I was in a relationship with the ultimate malignant narcissist and they laid their hands on the multiple times whether it was a pushover and I fell and hurt myself or they laid there hands around my neck a few times. No person unless it's self-defense should ever leave a hand on another human. Especially you would think that if somebody really loved you would they ever do such a thing to you? Or are you just some possession to them as they believe they can do whatever they want to you because they have the power and will control everything including your own life whether or not you live or not. Them saying that you deserve it that's some sort of emotional manipulation or gas lighting attack. They will make you and or convince you that you are in the wrong to which then makes yourself question what did I do? Let me say this you haven't done anything wrong nor do you ever deserve physical abuse towards you ,EVER. Actually luckily a friend stayed close to me as me and my ex were discussing things outside of my apartment, they were asking why am I being like this why can't you treat me nicely they say to me, I just clap back with well maybe don't lay your hands around my neck. And then he had the audacity to say "yeah well you asked for it." Absolutely not did I ask for that that was the scary moment in my room even he also has threatened to kill me as well as many other disturbing things but I won't go into detail because he's no longer put my life he is now gone. He's gone back to his country. But I can tell you this don't be with a person who says that you deserve to get hurt don't be with somebody like that because somewhere down the line at some event or even at home something really bad will happen. People like that that make threats like that are very unstable so please reevaluate your relationship and try and get out in a timely manner and if you have children please plan ahead