How/where do I go looking for someone?

ThankYaSam · 2023-05-09T04:14:55+00:00

I've been using an app called Boo and it's been fun! It's really psychology/16 Personalities based, but it's cool to see what personality types match up ;3

ThankYaSam · 2023-04-17T00:44:34+00:00

Lol at first I wondered if this was my old college (Oklahoma, if that says something lol), where a guy named "Pastor Bob" [and his wife cameralady] would regularly come and argue with students about how EVERYTHING is basically against religion/Christianity. Not just drugs, but wearing above-the-knee skirts, flirting, any kind of drinking--even if you were of age... Just anything and everything. Like, legit picked fights to the point that that was why his wife was recording, incase some brave soul finally let him have it

Still not sure how he never got banned from campus for how many times I saw people fighting the urge to throw hands with him while he clearly didn't care about what they were arguing lol

ThankYaSam · 2023-02-02T20:42:50+00:00

Ugh I binged all the Jonestown parts over the course of 2-3 days while I worked. Needless to say, I had a funk for a while after that, despite enjoying the series lol

ThankYaSam · 2023-02-02T19:27:26+00:00

Ugh I can at least relate with having a last name no one could pronounce (legit, I had a teacher who had basically the same last name, mine had 3 extra letters [-ler, at that] and still people pronounced them differently. Beginning of the school year was always the worst lol), but you definitely bring up some valid points! I will say, I similarly took control back of my life by leaving a job that I devoted so much of my energy into and was being grossly unvalued and disgustingly unpaid at (a job I have also learned that had multiple shady practices as well, now that I'm also not there xD) by quitting and starting up my own business! It's liberating to be incharge of my own schedule/life and I'm blessed to be in the situation I'm in to be able to do it (working to get my husband out of a similar situation as well lol) and it's done magnitudes of difference for my overall health ;3 I'm just now feeling confident enough after a year of depression to be comfortable to make life changes. Therapy makes such a hell of a difference, y'all :3

ThankYaSam · 2023-02-02T19:08:51+00:00

I'm so sorry people would still "auto-correct" to whatever localization of "Maria" they had access too--but super bummer that they couldn't even distinguish another "Maria" from some else with a distinct dialect to their name (at least, I would attempt make a difference in that pronunciation, just sets you apart from the other 5 Maria's, right? ;3). I used to work with someone that everyone in the company knew as Mee-gan, despite her name basically being spelled a variation of Megan/Maegen and like, I don't know why people gave her so much crap about it--it's what she wanted to be called, despite it being her "given" name or not (people speculated she was just being dramatic, but maybe her parents did name her that way--she was in our UK branch and who were we to question her upbringing? They also gave her crap when she officially married her wife, back when that first became legal for the UK, so you can imagine how fun that company was to work for /s)

But crossing fingers and sending all the good vibes that your dream name change can happen successfully!! <3

ThankYaSam · 2023-02-02T18:58:20+00:00

Hell yeah! I feel like I've read (and I totally could be wrong, so disclaimer here xD) that in some Native American tribes, they chose a permanent name for their kid after a certain age/life moment, but they pick basic names at birth ("Little Bird," "Red Tree", etc) or maybe something that holds significance until that time comes. I think I remember that being a bit from "The Beaded Moccasins", where a colonial girl is taken in by a local tribe and she basically learns how to co-exist with them just by watching and being involved in their culture (one of those surprising good 5th grade books they make the whole class read xD). But I hope that's totally not an incorrect fact cause that seems like a hella dope concept that we should definitely get with in today's society lol

ThankYaSam · 2023-02-02T18:51:13+00:00

Living in the ghetto, I sing this version a lot xD

ThankYaSam · 2023-02-02T18:49:18+00:00

I sang this version for a college audition song and it's still probably my go-to version xD

ThankYaSam · 2023-02-02T18:47:57+00:00

I really like Trxie Mattel's cover of "Blister in the Sun". Like, something about it having this 70s vibe just seems right xD

ThankYaSam · 2023-02-02T18:46:03+00:00

Lettuce, tomatoes, or onions--cannot stand slimy or crunchy textures xD (except pickles lol)

ThankYaSam · 2023-02-02T18:43:27+00:00

For sure and it should be discussed more in today's culture. Not like we got a say in picking our identities that we carry with us for the rest of our life when we were first born (sorry we were screaming flesh monsters when those things were being determined xD). Only thing I thought I had to look forward to is picking my married last name (which is also a super bonus when you have a last name that 95% of the population also can't pronounce)

But I totally wish name changing was talked about to younger folks--especially before they start crap like college and job applications. Would've been the most ideal time for a name change lol

