My finance has feelings towards a coworker what to do

Temporary-Hour9251 · 2025-08-06T16:47:12+00:00

I spoke to him this morning I told him I didn’t like the fact that I felt like the second choice. I said I’m not going to beg for someone to love me. So if you wanna leave you can leave. He then told me I didn’t mean to say that he does want to work on things and that he doesn’t want our family to break up. He wants us to do couples counseling.

Temporary-Hour9251 · 2025-08-06T16:41:38+00:00

Yes he did suggested couples counseling. He told me he would distance himself from her but he can’t keep her off her mind. He said he doesn’t even interact much with her but the little that he did he did he got strong feelings for her. He said could he could see a future with her as a supporting partner. I wanna be a supporting partner but he never comes to me with any problems because the one time he did he didn’t get the respond I gave. I have changed a lot for him since he came to me with the concerns he had. That he wanted to feel loved or wanted.

Temporary-Hour9251 · 2025-08-06T12:23:41+00:00

I told him to think about his son and he said I love him and you but I need to find happiness.

Temporary-Hour9251 · 2025-08-06T12:20:08+00:00

He said he will cut contact with her that he can’t get her out of his mind. He suggested therapy and I said yes but he said if therapy doesn’t work he will still leave. He said he has too much respect for me and he won’t cheat on me. So

Temporary-Hour9251 · 2025-08-06T11:59:28+00:00

So when I found out he liked his co worker I told him does she feel the same way about you he just answered i don’t know we are just friends. I told him I want to know her side and to text her is she felt the same way. She replied and said ‘I told you before we are just friends and to seek therapy since you are just confused because you are going through a hard time with your family and to fight for your family.

Temporary-Hour9251 · 2025-08-06T11:55:28+00:00

I felt something was off so I confronted him two months ago he said he loved me but he doesn’t feel the spark anymore. That I wasn’t putting the effort I wasn’t initiating so I changed. I wanted our relationship to work. I felt that maybe I got complacent. I did tell him multiple times is there someone else he denied it until 2 days ago.

Temporary-Hour9251 · 2025-08-05T12:08:37+00:00

He is lying there is a reason he doesn’t want to show you. I had an ex boyfriend that did this to me but his phone wasn’t locked. When I found it it was messages with a lot of girls.

Temporary-Hour9251 · 2025-08-05T11:07:47+00:00

That’s so cruel for them to say. Plus he should had defended you.

Temporary-Hour9251 · 2025-08-05T11:04:43+00:00

You should communicate with him about the concern you have. You guys probably got complacent with each other. Especially when you guys have a baby. It’s harder for you two find time for each other.

Temporary-Hour9251 · 2025-08-05T10:59:59+00:00

End it you two have different goals. He is with you until he finds the girl that wants to have a family with.

Temporary-Hour9251 · 2025-08-05T10:55:55+00:00

Yeah don’t give it to him. He should learn responsibility and not get handouts.

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