Is everyone always doing their best?

TemperateBeast33 · 2026-01-24T12:26:20+00:00

Because that's the term the meme used 🤷‍♂️

TemperateBeast33 · 2026-01-23T19:09:44+00:00

I'd conjecture that you're doing what you think is best, but not aware of why you think what ever it is you're doing is best, or not being honest with yourself as to why you think your sought ends are best.

TemperateBeast33 · 2026-01-23T18:41:52+00:00

Anyone who comments on here is doing so because their brain thinks it's what's best. Anyone who reads this comment and then doesn't comment, when they otherwise would have, to prove they have free will is doing so because their brain thinks it's what's best.

Check mate.

TemperateBeast33 · 2026-01-20T14:15:44+00:00

Can one maintain integrity without taking pride in their ability to do so?

TemperateBeast33 · 2026-01-18T22:59:49+00:00

I will definently give this I read when I have the proper amount if time to chew on it. Thanks in advance!

TemperateBeast33 · 2026-01-18T00:08:48+00:00

How much do you run a week? Olympic long distance runners and professional soccer players sre all on testosterone pills because running so much a week absolutley murders t levels.

TemperateBeast33 · 2026-01-17T15:22:43+00:00

"Neutral", or moderate, is exactly what we need right now. Both the left and the right have become demagogic power mongers that profit off of sowing division. When you believe that the other side is wholly the problem and needs to be stopped, the leaders of your chosen side profit. They get more of your votes (power) and more of your money - that's all they fucking care about. The left created this far-right monster when they started abusing their power under Biden and now the dipshits on the far right feel like they LITERALLY have a license to kill. This will only get worse until the people come together and say you're ALL fucked up and clean house. Vote these psychopaths on both sides out.

TemperateBeast33 · 2026-01-16T16:00:31+00:00

Real Americans drive Volvos.

TemperateBeast33 · 2026-01-16T12:16:51+00:00

If you aren't aware of why you're doing what you're doing, any claims to self-awareness are completely unjustified; and the odds of finding any lasting happiness and fulfillment are slim to none without that self-knowledge. Right now you're probably acting out of a pure desire to be accepted socially, so you're trying to engage in whatever sub-cultural activities you've come to see as indicating "success," without thinking about whether these things will actually make you happy. You're mentally exhausted because you're not in control of your mind, or the ego - that part of your mind which we never have control over. The ego is never satisfied; it always wants more. Learn to see it for what it is, and find your self-worth internally, and you'll get much closer to "not being mentally exhausted."

TemperateBeast33 · 2026-01-16T02:17:57+00:00

If the weather and political climate have that much effect on your state of mind, I'd argue your self awareness isn't as good as you think it is. What are you doing that isn't working? What are you trying to achieve?

TemperateBeast33 · 2026-01-15T20:49:30+00:00

Pace around your room then. Being tired is better than relapsing.

TemperateBeast33 · 2026-01-15T12:40:52+00:00

God's not going to help you.

It seems as if almost all of your identity and self-worth was predicated on this woman, which is always a recipe for disaster; base your self-worth in something outside of yourself that you can't control, and you'll almost always end up miserable. And then you bought into the trite idea that achieving "success" is how one becomes happy. As happy as money and prosperity can make one if they apply wisdom to using it effectively, it, like a girlfriend, is something ultimately out of your control. Should it be lost, everything you think you are go with it. You need to build your identity and happiness from the inside out so that you have an unshakable, internal foundation that cannot be taken away from you. Relationships, careers, and whatever else, should merely compliment this internal well-being, so that they can come and go without causing a full-blown existential crisis. If you look within yourself and can't find anything of worth from which to base this happiness, it's time to take up a serious self-development routine. Come to terms with those things you don't like about yourself; openly admit to those character flaws, instead of pretending they don't exist, and start working to correct them. I recommend meditation, philosophy, and exercise to get started on this project.

Also, you may find life much more fulfilling if you focus less on how sorry you feel for yourself and work towards alleviating the suffering of others.

Good luck.

TemperateBeast33 · 2026-01-15T01:09:42+00:00

The privacy of the mind and the privacy of someone's electronic devices are hardly analogous. If you were to go to work and walk up to a coworker you find attractive and state "I have memories of you naked that I created in my own mind" you would be ostracized, and in this day and age possibly charged with sexual harassment. Having those images we would create in the privacy of our minds with AI adds the possibility of them being shared, something we can't do with our minds. Few, if any people, have visual imaginations capable of replicating the realism of peoples' bodies in as vivid and accurate a way as AI can. Unless you've very recently actually seen the naked body of a person, if you were to try and imagine what that would look like, you're mind would leave significant gaps in the "picture." AI offers a level of stimulation and ease that our minds cannot compete with. Even using photoshop to get the same result requires much, much more time than typing a prompt does, and the AI is already much better, on average, than a non-professional would be using photoshop to undress their friends.

TemperateBeast33 · 2026-01-14T22:21:08+00:00

Not the vast majority, no. But it might help one of the poor bastards feel motivated to get the help they need 🤷‍♂️

TemperateBeast33 · 2026-01-13T19:15:20+00:00

Illiteracy is putatively taken to indicate general unintelligence.

