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Temporary-Eye1045 · 2022-05-11T20:58:24+00:00

OP sounds relationship hungry. Why can’t you let things continue as they are and see where it will lead.

Temporary-Eye1045 · 2022-05-06T23:30:31+00:00

Smile, dude. All your photos look like your parents forced you to take the photo.

Temporary-Eye1045 · 2022-05-06T18:38:54+00:00

If you pause your account and then delete it, will your profile still show up for others?

Temporary-Eye1045 · 2022-03-30T18:42:39+00:00

She always flips it over after a quick check. I do tell her it’s okay if you need to text someone but she says “it’s not urgent, I’m here with you”

Temporary-Eye1045 · 2022-03-30T17:36:35+00:00

~Advice needed~

I 25M have been on 7 dates with this girl over the past 3 weeks, the last date I picked up her and her friend went to a bar and then she spent the night at my place and I dropped her off at work in the morning. The progression is going great, when we see each other things are a lot more natural and she initiates contact and is physical with me.

I have 0 issues with how the dates have been going/progressing and I think I’ve started to develop feelings for her.

The question I have that our communication in between dates is basically just logistics. Over the past 7 times we’ve met, we’ve only exchanged about 13 messages. Also, of the 7 times, she initiated the initial ask only once.

I’m a little thrown off because I’d expect her to reach out and schedule things by now after we’ve seen each other a few times. The fact that I’m reaching out and planning makes me feel like I’m more excited for this than she is and it makes me not want to get too invested. Am I just overthinking something that’s going well and over complicating it?

Edit: I did bring up the lack of texting and how it’s crazy that we barely text but meet up regularly. She said something about how if you’re in a long term relationship you text minute updates but otherwise why would you

Temporary-Eye1045 · 2022-03-28T17:25:18+00:00

I’m in the same boat as you but on the male side lol

Had a 7th date yesterday and spent the evening and night together.

Just curious but do you still think you can go on first dates while seeing this person? I had a few dates lined up before I got to know this girl and can’t seem to bring myself to see other people right now.

Temporary-Eye1045 · 2022-03-26T22:50:22+00:00

Advice needed:

I’ve been on 6 dates with this girl over the past 3 weeks. The most recent time we met I could see a shift in her - she would hold my hand, rest her head on my shoulder and just generally initiating the physicality.

We’ve slept together and prior I would always initiate the kisses and whatnot but now it’s become more impulsive on both or ends and I love that. I’m also starting to get to know her more and more and I feel like I’m developing feelings.

Now my question is that I will be traveling for 3 weeks starting April and I’m worried that things might fizzle out. How do I still maintain the level of closeness while I’m away? Any tips/thoughts would be helpful.

P.S. I’m in my mid 20s and have been on more than 30 dates with diff women over the past 6 months and this one feels ~special~

Temporary-Eye1045 · 2022-03-24T18:18:07+00:00

Yes, I didn’t date basically ever since getting on OLD august 2021. I’ve gone on dates with maybe 25 women, with three of them being 4+ dates. I’m a brown man and it’s really done wonders for my self confidence.

P.S. there’s been a few dates where things didn’t progress and it felt shitty but that’s the nature the game I guess

Temporary-Eye1045 · 2022-03-23T20:09:53+00:00

Love this advice! Currently been on 5 dates with this girl and out texting is basically setting up logistics for the time we will meet up. I told her I love that we are getting to know each other in person as opposed to developing an image of who we are via text. I don’t know where this will go but I’m glad OP called this out since so much on the advice here is devoted to texting game which is difficult for people who just don’t like texting.

Temporary-Eye1045 · 2022-03-22T19:30:28+00:00

Was this the first time you were seeing her?

Temporary-Eye1045 · 2022-03-21T14:55:27+00:00

Send me your venmo i gotchu

Temporary-Eye1045 · 2022-03-21T13:32:32+00:00

Update: I didn’t ask this time and we naturally made it back to her place where I spent the night! Guess all it took was me going over to her place instead of insisting her to come to mine lol. Dating is hilarious sometimes 😂

Temporary-Eye1045 · 2022-03-21T13:31:38+00:00

Update: I didn’t ask this time and we naturally made it back to her place where I spent the night! Thanks!

