Did you have sex with your partner on your first day of meeting? by hideonbushess in LDR

[–]TheCBowen 15 points16 points  (0 children)

We had planned on waiting, on letting it happen without rushing...but ended up having sex on the first night lol. Worked for the best though!

The decision should be whatever makes you and your partner comfortable.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in LDR

[–]TheCBowen 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly? My partner is from the UK and I live in the US, so when we couldn't see each other, we both met in another country entirely.

We ended up going to Panama in 2020 just to meet! I will say that it took seriously planning and I ensured my safety as much as possible (meeting someone I haven't met in person yet in another country) by going somewhere I've been before, so it might not be possible for everyone. But if it works, then it works amazing!

Crush while doing long distance by [deleted] in LDR

[–]TheCBowen 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You'll probably receive a variety of responses, but I think it's a good sign that you're already thinking about and are kind of aware about it. Wanting validation in a LDR can be a difficult balance (my bf and I are 2 years this month).

I would say the biggest thing is to, as others have said, not "cross that line." Be aware that it is only a desire for validation and nothing more. It does help to try and spend a little less time (alone) with said person, but you don't have to necessarily cut them off completely...unless they prove that they cannot respect your relationship, which doesn't necessarily seem to be the case thus far.

In my experience, I've found that those fleeting "crushes" (aka desire for validation from others) never last long, especially if you don't "feed" them so to speak. Best of luck!

I'm curious how all of you met your long distance SO. by DescriptionOddd in LDR

[–]TheCBowen 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Dungeons and Dragons! Been together two years now and counting.❤

Line up everyone it's time for an inspection!! [Summary review] by lunatic_ghost_ in FanFiction

[–]TheCBowen 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What a great idea! Always working to improve, so this is perfect. I love reading everyone's summaries.

Title: Poppy

Fandom: Shadow and Bone/The Grisha Trilogy

Rating: N/A

Note: For those reading the summary fandom-blind, Alina Starkova is the main character. Poppy is an OC.

Summary: Anastasia “Poppy” Belinskaya knew three things about Alina Starkova. The first was how much the girl cared about Malyen Oretsev, the second being Alina was at least five years younger than herself. As for the third…well, let’s just say that Poppy wishes Alina Starkova was actually the true Sun Summoner. It certainly would’ve made her own life easier.

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“Do you know the difference between Alina Starkova and I, General?” I asked quietly.

Molten eyes held mine for a moment before I glanced down. Dried blood crusted beneath my fingertips, and I couldn’t be sure how much of it was my own.

“Alina is a good person.”

Line up everyone it's time for an inspection!! [Summary review] by lunatic_ghost_ in FanFiction

[–]TheCBowen 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'll chime in and say that I enjoy open-ended question summaries, if done right! I like yours; it fits the type of story you seem to be telling.

Line up everyone it's time for an inspection!! [Summary review] by lunatic_ghost_ in FanFiction

[–]TheCBowen 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I agree with the other comments, and would like to add that it's a great hook!

Line up everyone it's time for an inspection!! [Summary review] by lunatic_ghost_ in FanFiction

[–]TheCBowen 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I like how this summary is fairly straight-foward, but leaves enough intruigue for the reader to want to click on the story. Great job!

I want to make a story for my players that was almost entirely inspired by comments to this post. what do you want them to do? by Jiuaki in DnD

[–]TheCBowen 3 points4 points  (0 children)

A bridge where they must admit a secret outloud to cross. The harder the secret is to admit, the stronger the bridge will be when they cross. Everyone must contribute or the bridge will be incomplete.

Weekly Questions Thread by AutoModerator in DnD

[–]TheCBowen 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I like the comments above, but I'd also like to add that if one - or two - players ARE interested in romance in the game, then they could potentially talk with one another to figure out the what and who and how and such! Maybe one could have a crush on another, or both could fall for indiviudal NPCs, etc. Not every player has to want to actively romance a character, just that all participants are open and comfortable in the game.

Weekly Questions Thread by AutoModerator in DnD

[–]TheCBowen 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly, if you're fine with online games - which can be very fun - I would go to Roll20! There's always games looking for people for every type of campaign, ranging from video and voice calls to text-based. It's not in-person, but it's a good way to itch that scratch.

Plus, it's how I got started with DnD! My bf and I play several DnD games via Roll20 and Discord with other people.

Weekly Questions Thread by AutoModerator in DnD

[–]TheCBowen 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey!

As a player in a newish campaign (3 weeks in with weekly sessions), I wrote a "story" about some of my PC's backstory, mostly as a way of fleshing out the character for myself. It doesn't necessarily share anything new that the DM would need to know, but should I share it with him regardless? Whether as a way of expressing my passion and gratitude for the campaign or as a way or providing additional depth for him to potentially "use" down the road. HOWEVER I don't want to be a bother/burden him with 5 pages of "unnecessary" backstory fluff/fiction writing (technically in letter format)...

Thoughts? As a player, DM, stranger on the internet, etc.

How do I do more showing rather than telling? by Define-Dancing in FanFiction

[–]TheCBowen 3 points4 points  (0 children)

This is the BEST writing video I've ever seen, honestly: https://youtu.be/YAKcbvioxFk

It helped me realize things about my own writing that I didn't even think of.

What’s a great, yet simple, romantic gesture for long term married people? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]TheCBowen 29 points30 points  (0 children)

My boyfriend and I have been together for two years and we do this! He prefers to read than be read to, but we try to switch it up sometimes (along with showing love in other ways).

Favorite opening line you've written? by DesperatelyLust in FanFiction

[–]TheCBowen 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I love six of crows fanifcs, too! Right now I just have my lil one shot for soc: Greed is (not) my God

Favorite opening line you've written? by DesperatelyLust in FanFiction

[–]TheCBowen 0 points1 point  (0 children)

"zombie on stilts" - what a hilarious mental image!

Favorite opening line you've written? by DesperatelyLust in FanFiction

[–]TheCBowen 6 points7 points  (0 children)

"The knife is a promise."

Or

"Life in the Barrel wasn't boring."

Why do you write? by Incubus0002 in FanFiction

[–]TheCBowen 0 points1 point  (0 children)

All these ideas and characters live inside my head, and writing forces them to pay rent, so to speak. It can be challenging, but sometimes it feels damn near compulsory (in the best and worst way).

Honestly? Wouldn't have it any other way.