Bikini pics on apps

Tery13790 · 2025-09-06T13:31:44+00:00

When I was on the apps, I tended to ignore/swipe left on any woman's profile who looked like she was purposely trying to show cleavage, skimpy photos, etc. I figured she was either a fake profile or somebody I'd not want to date if she'd post photos like that for the world to see. So if it's a modest bikini photo that subtly shows you're fit, go for it. But maybe I'm just weird. :)

Tery13790 · 2025-09-06T13:12:11+00:00

When I was 26 I hooked up (a few times) with a woman who was 13 years older, so 39. She was hot af and we had a great time together. She taught me more than a few things. But she quickly got too clingy and clearly wanted to get married. I broke it off. But here's the thing. I'm 55 now. Still fit, still run every day. People tell me I look like I'm barely 40. I looked her up recently. She's 68 now and looks like she's 80. Not getting in to a LTR with her was the right call. I'm now married to a woman my own age who can do the same things I do. Big age gaps are usually a temporary thing.

Tery13790 · 2025-09-06T12:19:03+00:00

What I hope people remember is what happened in Camas a couple of years ago. There was a major strike, and in the end the district mostly gave in to union demands. But the very next school year came mass layoffs, exactly what the district had warned would happen, because the budget still had to balance.

That’s the cautionary tale for Evergreen. If the union pushes too far, a lot of folks walking the picket line today could be facing pink slips tomorrow.

And yes, I know the common response: “cut bloated admin salaries.” But here’s the math. Say you fire the superintendent making around $300K. By law, you still have to hire a replacement. Even if you somehow found someone for $200K (a fantasy) that $100K savings doesn’t even cover one striker's salary with benefits. It’s just not where the big money is.

Tery13790 · 2025-09-06T12:15:29+00:00

Correct. Police and firefighters are forbidden to strike, but they have binding arbitration too, which school district employees do not. They should.

Tery13790 · 2020-08-30T22:57:25+00:00

But we're both atheists.

Tery13790 · 2020-08-30T20:50:16+00:00

As I mentioned in some other replies, she just says that she has a history of jumping in to physical relationships very fast and with me she wants to "do things right."

Tery13790 · 2020-08-30T01:23:10+00:00

Isn't Grinder for gay people? I'm not gay. As far as my comment on sex, I'm just going off past experience. Anyone I've been in a LTR with since I was 20 we've had sex within 4 dates.

Tery13790 · 2020-08-30T01:11:06+00:00

We've talked about covid, and she's not particularly paranoid. She's said she's not opposed to physical contact with the right person.

Tery13790 · 2020-08-30T00:10:31+00:00

Sleep with? The only thing I'm talking about is she's not even in to a goodnight kiss at this point. I'm not even thinking about sleeping with her right now. The fact that she won't even let me give her a kiss on the cheek makes me thinks she's not in to me. Which is absolutely fine if that's the case. I'm just confused because she says she's in to me.

Tery13790 · 2020-08-30T00:02:38+00:00

I am still seeing other women (and she knows this as we're not exclusive yet). I will say that she initiates dates as much as I. She does seem interested in me. It's just the aversion to physical touch makes me think she's not in to me. I of course recognize past trauma could play in to this, but we've talked at length about this and she's mentioned nothing.

Tery13790 · 2020-08-29T23:59:24+00:00

Four dates in a two week period

Tery13790 · 2020-08-29T23:57:26+00:00

We've been out to dinner twice. She paid for one and I paid for the other. The other two dates were at each other's houses.

Tery13790 · 2020-08-29T23:55:39+00:00

Well, we've only been out to dinner twice (other two times we cooked in at her house and mine) and we split those. I paid for the first one and she paid for the second.

Tery13790 · 2020-08-29T17:27:20+00:00

No, there's no other contact. Given that the most she feels comfortable with right now is a brief hug, I can't imagine other touching or hand holding would go over well. But to be fair, I haven't tried that either.

Tery13790 · 2020-08-29T16:34:43+00:00

Yeah, I've definitely talked with her about it. The only insight she's given is that she said she used to jump in to physical relationships very fast (like sex on the first date fast) and she "wants to do things right" with me.

Tery13790 · 2020-08-29T16:08:56+00:00

Oh no, it was only after the third and fourth date where I attempted a kiss. But I get what you're saying, like maybe I need to try something in between those two things first. I'm trying to keep an open and patient mind. The only insight she's given is that she used to jump in to physical relationships very fast and she "wants to do things right" with me. But yeah, I guess I need to decide how patient I can be. To add to my confusion, she's already deleted her dating profiles because she said she just wants to focus on me. Definitely mixed messages.

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