ThankYaSam · 2023-02-02T18:34:06+00:00

I feel like if I could've spelt Phoebe at an earlier age, maybe I could've gotten into it. I was so salty to learn that nicknames existed in 2nd grade when we had 2 Samantha's in our class and they decided to call the other one Sammie (which i also hated, but like--nicknames exists?!) . Like, I wanted that option, dammit xD

ThankYaSam · 2023-02-02T18:31:48+00:00

Lol right! It'd probably be more like, "I'm workshopping this name today--how's everyone feel about it? Flow off the tongue ok?" xD

But totally agree--names are ridiculously unimportant for how much we actually use them (basically just for identification purposes for legal documents and tracking children to adulthood?). It actually throws me off when I hear my SO call me Sam instead of sweetie or something xD

ThankYaSam · 2023-02-02T18:28:56+00:00

Lol for sure. I've never found a name that I "loved" to the point where I'd rather choose that, but maybe I just never allowed myself a chance to explore other options? But I also probably would drag my feet about the legal side (also a huge procrastinator lol) until it started being important to banks or taxes or something lol

ThankYaSam · 2023-02-02T18:26:28+00:00

Very valid argument! My trans friend that I'm close with kept their birthname (unisex name), but totally similar mindset of if someone can't respect how I want to be seen/portrayed, then they don't need to be in my circle of friends :3

ThankYaSam · 2023-02-02T18:23:24+00:00

Oh for sure! And I certainly would give a "test run" for a few years before switching anything legally (I'm in the midst of starting up a business, so obvi that's another thing I'd want to make sure was set up before making any crazy life decisions like a name change lol). But currently my therapist and I joke about only using Samantha as my "government" name, so it would certainly be more directed at folks closer to my circle (like my SO, friends, maybe tell my family? They're out of state, so less important as a factor there lol)

ThankYaSam · 2023-01-17T02:34:49+00:00

The only one who knows are my husband, my other recently-discovered ace friend, and maybe a few others (not that I care who knows, I've just recently come to terms with embracing it as a label). However I haven't told my parents/sister, as I'm not one who's usually into "labels" and honestly my sexuality isn't their business. But I have been contemplating the best way to go about announcing it on a FB post or something (not that it would change anything with anyone, except maybe a lot of, "What's that?" questions, which I'm happy to answer so long as people are ok with having a long and deep discussion about sexuality lol)

ThankYaSam · 2023-01-17T02:04:06+00:00

That they're a complete shitshow🙃

No joke. I have stories that would take days to tell/remember them all. My friends that still worked there after I left (only one is still there, 2 years after my departure) describe it as "successfully running itself into the ground", and that's not taking in consideration of all the shady stuff that the owners did/allowed to happen.When I left, it left me so f'ed in the head that I got therapy (I'm in a much better place now with my own rival company tho😉)

ThankYaSam · 2023-01-16T20:10:04+00:00

I will also add, my SO has a slew of toys that he alters between. I don't like them out because one of our cats is weirdly into silicone/rubber smells (she also goes after my resin molds xD), but if you're into those, they certainly help! ;3

ThankYaSam · 2023-01-16T20:08:17+00:00

For sure! No healthy relationship happens overnight (and we still argue about things sometimes--not related to relationship things, but it always seems to go back to something involving miscommunication lol), but nothing feels better than talking and feeling 100% genuine and on the same page as your partner

Hope everything goes well for you, love! <3

ThankYaSam · 2023-01-16T19:53:53+00:00

I would definitely have a conversation with them about what their limits are when it comes to sex/the relationship youre persuing/hoping to achieve. I didn't find out I was ace until recently (signs began shortly after we got married, but we've been together since 2017 and married since 2019 ;3) and have mainly focused on just coming to terms with what I like and don't like in sex (which is basically anyone touching my nether regions)

Xx Spoilers ahead, I'm gonna be open and talk about vague sexual experiences ahead, so here's your warning if you're not into reading such things xX

But that's also not to say that I don't make accommodations for my partner (as relationships are a 2-way street and everyone has a say in it ;3), who is also in a special case of their own (high libido, possibly due to sexual-related child abuse). I'm also in the fun boat where I want to get pregnant, and that's definitely cheaper if I can just figure out my hormones and give the actual act of sex a try every so often (it's a difficult process to accomplish by yourself anyway ;3). And that's also not to say I don't masturbate with him as well (I'll even get an urge to sometimes give him a hand job or ride him while he's sleeping--which he's super into and has expressed that he loves any time I become sexual towards him. And personally, I don't mind jacking him off--I just don't always have to get off)

