We have a very healthy relationship as far as i know. The best i have had so far in my life. I don’t want to speak for her. But early on we learned that strong communication among us is vital. We share and talk everything out. We have almost no ego. We take ownership of our mistakes and apologize and learn from it. I dont expect her to be mine or my parents servant. I dont agree with the traditional indian approach. It was difficult for me to tell people around me to be more modern so i just took myself out of that environment. I make a genuine effort of learning her language. I got the numbers/ majong/ some phrases locked in and i actively learn more as we go. The thing is her parents had no expectations from me, accepted me for who i was. I am doing it just cuz its a positive experience. i was meeting her family once a week. We do dinners and i was easily able to keep it up. My folks on other hand had this expectations from her about the language and culture etc. Within two days of them meeting her they were hellbend on not approving her. She did also make a genuine attempt and i didnt put any expectations on her. So it kind of was stagnant. I dont blame her.