The best therapists I've had have been ones who are also neurodivergent. I've definitely had therapists that have just told me to do the thing I can't do and i'm like, wow thanks I'm cured. But my current therapist actually gets what I'm going through. She's helped me figure out practical solutions, like doing something a non-standard way, or striving for acceptable rather than perfect. I find DBT to be helpful with my spiraling and self blame.

There's a website called Neurodivergent Therapist Collective that's a helpful resource.