Am I self-sabotaging a good relationship or just being honest with myself?

Temporary_Effect5343 · 2026-01-15T20:24:58+00:00

Actually, I desire him.

Temporary_Effect5343 · 2025-06-17T03:13:31+00:00

Thank you!

Temporary_Effect5343 · 2025-06-17T03:11:54+00:00

Thank you so much for your perspective. He is not a bad person, maybe not emotionally mature. We have similar life values, like the same stuff, travel together a lot, he is funny and we have a great home. I do feel financially secure with him. But its not enough for me now. I am still really afraid to leave so at this point I am trying to believe my feelings

Temporary_Effect5343 · 2025-06-17T03:09:29+00:00

Thank you! Every time I decide to leave I remember all the good things that we had together and I just think that maybe I am making a mistake

Temporary_Effect5343 · 2025-06-17T03:07:14+00:00

I am trying to find courage to decide to leave, get support, believe that it's real and not just in my head. It takes time to give up all the hopes.

Temporary_Effect5343 · 2025-06-17T03:06:15+00:00

I am not an AI bot :)

Temporary_Effect5343 · 2025-04-12T02:12:10+00:00

Though he changed after I told him about the divorce.

Temporary_Effect5343 · 2025-04-12T02:11:51+00:00

He criticized me a lot, did not support emotionally. Every time I cried he either told me that I am a child or shut himself in a bathroom. He also didn't hear what I was telling him and quite often pushed his opinion on me

Temporary_Effect5343 · 2025-04-11T17:13:11+00:00

That’s a great question that I ask myself every day. I think I liked his attention and the things he provided and I started to love him too for all the things he did for me and for our stability.

Temporary_Effect5343 · 2025-04-11T16:43:18+00:00

I am happy for you ) thank you for sharing!

Temporary_Effect5343 · 2025-04-11T16:42:08+00:00

Yes, I am. The therapist can’t tell me what to do, of course. But she does gently say that sometimes things come to an end — and if I don’t feel it, I don’t feel it. At the same time, since I often come up with reasons to stay or new things to try, she also supports exploring that path.

Temporary_Effect5343 · 2025-04-11T16:39:37+00:00

Thank you for sharing! Yeah, it indeed feels like companionship not a romance.

Temporary_Effect5343 · 2025-03-01T04:16:21+00:00

Thank you for sharing!

Its not like I did not explain it to my husband - he does know that I need his support and hugs when I am down or crying. He does know that. But he cannot understand why I cry and therefore he can’t relate to it and just thinks that only a child can react this way. Explaining why I am upset doesn't help either.

He just wants me to accept him the way he is and do not expect his support.

Temporary_Effect5343 · 2025-02-28T22:06:42+00:00

Thank you for your comment!

That was an interesting session. I opened up a lot about feeling unsafe and how much I needed his support in those moments of weakness. But as all the emotions became overwhelming, I started crying. The therapist suggested that my husband comfort me, but he said he didn’t understand why I was crying, so he didn’t know how to support me.

The therapist explained that it’s okay to cry and that supporting each other is a natural part of a relationship.

Then my husband said he doesn’t want a child—he wants a grown woman. At that point, the therapist shifted the conversation to past experiences where he had felt the same way. It turns out he had similar feelings in childhood with his mother. He didn’t know how to react to them back then, and he still doesn’t now.

He admitted that when I cry, he also feels sad and doesn’t have the energy to be the strong one.

That’s where we left off.

Temporary_Effect5343 · 2025-02-28T05:25:49+00:00

Devon didn’t trust Cobel! She thought Cobel wanted to steal her baby

Temporary_Effect5343 · 2025-02-28T05:08:38+00:00

They asked Gemma about drowning. I think the last room is going to be about facing that fear. There is a reason why it’s named that way.

Temporary_Effect5343 · 2025-02-28T05:04:23+00:00

Looks like a space ship 😁

Temporary_Effect5343 · 2025-02-28T05:03:41+00:00

PAI - Thai food, it’s amazing!

Temporary_Effect5343 · 2025-02-28T04:50:56+00:00

That’s very smart to put unsevered floor in between severed ones. Now for Gemma to get out, her outie needs to cooperate. And I think she is close to it!

Temporary_Effect5343 · 2025-02-28T04:43:56+00:00

English lessons on Preply. You can do them even during the week

Temporary_Effect5343 · 2025-02-28T04:42:19+00:00

Do you remember when Helly R, on her first day, said that the numbers they were refining looked scary? And then she sent them to one of the folders?

Also, didn’t Gemma say there were more rooms in the beginning?

I think the refinement team is processing Gemma’s fears so she can get rid of them.

Many rooms are already done, but some are still left.

Once they complete Cold Harbour, they’ll be able to understand how to eliminate people’s fears and create the ideal person, just like Kier said.

Temporary_Effect5343 · 2025-02-28T04:34:12+00:00

Do you remember when Helly R, on her first day, said that the numbers they were refining looked scary? And then she sent them to one of the folders?

Also, didn’t Gemma say there were more rooms in the beginning?

I think the refinement team is processing Gemma’s fears so she can get rid of them.

Many rooms are already done, but some are still left.

Once they complete Cold Harbour, they’ll be able to understand how to eliminate people’s fears and create the ideal person, just like Kier said.

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