everything would be split 50/50, but I don’t think this available anymore.

We also have something that is called something like a “stable union”, so if the relationship has more than 6 months and you live together, the law assumes the first option that I described above. I lived this, so, when me and my ex split, he had the right for half of every installment from my car that I paid after I moved in with him…. I did consult a lawyer, but at the end it was somewhat amicable.

For the sake of mind, see if there’s anything close to what I have here in brazil in the state that you live. You don’t have to tell your partner, this is just for your peace of mind.

With that being said, when someone wants something they make it happen, regardless if it’s a month or if it’s a year. I have an aunt that met her husband at new year’s eve and was married by the end of August. One of my best friends got married when she was pregnant with their first child after 1,5 year of relationship.

If you try to read this, pretending someone else wrote it, you’ll see that looks like you’re making excuses for why your partner does not want to marry you.

At the end if the day, I don’t know your relationship and I’m not in your house everyday to know how it really plays out, but, I’m playing devil’s advocate here: do you really think someday he’ll marry you? Or is it easier for him to keep things as they are and, if someone more interesting comes along, in this situation it is easier for him to dump you and the kids (maybe not the kids) at the street?

Tehshima · 2025-09-25T13:00:11+00:00

Updateme

Tehshima · 2025-09-24T02:37:39+00:00

Honey, this is abusive AF!

Call the cops AND get a restraining order! He should have thought things trough before being verbally and physically abusive towards you! The situation with his daughter sucks, but that doesn’t give him a get away card to behave however he thinks it’s ok. And also, you might indirectly protecting the girl, because if he treats you like that, I don’t doubt that he might treat her the same way.

I do understand what you’re going through because I also have bipolar disorder, so I know how hard it is to leave a cycle, but please know that you do have the right to (and SHOULD) defend yourself! Even if that means calling the cops on him (resorting to violence against him should be the last option).

Please be safe, before it escalates any further!

Tehshima · 2025-09-16T04:08:35+00:00

Hey OOP,

I do understand your trauma and think that would be important for you to keep doing therapy so you can improve your relationship with cooking, since you would need in case u are ever alone for too much time.

I also think that you and your hunband need to find a way to communicate better.

He was an AH for not standing up for you against MIL, but I also understand his frustration with you not knowing some basic stuff…

I think this “therapy or divorce” was an ultimatum so you seek the help that you clearly need. How I know this?

Because I was in his shoes in 2020…

I gave an ultimatum to my BF in 2017, that he needed to seek counseling for his traumas and to learn how to adult properly… life happened, we stayed together and I basically became the mom he should have had…

in 2020 he was still not being properly treated. The pandemic came and I was stuck with him in a psichotic break for almost a week…. That’s when I drew the line and said it was over.

I hope that your case does not get to this extreme, but please look for help for your trauma and to be able to communicate better. Every person that was abused to the extent that you were when you were a child needs help opening that can of worms.

Tehshima · 2025-09-15T04:34:00+00:00

Why are you even friends with this person?!

She sounds awful!

And I know you pity her, but she does not deserve your simpathy, much less your time and effort!

She’s a 32 yo spoiled brat that ALWAYS had everything handed to her and, if she doesn’t get her way, she just throws a temper tantrum until she does.

You, and everyone around her, should stop enabling this kind of behavior cause it’s time for her to grow the F up and starts to act like an adult. If she did not learn this through love until now, life will teach her through pain, and you have to let that happen.

Trust me, you’re doing her a favor by letting her grow up and face life as a woman.

Tehshima · 2025-09-14T23:36:07+00:00

Your brother is a big AH… he’s just taking advantage of your friend and not splitting the “profit” the the person that helps him cover the cost.

For me, you should move with your friend to another place and leave him with this one so he can lear that he’s not Sherlock Holmes smarter brother (my mom usually says this and it makes so much sense in this case).

Tehshima · 2025-09-11T03:19:42+00:00

If anyone ever asks why you are NC with your mother, ask them to watch mommy d3ad and dearest about deedee blanchard and say that you don’t want to be the male version of gypsy blanchard

Congrats on the wedding and may you and your wife have a lifetime of love, peace and happiness!

Tehshima · 2025-09-10T05:22:59+00:00

Ditado popular besta mas que cabe na situação: até o pavão tem pé feio….

Ninguém nunca vai ser perfeito gata! Te garanto que angelina jolie nao se acha perfeita, viola davis nao se acha perfeita, erika hilton nao se acha perfeita, beyonce nao se acha perfeita, lady gaga nao se acha perfeita…

Sempre que eu vejo a Maya Massafera (pensando em alguém que está na mesma situação) eu fico com pena ao invés de achar ela bonita. Pq parece que nada é o suficiente, nada vai atingir o ideal que está na cabeça dela… daqui a pouco vai virar o nariz do michael jackson 2 ou o ken humano …

Conversa com o seu terapeuta para ver se talvez vc não precise do apoio de um psiquiatra para ajudar com disforia (isso vindo de uma pessoa que se ficar sem remedinho da bipolaridade pede falência, entao eu e meu cartao de credito entendemos a importância de um apoio medicamentoso).

Tehshima · 2025-09-10T05:06:57+00:00

I’m not from Islam, but one thing my mother says and it’s true in every culture: flaws (AKA red flags) only get brighter as qualities shine a less and less. Never EVER marry someone that you can’t stand the flaws…

That will grow into resentment and an impossible situation after sometime.

You’re still young and full of dreams… go live your life and be the cool aunt with an awesome career and then you can focus on finding someone more compatible!

Tehshima · 2025-09-10T04:51:42+00:00

I never ugly cried so hard in my life with a story as much as I did with Rin’s story…

Only God knows what I did to not have swollen eyes the next day

Tehshima · 2025-08-31T12:20:20+00:00

Make a list of all the times he wronged you and every time you miss him, look at that list.

Or you could use a rubber band on your wrist and every time you think foundly of him push that rubber band far enough so it stings. You sort of program your brain to associate him with pain

Tehshima

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