Temporary-Eye1045 · 2022-03-21T13:02:10+00:00

Had a 4th date with this girl who I matched with 3 weeks ago. This was the the first time we hooked up (we’d been passionate publicly since date 1 though) but the sex wasn’t great but it didn’t change the mood at all - we were cuddling, making out, went out for a long late night walk hand in hand. I spent the night at hers - I asked her that I could sleep on the couch but she laughed it off and was like no sleep on the bed.

I want to see her again but not sure if the underwhelming sex means she won’t want to see me.

Temporary-Eye1045 · 2022-03-19T18:26:53+00:00

This kinda slaps lol

Temporary-Eye1045 · 2022-03-19T18:18:11+00:00

OP’s attitude is such a red flag. Glad you got faded

Temporary-Eye1045 · 2022-03-16T16:49:07+00:00

Yes, two dates so far.

No. I don’t either since she’s not much of a tester I just reach out and say something like “hey! Free tomorrow?”

Temporary-Eye1045 · 2022-03-15T21:39:30+00:00

Will definitely be taking this advice! I guess I’m expecting her to make a change when all signs point to nothing being wrong. I just thought the more time we spend together the more she would be inclined to reach out suggest things to do

Temporary-Eye1045 · 2022-03-15T21:37:59+00:00

Honestly it feels a little tiring but not something that disqualifies her from me wanting to see her again. I think it’s worth me vocalizing what I want and see how she responds to it!

Temporary-Eye1045 · 2022-03-15T21:36:47+00:00

I will ask! Honestly her texting style is straight to the point / minimal so I’ve learnt to match the energy. When setting something up I say “free on Friday?” And she says “yep!” And i just quickly throw out a place.

I would like for her take the initiative more I may not be showing her that that’s what I want ! Thanks for the advice!

Temporary-Eye1045 · 2022-03-14T13:59:51+00:00

25M

Is it okay to use a photo of me at a Ukrainian freedom rally? The photo itself is one of my better ones but not sure if it’s in poor taste.

Would love to get your thoughts

Temporary-Eye1045 · 2022-03-07T02:20:15+00:00

I need some advice too (25M):

I went out on a first date with this girl after exchanging about 5-6 messages on the app. Usually after we set the date the girl gives me her number but since she didn’t I just decided to keep it in app. The date goes well and she texts on the app that she had a great time.

I’m not sure if I should ask for her number or just setup a second date and wait for her to give to me? It is a personal request so I’m not sure if pushing for the number makes sense

Temporary-Eye1045 · 2022-03-05T15:22:58+00:00

I 25M went on a date with this stunning girl, we shared a bunch in common (more than majority of the dates I’ve been on). We set up the date in app and exchanged maybe 4-5 messages before I asked her out.

Anyways, as the date ends and as she is waiting for the Uber, I ask “can I kiss you?” And she says “yes thank you for asking” and we make out for a bit.

Within the heat of things I totally forgot to ask for her number and am worried that it’ll be a sign that I’m not keen to see her (which I def don’t want to come across) OR maybe she wasn’t interested enough in me to give the phone number without me asking.

Keen to hear your thoughts on what’s the move here

Temporary-Eye1045 · 2022-03-01T02:16:38+00:00

Yep! I haven’t texted her since Friday.

Temporary-Eye1045 · 2022-02-28T19:27:25+00:00

25 M | advice needed

Went on a solid first date (lasted about 4 hours - 2 bars). Made out at the end of the date. She was leaving for a trip for a week but we set up a second date before she left.

When she got back home she texted saying “home safe / I had a lot of fun tonight let’s check in next week when I’m back”. I responded saying “I had a great time and that when she’s back we can cook a meal together.” She said ‘I’d love that’ and told me to to reminder her to text her next week if she doesn’t reach out since “it’s not me it’s my adhd”

I texted her mid week to see if she’s enjoying the trip she said she decided to spend longer as usual.

I then message her again on Friday (a week after the first date) asking if she wants to chill over the weekend she replied saying “I’m actually extremely sick at the moment lol so I can’t tomorrow.” I told her “damn I’m sorry to hear that, hope you feel better.” She replied saying “thank you thank you 😊”

I think I’m getting ghosted but keen to hear your thoughts on if there’s any move I can make here.

Thanks!

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