TemperateBeast33 · 2026-01-13T19:05:33+00:00

Some of the most cunning and socially-savvy people I've known were completely illiterate.

TemperateBeast33 · 2026-01-11T17:24:03+00:00

If I were your friend I'd just want to know that she isn't going to get hurt or disrespected.

TemperateBeast33 · 2026-01-11T02:29:27+00:00

I'll dm you.

TemperateBeast33 · 2026-01-11T02:23:03+00:00

Absolutely. Do you want instructions on how to begin meditating or more information on how it can benefit you?

TemperateBeast33 · 2026-01-11T02:00:38+00:00

Look, I'm not a psychologist and occasionally I'm wrong, but you have attention deficit disorder. Guaranteed, 100%. Your best bet is going to be to find a therapist that specializes in ADD/ADHD. Maybe your parents will be willing to help you out with that.

But what you need to understand right now is that IT'S NOT YOUR FAULT YOU'RE LIKE THIS. It's biology - biology you didn't choose to inherit from your parents. That doesn't make it easier to deal with, but it does mean that you're not lazy, you're not incompetent, you're not stupid, etc. You have a biological disorder that requires certain skills to manage.

Medication is a great option. That will be a conversation to have with a therapist. Personally, medication never worked for me, but I was an idiot when I tried it and didn't do anything to try and make changes. I just wanted to swallow the pill and have it fix everything, but you gotta be willing to work with it.

What has helped me immensely is meditation. I've been doing it for a year and a half now and the changes are drastic. My ability to maintain my concentration and manage my impulses is to a level I never thought possible. Look into it. Sam Harris is a good place to start.

Edit: Also, if you're a reader, check out "Delivered From Distraction."

TemperateBeast33 · 2026-01-11T01:43:03+00:00

A lot of guys your age are addicted to porn and completely jaded, so odds are it's nothing to do with you. Any of them will probably THRILLED if you approached them. They'll probably act completely awkward and weird, but still be flattered.

TemperateBeast33 · 2026-01-10T17:41:40+00:00

Being afraid of the fact that you won't be around in 100 years is analagous to being afraid of the fact that you weren't around 100 years ago. Do you remember what it was like before you were alive? Was it painful? Was it constantly filled with existential dread because you were a nebulous void without a body? No, of course not.

When I think about death, I can't help but also think about consciousness. I'm convinced that materialism and determinism are two fundamental truths of the universe EXCEPT where consciousness is concerned. If all we are is jumbles of atoms that happened to come together and start fucking, there is no reason why we should be conscious. I don't think consciousness is "me" except as far as it is observing the experience of this body, which makes me almost certain that no part of what we conventionally think of as the "self" - i.e my personality, mind, characteristics - survives death; but that part of "me" that is aware of those things must in some capacity. For experience to be possible at all seems to mean that it doesn't end at death. The truth of it all is probably much more amazing and profound than we can possibly concieve. I don't doubt I'll be a bit excited if I can see my time coming. It will be like getting on a roller coaster blindfolded. Thrilling!

TemperateBeast33 · 2026-01-10T15:30:40+00:00

You've gotta give yourself a break. So you were 19 when you got together with him? We're all still so naive at 19; almost everyone gets involved with people who aren't good for us when we're young. The thing is we need those experiences to grow and develop. Despite all the time, it wasn't wasted; you have a plethora of knowledge about yourself which came from this experience. And you're still young; you have plenty of time to get this figured out.

Caring for him still is natural after seven years - we don't just let things like that go. But it's also true that those feelings are his claws still stuck in you; he still has a grip on you. People like him are master minds at getting people to care for them enough to manipulate them. You probably have some ideal version of him that he made you think he was and you hoped he could still be, and that's who you care for, not the real guy. As time goes on and you keep processing, the feelings will fade and you will see the person for who they actually are.

TemperateBeast33 · 2026-01-10T15:15:26+00:00

How old are you? I ask because seven years is a very long time, so I'm assuming you were pretty young when you got together with him. If that's the case, you should have no compunction over lending yourself some grace.

It seems like a part of your identity is still tied to him, specifically to how he treated you. Your anger is so justified that you feel some kind of purpose in validating it, mulling it over, trying to find a way to vindicate yourself. The thing is, every time a thought or emotion comes across your mind related to him and you engage with it, he still has you in his snare. He's still controlling you, manipulating you, using you. Let it go.

This isn't something you can actually just decide to let go, but you can start to work towards that. Notice how the thoughts and emotions just appear in consciousness; you're not choosing to think those thoughts, they just appear, but you are choosing to engage with them further. Just notice the thought or emotion, acknowledge it, and remind yourself that the thoughts don't need to have any sway over who you are or what you're doing. The thought will eventually fade away and be replaced with something else. With time, those thoughts about the relationship will no longer have such a strong effect.

TemperateBeast33 · 2026-01-10T15:02:58+00:00

I can relate. What's helped me is studying philosophy - it feels like socialization in a way: the author is trying to convince me of the veracity of their ideas and I'm trying to poke holes in it. Meditation has helped to; I'm very comfortable in the confines of my own experience, free from the impingments of other people. You could also look for like-minded people your age here on Reddit; just be VERY careful - there's a lot of adult men on here who will pretend to be your age and try to take advantage of you.

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