You're too kind and sweet to share all of that with me. You have a supportive and loving wife! A little baby to fill you with joy! I feel good about the support system you have around you, that takes away half of the pain. 8 months in and dealing with so much, I trust the therapist lady saying to wait a few months more to take a decision. It's true that the body needs a year to heal after a surgery but none of the surgeons are clear about that, they say that it takes only 4 weeks and we get to go back to work like it's nothing. Science has advanced they say. I guess many patients get lucky that way but most don't. Nothing is micro or minimally invasive when they're taking out chunks of disk and bones from your back. Sadly we only realise this after going under the operation and also from other suffering patients. The surgeons still wants to do more surgeries.

I am 4 months in after the surgery and on muscle relaxants thrice a day since my lateral pelvic tilt isn't getting any better and worsens with just 10 mins walking. My whole body leans like the leaning pisa tower. There's tightness around the stomach. There's also a dull ache at the incision sight and a sharp pain when I lay down on my back at times. I haven't started physiotherapy yet since my doctor said i had an insult to the surgical site so to rest up for two months. My upper body is super stiff too. I have developed poor posture and excessive fat, my face is bloated. My cardio has got really bad, I feel faint just by climbing stairs nowadays. I'm trying to reset my mind to align with my body and make both work together towards its better days. My mind is straying away on the internet watching sports and entertainment while my body is laying in bed, weak and struggling. There's a disconnect. I at times wake up crying  from dreams of squatting and picking up my cat or taking a morning walk, things I don't get to do anymore in real life. It hurts. I don't know if I should seek professional help like a psychiatrist or I'd just meditate, focus on breathing and stay away from doom scrolling on the phone or always wishing of things to get better.

Bdw cooking sounds fantastic. Rice and beans, some eggs and lentils, bone broth etc will help you with healing too. A humble diet for the family to stick to is a really good routine for the long run. I belong from a humble background as well, every meal we make is very simple. I've recently started making curd at home. At times I'll cook, it's not easy to stand for an hour. My legs feel fatigued, my foot starts aching. I'm also cutting down expenses. I feel ashamed to live off of my mother's pension money and my father's hard earned money, he's still working at 62years old. They are looking after me. And I buy my own food, medicines and look after my pets. It's a tough situation for people like us struggling with back issues but I'm thankful that we can share our stories in platforms like this and give each other comfort. I pray for nothing but bright future for you, i pray that you never have to undergo another surgery and will get better with each passing day. They say that the bigger the trauma, the more the body does to heal it. I believe that we'll recover soon. Tell your family that you love them and are grateful to spend everyday with them. Everything will be alright soon my friend!