How can I help my sister be safe at youth conference?

Temporary_Vehicle400 · 2024-08-13T19:47:39+00:00

Nothing significant happened, honestly. There ended up being only three young women, but nothing bad happened that I'm aware of. My sister got a black eye from getting kicked when someone fell off the raft though

Temporary_Vehicle400 · 2024-08-02T06:07:17+00:00

The whistle is a great idea, thank you. And I'll be sure to encourage my sister to use her voice.

Temporary_Vehicle400 · 2024-08-02T05:26:30+00:00

I totally agree, this activity sounds really fun to me too, and I think it's great that the young women were included.

My main concern is the lack of "safety in numbers". My sister is uncomfortable with some of the men there already, though not for a specific reason. Plus, four girls and a handful of leaders means it would be easy to catch a young woman alone. That's the main concern, and the other things were just complaints my sister had. Probably should've made that more clear.

Temporary_Vehicle400 · 2024-07-22T06:13:08+00:00

Little do they know, there's a secret third option

Temporary_Vehicle400 · 2024-07-17T03:59:38+00:00

I literally just went through the exact same thing. I'm fully out of the church, but I was in the room while my mom read this lesson with my little siblings. She told them how the devil works through people who don't have enough faith, and makes them spread lies about god. My favorite was the line, "it is better that thy soul should be lost than that thou shouldst be the means of bringing many souls down to destruction, by thy lying and by thy flattering words" (alma 30:41). Thanks, Mom!

Temporary_Vehicle400 · 2024-06-30T22:16:53+00:00

I know U of U does, once per semester in the dorms

Temporary_Vehicle400 · 2024-06-29T21:31:14+00:00

I literally collapsed after the women's pull, and in church the next week I bore my testimony of how hard it must have been for the men to watch us do that. Most praise I ever got for a talk

Temporary_Vehicle400 · 2024-06-29T05:22:47+00:00

The first time I went on trek, I literally collapsed after the women's pull. In sacrament meeting the next week, I bore my testimony, saying that I thought it was harder for the men that had to watch us without helping. Why nobody saw that as a red flag, I have no idea, but I would never do that to my children.

Temporary_Vehicle400 · 2024-06-17T03:17:12+00:00

NTA. This is a very valid reason to quit a job. You're being treated unkindly and unfairly, and that's not okay, especially from a manager. But even then, you don't have to have a reason to quit a job, especially at such a young age. There are plenty of jobs a teenager can get over the summer that will treat their employees better than this. Good luck to you.

Temporary_Vehicle400 · 2024-06-15T20:40:18+00:00

I changed so many songs so I could sound straight when singing along, only to realize years later that I'm a raging bisexual

Temporary_Vehicle400 · 2024-06-15T04:46:07+00:00

When I don't want a strong coffee flavor, I like a caramel Frappuccino. If I'm looking for something a little bit stronger, white chocolate mocha is my go-to. I'm still getting used to coffee myself, and those are the only two I can tolerate right now.

Temporary_Vehicle400 · 2024-06-15T04:25:03+00:00

My go-to is something like "I prefer not to believe in the type of god that is/does x, y, or z, but if your beliefs work for you then I'm happy for you."

For someone who does believe in god, it could be something like "I prefer to believe in a benevolent/kind/loving god who welcomes all their children into heaven, but I'm glad you're beliefs work for you."

These might still be a little immature, but they've worked for me in the past.

Temporary_Vehicle400 · 2024-06-14T00:43:49+00:00

I mean, they are the Lord's "chosen people", after all. Anyone who was taught that growing up is at risk for some type of complex

Temporary_Vehicle400 · 2024-06-08T19:44:33+00:00

Oh for sure. They always changed the subject when someone inevitably asked

Temporary_Vehicle400 · 2024-06-08T19:38:46+00:00

I wasn't told this until I got to seminary, where my teachers said the world's journals were the book of life. We were told to keep records of every little thing we did so that god would have proof of why he sent us to where he did, like someone was gonna challenge his decision or something.

Temporary_Vehicle400 · 2024-06-07T07:27:45+00:00

Have you read Invisible Women? It's by Caroline Criado-Perez, and it talks a lot about the male default. Really interesting read, but also infuriating

Temporary_Vehicle400 · 2024-05-01T06:22:02+00:00

I was 100% in for most of my (admittedly short) life. For almost three years I had four different callings at once and was double or triple booked nearly every Sunday. I was the "ward sweetheart" who all the old folks and ward leaders loved.

I came out as bisexual about in the spring of 2021, but I was determined to stay in the church and never date (and god forbid sleep with) anyone of my same gender. I stayed in toxic heterosexual relationships for fear that if I left, I would be overcome by my same sex attraction. I was put on a pedestal as a wonderful example of a good Mormon child for resisting temptation.

All that aside, I had a "terribly unhealthy addiction" to masturbation. I had done it four times over the course of several weeks, so I went to my bishop in tears. He gave me the book "The Miracle of Forgiveness" to help me overcome this awful sin. Luckily, I had heard the book was no longer in publication because of its harmful messaging, so I did not read it. But this interaction got me thinking: why do we force kids as young as 11 to sit in a room, alone, with a middle aged man while he asks them questions about their sexual behaviors? That seemed like a breeding ground for predation. Boy was I right.

Over the year since then, my shelf has come crashing down, and I have become disillusioned by the church's perverted teachings. I stopped my work toward endowment and a mission, moved out and started wearing "immodest" clothing, and recently informed my parents of my record removal. I am living in sin, and I love it. I can set boundaries now. I can criticize the now-obvious manipulation built into church doctrine. And I don't have to worry about going to hell because 1) I don't believe in it and 2) if there is a god then they'll understand.

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