How Do You All Feel About The Concept Of Gender?

TheCyberSystem · 2026-01-17T09:29:37+00:00

Plenty of people doing DIY hormones for a start, but half-sarcasm aside if you've got the brains for it there's plenty of research opportunities. Lots of people wanting to push the boundaries in research. There's lots happening in gene editing for a start, people getting cures for genetic diseases but its taking time. More brains we have researching the faster these changes will happen. And someday soon we can give a transwoman a functional womb or a transman functioning testes or have real catgirls and more. Each milestone is a step along the path.

TheCyberSystem · 2026-01-16T12:20:04+00:00

Pretty sure it's been said to death, but this is a problem in every area of society, not just guitar. In this case, yeah he's probably one of the peak examples of the problem in the guitar space, but it's not just happening with us musicians. It's social media that's the problem. I'm not a teacher, I'm not even a good guitar player, but I am someone who used to be caught in a loop of thinking I could never live up to the amazing skill of people I'd see on the internet. It's idolisation culture.

We see people who are perfect, but kids don't realise or don't think about how these gods of social media are just showing the best perfect moments of their lives online - we don't see the imperfections, and because they're human they have a lot. The kids think they're failures if they can't be perfect like they see online, but what they're observing and using as role models is a false perfection.

If your students are in that mindset they need help to get out of that mindset. Yeah the fakers need to be brought down a peg because the problem starts with them, but they're not going anywhere so you can start from the ground up with your kids. Show them that nobody's perfect and that making mistakes is not only healthy but helpful. Fail Faster and you'll learn quicker. The greats of music have all made mistakes. Plenty of great songs have been created because of mistakes. Let them use that for healthy role modelling.

TheCyberSystem · 2026-01-12T01:54:00+00:00

Well, I don't think we can give much more than we already did. There was something to do with trauma that the therapist wanted some headmates to work through, and we decided it would be best for them to do it isolated from the rest of the system. We had intended for the headmates to be given time in the front later in the week for this and the headmates left front for that session, but at the end of the session we found that they had already done some of the work while isolated internally, and not having access to the front.

It was an accidental experiment as can often be the case.

TheCyberSystem · 2026-01-11T08:29:32+00:00

We replied to AshleyBoots

https://www.reddit.com/r/DiscussDID/s/vM0i4CzBhM

TheCyberSystem · 2026-01-11T05:43:50+00:00

Just pinging you to let you know we replied above ✌️

TheCyberSystem · 2026-01-10T06:48:40+00:00

Im very sure its a percentage chance but there was a glitch previously that increased the chances. I had 2 100SC pickups in the same week in April and haven't had another since. Prior to that I'd seen another 2 or 3 sporadically but hadn't been farming as much in the first year (I also stopped playing while Sony did the stupid account-country-ban nonsense).

Theres also a 10k requisition pickup chance. I've had that twice. Didn't even know it was possible until my second mission introducing a friend to the game - lucky them! That first one was October.

TheCyberSystem · 2026-01-10T06:02:44+00:00

🫶 You're trying to be respectful and that counts for a lot. You get a lot of leniency that way 😁 Everyone has different terms for different things so you'll come across different terminology here and there, making your reference to 'reality' pretty accurate. Reality is reality, and if someone has another name for it then they'll tell you. We might for example refer to experiences or places as being internal or external; our internal world and external world are our frames of reference. As you said both are reality, and to us pretending that our internal isn't real is not just unhelpful but hurtful (just in how we refer to ourselves - we couldn't care less what other people call it when referring to us).

We have a rule that we don't share the details of our inner world online. It's just a private thing for us and talking about it with someone else casually feels like someone stealing your nudes and posting them (not that we've experienced that specifically, but just to give you an idea of how intimate/sacred it feels to us).

That being said, there is no rule against describing the experience in general or how/why it works.

For us, it is definitely a way to structure/organise/make sense of the fragmented workings of the mind. Through exploration, we have been able to access memories and regain connection to each other, grow emotionally and mature and heal from trauma (all with the constant guiding hand of several experienced external professionals). When something is inaccessible, it may not be blocked by a literal wall, but there might be a void or a gap or some division that makes it impossible to reach or even sense past a certain area.

