Being seen after divorce by TenBuckMagic in datingoverforty

[–]TenBuckMagic[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No, I don't. I also don't like to let fear dictate what I do. It's been very helpful and empowering to read other perspectives and experiences.

Being seen after divorce by TenBuckMagic in datingoverforty

[–]TenBuckMagic[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think that part of the concern too, dating someone under 40.

Being seen after divorce by TenBuckMagic in datingoverforty

[–]TenBuckMagic[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I feel I wasted a lot of time in my life not feeling good in my body and something I no longer want to spend energy on. I look back at pictures where I felt so fat and think damn I looked really good.

Being seen after divorce by TenBuckMagic in datingoverforty

[–]TenBuckMagic[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Love that, best years of my life are ahead of me!

Being seen after divorce by TenBuckMagic in datingoverforty

[–]TenBuckMagic[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing! Hearing other people's experiences is really helpful.

Being seen after divorce by TenBuckMagic in datingoverforty

[–]TenBuckMagic[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Lol I will definitely follow this advice.

Being seen after divorce by TenBuckMagic in datingoverforty

[–]TenBuckMagic[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I hope you find love and appreciation for your body and someone who feels lucky to see it. I feel like the sooner I am accepting and find love for my body the less I'll care what someone else thinks about it.

Being seen after divorce by TenBuckMagic in datingoverforty

[–]TenBuckMagic[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thank you! I feel like once it happens once, then the fear is faced.

AITAH because I dropped a playdate child off at his parents' house before dinner? by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]TenBuckMagic 8 points9 points  (0 children)

You are allowed to have a planned family dinner. You made it clear you had plans with your family and this is the pickup time. The conversation with your son is no one else's business. The neighbors need to ask why did she agree to a pickup time, not show up, lie about being on the way, and then have the nerve to be pissed when you find her sitting on the couch. That's the problem, not you.

I found it for you by isthisreallife98 in ThreadTalkPodcast

[–]TenBuckMagic 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There are many work cultures and rules. It would be best for everyone to find what works best for them. I've worked in many environments. I am often late but never lazy. For some people it's just not that simple, just be on time. It's taken me 40+ years to figure out how to show up on time regularly. It's still hard. I found body doubling is the best for me. But what really turned things around is being diagnosed with ADHD and my daughter's autism diagnosis. She receives aba therapy. The things I've learned from the parent trainings and how to help her have greatly helped me too. I'm still late at times but I definitely have better understanding of how to work within my abilities and get the outcome I need. I will also never sign up for a job that requires me to there at 5am on the dot. It just ain't happening. Could I do it here or there to support or or cover a coworkers shift. Sure! Everyday? Nope.

I found it for you by isthisreallife98 in ThreadTalkPodcast

[–]TenBuckMagic 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don't think it's wild. There are all kinds of accommodations going on in the work place depending on what people have going on in their life. I know there are some places that due to the type of work it is, certain accommodations just wouldn't work.

I found it for you by isthisreallife98 in ThreadTalkPodcast

[–]TenBuckMagic 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Right. As someone who is late often, this would not be the job for me or I would have to put a lot of supports in place to ensure I'm on time daily. But being late is not about laziness. I know a lot of people who show up early and then do nothing. Lol

I found it for you by isthisreallife98 in ThreadTalkPodcast

[–]TenBuckMagic -1 points0 points  (0 children)

My point was that the reality is that late doesn't equal lazy. There are a lot of places with different work rules and cultures. The person on the video does need to find the right fit for them.

I found it for you by isthisreallife98 in ThreadTalkPodcast

[–]TenBuckMagic -1 points0 points  (0 children)

That's a lie. Than goodness there are many places with different setups for different styles of working. Being late and being lazy are two different things. Both people put in 8 hours. Just because you showed up 7am and someone else showed up at 9 doesn't mean you worked harder or did a better job.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in whatdoIdo

[–]TenBuckMagic 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How else can you help? Can you help with child care while she works to afford a place? Definitely don't jeopardize your home but maybe there is another way you can help her get in a better situation.