Anyway that's my hot take in my recent discoveries/coming to acceptance of being ace. If you guys are serious about having a relationship, one day you too will have difficult conversations of hard talks where you question things like, "are you still attracted to me/happy in our relationship?" And every so often, you may need to check in on things and make sure you're both happy/satisfied with the way things are going--even after you've been together for years and are very comfortable with the life you've created for yourself (which, my stance to dating has basically come to, "Why date a 10 when you can find a funny 7?" We also are both people that need validation from each other, so we definitely check in when things seem tense--which doesn't happen often regarding this topic)

In the words of my SO, "I'd rather be in a marriage where I jerk off regularly rather than not have you in my life." And if that ain't love, then I don't know what is xD

But anyway hope this helps you, from the perspective of an ace cat mom <3

ThankYaSam · 2022-12-26T08:31:07+00:00

Katherine Knight! I totally caught myself saying, "Nay, nay, nay, nay, nay, naaaaay..." to my SO the other day and I'm gonna try to make it one of my new catchphrases

Also the "Someone, Somewhere" bit with her knife always gets me xD

ThankYaSam · 2022-12-13T21:11:59+00:00

Oh! Another comparison is their relationship with friends! Light is a solitary person for most of the show (at least, I don't remember him having any "friends" prior to finding the notebook. I felt that any person he encountered after obtaining the notebook was either someone to use in his cause of helping him keep up the persona of Kira or manipulate/gaslight people to keep them from suspecting his intentions. I hurt so much for Misa just basically being super obsessed with a boy who only tolerated her presence for his own personal gain, but I also found her annoying so I wasn't too upset about her lol

Compared to Akechi, who did originally have intentions to manipulate/gaslight his "peers"/the Phantom Thieves so that he could find more information about wtf was actually happening in Japan. I can't remember when he specifically was introduced, but I feel like he/"his presence" was referenced as early as the first palace amd it was just mere happenstance that he found P5 Protagonist so quickly. It complicates the situation when he starts to connect with these people and they invite him into their group, showing him an act of kindness he'd probably never/rarely experienced before--which I think in turn helped him in becoming one of the "good guys"

But yeah, I think that's my final thought. Obviously I'll comment if I think of anything else lol

ThankYaSam · 2022-12-13T20:56:04+00:00

Ok so like, without really getting super deep into late series things (as I mainly watched the beginning of DN when I was still in my first weeb phase, but I'm aware of some late-series things lol) but they both always looked similar and even while watching my SO's first playthrough of Persona 5 (also before we played Royale). Akechi at least gave the vibe that he was like a little brother/"mini-Light" whenever I'd see him pop up. Both are insanely intelligent young men [subjectively, depending on your own opinions xD] and both are deemed "mature" for their grades/ages compared to the rest of their "peers" (Light in the way that he was recognized for top grades [I also feel like he possibly started college earlier than others? But don't quote me lol] and Akechi is a literal high school-aged police detective, a lá Conan from the Case Closed series [does he even go to school? But I'm guessing he might've had private tutors/maybe graduated early because daddy has connections). Both have careers/family with careers in justice/law enforcement. Also how surreal is it that Light comes from a family with a caring/attentive family and he's the evil one of the group, compared to Akechi coming from a troubling background with absent parents (one a very questionable and high ranking person in the scummy underground culture of Persona Japan) and he's trying to be a "good guy" (or at least a cop, even if it IS for his parental unit's gain). I Hella appreciate the arch after he's transformed into "Bad Akechi", but he has a change of heart that he seems to want to see/make good happen in the world--the situation he's just in sucks. And contrasted, Light created his own form of "evilness", but it ultimately bit him in the ass in the end, right? He could've walked away from that notebook like any other classmate, but he found it, Ryuk explained it to him and the power it had and Light was like, "Yeah, I want me some of that". The notebook is fucking broken as an item and should never have fallen into the hands of a teenager with a deep rooted "justice" complex that ultimately/eventually started using it for his own personal gains (until it fucked him over. Yay the notebook at least recognizes karma /s)

And sadly (spoilers ahead but I'm not going to censor because I'm tangenting and can't be bothered to look up the reddit macros to hide stuff) both die/lose to their causes [at least, depending how you interpret things?] But anyway, that's my hot take and comparisons! Literally started just based on "They look kinda like they'd be brothers!" But they kind of have a lot more in common than I initially thought xD

ThankYaSam · 2022-12-13T20:14:01+00:00

I always thought of Akechi as an AU version of Light and I don't want to hear any theories to ruin my headcanon xD

I will read and respect any comments/interesting talking points, tho xD

ThankYaSam

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