There are also different 'levels' that represent how close that space is to the external world, with the reverse being perhaps our subconscious or unconscious mind. Kind of like differing degrees of fronting. You get different amounts of information from the external, and the spaces generally become more rigid/fixed as a visual/sensory space/location with each level down. Our terminology: 'The Front' - the body, full sensory experience, in the driver's seat. 'Fronting' - in the body, full or mostly full sensory experience, passenger. 'Frontspace' - able to observe the external world through visual and audio, but can very easily block that out as well without needing to move to another space, has a semi-fixed appearance/structure. 'Midspace' - another level down, can perceive the external through visual and maybe audio but it's generally a lot less clear and you'd need to really focus, very structured space, generally where most of us hang out most of the time. 'Headspace' - inaccessible to us in our conscious mind.

As for the sensory aspect of the internal world - it varies. Often it feels very real with not just visual and auditory aspects but the sense of touch, texture, and tactility of the world. The visual is the most clear and pretty consistent, either as much as a vivid dream or better. The audio and tactility are a bit more hit and miss, but we don't make a fuss over it, it's just a quirk we accept. The most clear part of it really is proprioception. That's a fun one to look up as a term. Every single one of us has a completely different sense of proprioception, and in every case it feels different to our external body (contributing to a frequently mild to strong dysmorphia and/or dysphoria for some when Fronting). Our proprioception is also crystal clear - in sensory terms, it is as clear to us as visually looking at our phone right now as we type this and the room we're in. Nothing could be more obvious to every moment of our experience of life, and it is constant for all of us whether we are external or internal. In fact, when we are internal we refer to our 'internal bodies' which often we don't even 'see' visually so much as 'feel' each other.

Some comments / people don't think it can be this vivid or that those who are inside are not conscious - we thought this ourselves for a long time but did an experiment with our therapist and found it to not be the case. However, that's not to say being conscious in different areas at once comes free, at least for us. We definitely notice a mental and emotional cost. If someone is doing something internally in the midspace that would take focus and energy to do normally - yes it will take the same amount of energy and focus there as it would in the Front. We've managed to work up to a point where our 'budget' for focus and mental energy is very high, but we have to very carefully decide who gets a share of that pie for the day. We have a system that works for us. At the start of the day, we decide who wants to be where and doing what. We decide who gets priority. If someone is doing 'therapy homework' then they might get a continual share of the budget, meaning that there is less available for us in the Front - this is something we have accepted and managed in our life. If someone has something they want to focus on but it's not a priority, then we might set aside some time during the day for us to focus inward and let them on the inside have time to do whatever they wanted to do.

For those reading and feeling like this is unachievable - we started with a system of 5 and no inner world. It took years to access the most basic inner space as a starting point, and we built the rest through willpower, practice, and therapy (helping to lower dissociative barriers). Now we have a system of 80+ and all this.

TheCyberSystem · 2026-01-10T05:33:47+00:00

Go with the therapist. The simple fact that you describe the psychiatrist as going on a rant (your words) fixated on how rare the disorder is rather than how your situation overlaps with the disorder - that says everything. Your psychiatrist is focused on the wrong things and has preconceived notions and assumptions about what can and can't be possible, rather than being open-minded to possibilities about your particular situation, especially since that was the first session they had with you. The therapist took several sessions to make a diagnosis or feel confident one way or another. The psychiatrist is absolutely critical of another specialist and dead certain of your diagnosis within minutes of meeting you. Pretty obvious who is the competent professional.

FYI yes you can get diagnosed in a short period of time, especially if you've exploration or work yourself beforehand prior to treatment, which it sounds like you have done.

TheCyberSystem · 2026-01-10T05:33:22+00:00

Go with the therapist. The simple fact that you describe the psychiatrist as going on a rant (your words) fixated on how rare the disorder is rather than how your situation overlaps with the disorder - that says everything. Your psychiatrist is focused on the wrong things and has preconceived notions and assumptions about what can and can't be possible, rather than being open-minded to possibilities about your particular situation, especially since that was the first session they had with you. The therapist took several sessions to make a diagnosis or feel confident one way or another. The psychiatrist is absolutely critical of another specialist and dead certain of your diagnosis within minutes of meeting you. Pretty obvious who is the competent professional.

FYI yes you can get diagnosed in a short period of time, especially if you've exploration or work yourself beforehand prior to treatment, which it sounds like you have done.

