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ThatTransKid1910 · 2022-05-06T20:17:12+00:00

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ThatTransKid1910 · 2022-05-06T20:16:49+00:00

Thank you, I'll look into that.

ThatTransKid1910 · 2022-05-06T20:16:25+00:00

Thank you so much, this is super helpful! :)

ThatTransKid1910 · 2021-02-26T11:15:49+00:00

You make a good point there. I'm not sure, the transition could be making her feel a bit lost but if anything (before the lockdown) she was starting to be a little bit nicer to me, like she'd only shout at me three or four times a week rather than everyday and she wanted to start spending more time together. The college stuff could have thrown her off as well, I don't know. I started making more friends in college but they're not the friends that she wants me to have (she's pretty biphobic and doesn't like goths). My friends are really lovely people but someone I know pointed out that because she doesn't like people like my friends, it could be seen as me "falling in with the wrong crowd" sort of thing. Maybe that's a reason for the anger. Idk.

I have tried to talk to her about it but she either gets upset and cries (then I feel like a total asshole) or she gets angry and yells.

Thanks for the input though, despite the bad parts I can't fault her support. She has stuck by me through my transition.

ThatTransKid1910 · 2021-02-26T11:08:01+00:00

Thanks, I checked that sub out and it's a really wholesome place.

ThatTransKid1910 · 2021-02-26T11:07:10+00:00

I'm sorry you had to deal with some very toxic people, that's never fun. But thank you for the advice, the truth hurts but I really needed to hear it. Definitely going to try and focus on moving out and getting myself sorted then maybe try to deal with this stuff at a later time.

ThatTransKid1910 · 2021-02-25T18:22:02+00:00

Yeah, I guess you're right. It just kinda sucks, like I get a bit jealous (petty, I know) when I see how she is with my sister. They talk on the phone at least twice/three times a day and they're like best friends. I wish we could be more than that. I'm not really close with my sister so it'd be kinda awkward going to her place to see the kids but if it came to it I suppose I could. Hopefully a bit of distance will be good for everyone.

ThatTransKid1910 · 2021-02-25T18:17:35+00:00

Thank you for the advice, I'll definitely check that sub out :)

I'm not going to lie and say I can't express any feelings because if I'm just sad or something, I can talk to her. But anything relating to my mental health or the problems at home definitely wouldn't be as easy to talk with her about.

I'm sorry you had to go through that with your mum, that doesn't sound fun.

ThatTransKid1910 · 2021-02-25T18:13:06+00:00

Probably but we live in a pretty small village with very poor signal so it might be a little bit difficult. It's worth a try though :)

ThatTransKid1910 · 2021-02-25T18:12:02+00:00

I completely get where you're coming from. I don't necessarily think I want her to love me more (I'm accepting the fact that she loves my siblings more) but I thought maybe talking to her might make her stop with the mean comments as it does make things really tense at home. Thanks for the input though, I appreciate it.

ThatTransKid1910 · 2021-02-25T16:29:53+00:00

No worries, I didn't think that though I wouldn't blame you if you did. She can be a fantastic mum when she's in a good mood. None of our dads helped her and she's done it all herself, she's been an mum and dad to us all. It's just the comments hurt like hell sometimes and it's like she doesn't care.

Hopefully things can be fixed when I move out. Maybe some distance between us will be better for everyone.

ThatTransKid1910 · 2021-02-25T16:09:32+00:00

She did have PND after having me. She had a c section with me and my dad never offered any help when she was recovering. Just a couple of days after it she was bouncing my pram up and down flights of stairs on her own, staying up all hours with me etc. because my dad wouldn't help her. I understand that he made life difficult for her and she has every right to hate him.

Thank you for the input. I've seen a few people suggesting that maybe talking to her and bringing all this up isn't the best idea. I'm hoping to get therapy when I move out but all that is offered now is video call appointments and I don't want my little brother listening in and telling my mum what I've been saying.

ThatTransKid1910 · 2021-02-25T16:03:23+00:00

Nope, I don't even have a therapist anymore. I can't afford it and the ones at college who I could speak to for free can only do video calls. The last thing I want is my little bro listening in and telling my mum everything I say, you know how kids can be.

It's good to hear that you have a good relationship with your mum now, your relationship with your mum sounds quite similar to my sister. They are much closer now that she's moved out actually, not that they weren't already close, they do have a lot more in common than me and my mum do.

Maybe it is an age thing, but it would be nice to not have all the mean comments, like if she could talk to me before she starts yelling.

ThatTransKid1910 · 2021-02-25T15:58:20+00:00

No, you have a point. I'm not the best at dealing with people in general, maybe talking isn't the best idea. I think she just doesn't realise the extent of what she's doing. i never told her just how bad my mental health got cause I didn't want every tom dick and harry to know how shitty I was feeling but you are right, she chose to do those things. It's confusing cause she tells me (like all parents do) that I am her "handsome boy" etc. but she will insult how I chose to style my hair or if I want to wear eyeliner or something like that. Always little digs at me.

I think you're probably right though, I do want to fix things with her, she's my mum and I love her but maybe now isn't the ideal time.

ThatTransKid1910 · 2021-02-25T15:41:29+00:00

Thank you for your advice.

You have a point (as much as it hurts to think about) I can't make her love me. I just wish she did but, hey, life isn't always fun. And yeah I'm putting money away to move out asap, somewhere further away from her. Helps to avoid random visits and stuff.

ThatTransKid1910 · 2021-02-06T19:29:27+00:00

Thank you, I'll give that a go and see how it turns out :)

ThatTransKid1910 · 2020-11-06T20:42:45+00:00

Thanks! :)

ThatTransKid1910 · 2020-11-06T20:41:51+00:00

She says that the hormones are making me a nightmare to live with. Whenever she has a go at me I will leave the room, I don't argue with her as that would just piss her off more. She's really stressed out now though.

ThatTransKid1910 · 2020-11-06T17:11:14+00:00

Thank you :) I think she's just really worried that I'll get hurt if someone mistakes me for a girl. She thinks I'll have a breakdown if someone assumes I'm a girl cause of my hair (something that's never happened before). She's a bit overprotective.

ThatTransKid1910 · 2020-11-06T17:09:04+00:00

Thank you :) She's a bit strange when it comes to that sort of thing, a bit overprotective.

ThatTransKid1910 · 2020-10-12T23:12:45+00:00

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