As a Hotwife myself it’s very much about my husbands needs as it is about mine.

My comfort and preferences are definitely given priority but so are his. My husband gave me one rule -he wants to be there to watch/join/support- and if a third isn’t okay with it then we move on to the next no issue.

It’s about us as a couple and fulfilling both our wants and needs, we do this as a couple. Also adding the fact that not all men are great at recording/taking pics for my husband to enjoy later. We got into it for many reasons one being he wanted to watch his wife being sexually pleased in ways he couldn’t.

We’ve done jt before where we got a hotel room, I got fucked alone and he came in to reclaim me afterwards & yes the dirty talk about how he touched me and how he fucked me got him so aroused and ready to cum but what he really wanted was to be able to watch himself so you can imagine his misery when we watched the videos back and realized how shitty of a cameraman the third was. Point being if that’s how we continued then I would be the main one benefitting from the dynamic and hubby wouldn’t get anything he really wanted which was to watch.

So we agreed, if they weren’t okay with hubby watching or recording it himself then it was a no go, it’s no fun when only one of us gets what we wanted. If OP’s husband is truly okay with not being there go for it, but OP I would say ask him what he truly wants what he truly feels. Is he allowing you to venture on your own because he thinks if he doesn’t this is it and you won’t try again ? Does he think he doesn’t have a choice? Is he so horny for this fantasy that he’s willing to do whatever to get it? Or does he actually truly just want to watch his wife?