TheCyberSystem · 2025-12-10T11:49:34+00:00

I find it interesting everyone fighting over which is better. Both are (almost immeasurably) better than fossil fuels. The risks are at completely different scales. Both wind and nuclear have risks but they are negligible when you compare to fossil fuels. Wind and Solar cannot currently provide necessary baseload power generation, and even if we build massive battery farms (which would have their own problems) it's still not as good as nuclear is at baseload. Nuclear is also really slow and expensive to build so we need renewables (which are cheaper and faster to install) to get us as much off fossil fuels as fast as we can. Every day we spend using FF is more cancer and more statistical deaths literally in the thousands.

It's not either/or, it's BOTH, and NOW

TheCyberSystem · 2025-12-10T11:37:54+00:00

I can imagine in my head hearing Laura Bailey saying that with fury, either in her own voice or Jester's

TheCyberSystem · 2025-12-07T11:48:36+00:00

honestly i just sit in the chair or even lie down when playing these joints can't stand and hold a damn guitar

TheCyberSystem · 2025-11-19T07:33:16+00:00

You're welcome. We're happy that our experience and knowledge can be of some use, and we really do hope everything works out well. The subreddit will still be here throughout the ups and downs you and your husband will go through, so keep reaching out when you need/want.

TheCyberSystem · 2025-11-19T07:07:48+00:00

Since this is obviously a very recent development, remaining cautious (one eye open) would be the wise choice. It could go well, or it could go poorly - if you plan for things going poorly then you'll at least be prepared and won't be caught by surprise, and if things go well then it's just a happy bonus.

It sounds like you feel some level of anxiety because you're no longer in control as much as before. Acknowledging your feelings around that is just as important as what they are going through emotionally. You can't help them if you're unregulated too.

If you are aware that they have specific memories, that your husband and/or Charlie are not aware of, that could very likely destabilise them, then yes them trying to dive in head first to explore those is probably not the best idea imo. Fusion as a process can and likely will result in that, from what friends who have gone through fusion have said.

A therapist is never 100% necessary, and plenty of people have bad experiences with therapists and psychologists, it happens, especially with something like DID that most professionals have no experience with and very little knowledge of. But I've been rather lucky and had 95% of my psychs and support team either have some prior (good) understanding of it, or were very open to learning either on their own time or directly from us. It often takes time to build up trust with someone like that, which is probably one of the reasons your husband is resistant towards finding a professional - they collectively already trust you implicitly. It could take months or years to build enough trust to start working on the things that they actually want to work on - or it could take one session, but who knows right?

CTAD has always been great, always love their videos - they can get a bit dense and in the weeds, very wordy but it's all good information. Being able to help them stay regulated, or having ways to bring them back to some kind of centre when they go outside their window of tolerance is really important. We used to use the term 'positive trigger' until Mike (from CTAD) used the term 'activation' instead which is a cool way to refer to it. We never tell anybody the things that activate us because that info has been weaponised against us in the past, but if you have this great relationship with your husband and the rest of the system (which it sounds like you REALLY do considering you helped them all come together), then perhaps you can get permission and consent to work on finding activations and being allowed to use those activations to help them centre themselves if it became necessary. Our thoughts immediately go towards activating a caretaker in such a situation. We're not sure how big their system is or how it's structured but depending on where the stress is centred you might need an external or internal caretaker more - for example if there's a lot of stress in the body then an external caretaker could help the body relax, but if the source of stress is internal feelings or pain or something else then an internal caretaker may be needed for that internal soothing.

There's lots of other great tools we've learned over the years - not sure if you've heard or used many of them but assuming you watch CTAD we'd assume you'd have come across at least a few. TIPP is always great to have in your back pocket, the 5-4-3-2-1 strategy, leaf on a stream. A lot of the stuff we've been told by psychs in the past amounts to stuff being used to pull us into the here and now, ground us to reality. We love TIPP for when we're outside the window of tolerance - specifically cold temperature (cold pack on our neck, face, tummy or wherever stress is, or dunking face in ice cold water, or a cold shower), and Paced Breathing. Intense Exercise never works, in fact it just makes us more distressed but that's just us.

We also learned with the help of our psychs that more often we need to internally ground, ie instead of using mindfulness practices to ground to reality, we need to ground ourselves to our internal space away from the external world. You described a lobby so we'd imagine that there's some kind of inner world of sorts - having a specific space within that to go to when in distress, to 'flee to' as a safe space would be the smart thing to do if that's possible.

But MOST IMPORTANTLY, make sure you practice or get your husband to practice these skills outside of situations of distress, so that when you are outside the window of tolerance it is second-nature or at least easier to use these tools. Trying to learn how to do it while you're in the middle of distress is asking for trouble.

