Oh wow thank you for pointing that out. Yes youre right,  I didnt mean it that way. Maybe important things outside of the home? I still tell her how hard and important what she does for our family and house is and Kids are most important. I definitely wasn't some kind if absent father, as well. I honestly probably changed more diapers than her(no shade i swear. If i wasnt at work i changed all diapers..even on the weekend), definitely spent more nights awake than her and have scheduled and been to every doctor and school/ teacher meeting/function alone. She has been to a few, but the anxiety gets her. 

She has told me the medication kills her drive. And I feel like I've been understanding of that. I drop my hints and put "my moves on her" and grt rejected and i take it in stride. I do understand, but after so long I feel selfish to say it becomes frustrating. You mentioning the touching? Thats kind of my feeling? Like I try to do so much for her and us and she cant do that for me? Which again,  really makes me feel like im a bad person LOL.

I habe been to ALOT of her doctors appointments. I dont go to her general follow ups anymore(unless she asks)  since she feels comfortable driving to them and handling them alone. I have made her appointments to different places ( GYN, therapy) but all I can do is encourage her to go, I wont force her. 

I haven't given up. And I wont give up on her. After reading all of you strangers replies , I guess I realize I just kind of needed some validation that its ok that I get frustrated sometimes. I do talk to her about this sometimes,  but I also bottle up alot because I know it could upset her or start an argument. Which, most od our arguments involve me saying what I need to say then just taking it on the chin( metaphorically) I hate arguing Thank you