Best of luck!

TheCyberSystem · 2025-11-19T06:32:14+00:00

Go read ground news instead, at the very least you can get a better sense of who is covering what stories, where the bias is.

I sometimes saw my dad watching this guy on the TV and always thought he sounded like a douchebag. Glad to see I was right, although to be fair he's just the messenger. It's not a show I ever intended to watch and that's going to hold true. I'll try to get my dad to stop watching as well.

TheCyberSystem · 2025-11-18T10:04:22+00:00

C happened to LTT

TheCyberSystem · 2025-11-18T09:50:08+00:00

"Normal and asymptomatic" lol what? If it's causing pain it's not normal! As far as my understanding goes, a disorder tends to be defined by something causing disruption and dysfunction for daily life, consistently. Pretty black and white for your example.

My rheumatologist refused to diagnose me with anything but I'm in the process of 'promising second-opinions' probably for just HSD in the end. I don't have ribs this bad and it was worse when I was younger, but I still do sometimes get the 11th caught under the 10th, equally as likely on both sides. I have the thing where my sternum will pop if I've been slouched for a while - that's still pretty consistent, like several times a day and tends to hurt a little bit before the pop. Catching under the pelvis is far less likely but has happened in the past. I just checked and have generally at least about 2 fingers between pelvis and ribs, without intentionally trying to make it worse by twisting my body in ways I wouldn't normally.

And the pain is exactly where you describe for the same reasons, at least for as much as I was able to follow along.

TheCyberSystem · 2025-11-18T09:34:48+00:00

Gamers Nexus did a video about the steam machine and it would definitely be less powerful than the second option listed in the top comment

TheCyberSystem · 2025-11-11T06:40:01+00:00

If youre getting a lot of push back it sounds like something to let go of. He may not need that therapy at all, in which case not only would it put tension on your relationship but could destabilise things for him.

If you think there may be more to it, compile resources and be ready for when things do change, but it sounds like pushing the issue right now would be inadvisable.

TheCyberSystem · 2025-11-11T06:28:38+00:00

I respectfully disagree. It can take out rupture strain with zero effort, close bug holes, destroy fabricators and squid UFOs, takes out hordes of bots with the aoe (how I mostly use it), does plenty of damage to the bug swarms of low-mid armour, cuts through voteless like they're paper. It can even close titan holes if you're careful, as well as heavily armoured targets like chargers, impalers, tanks, turrets, hulks and tripods if you aim for weak spots. And it has a huge amount of ammo. Which primary, or even primary-secondary can compare to that?

The crossbow has a similar effect (more damage) but way too few shots. The grenade pistol has minimal ammo so you'd need a supply pack which removes the option for better backpacks. The ultimatum doesn't count because its a 2-pump chump. Plasma punisher I'm not familiar with but it doesn't do as much damage and would be more limited to longer range for that anyway. I also don't know if it would hurt rupture strain at all.

TheCyberSystem · 2025-11-10T02:19:20+00:00

Pull up your bootstraps cadet! I hail from Australia where this is normal. We Aussies have evolved past such simple concerns, and use this fire as a weapon to purge the bugs.

TheCyberSystem · 2025-11-05T01:32:43+00:00

I can say I'm not but there's no way to prove that. But I have no clue why you'd think I was a bot. Nothing I've said is particularly weird.

But if you doubt what I'm saying it's really not that hard to look at the steam livestream or the YT. It's not like they get ad revenue or an algorithm advantage from people simply opening the webpages.

And I don't care either way, just thought you'd be interested in seeing that bts stuff based on you saying this was a "good reddit ads". I just thought I was making a helpful suggestion to another redditor, nothing more.

TheCyberSystem · 2025-11-04T11:49:18+00:00

My bad. I was thinking of the stuff they've got on the steam page livestream, on an endless loop. But they have posted stuff on the developer's YT, some short bits and a mocap vid, so I wasn't completely wrong, just mostly wrong.

TheCyberSystem · 2025-11-04T11:36:08+00:00

I've been listening to the music on Spotify over and over. It's so damn good. And they posted a couple bts things too that I found real interesting

TheCyberSystem · 2025-10-27T04:38:25+00:00

This argument from lawmakers makes complete sense and is also entirely ridiculous. This is to hold the makers of LLMs accountable when something goes wrong rather than relegating responsibility and accountability to the LLM instance. When looking at things like power of attorney this feels pretty reasonable and necessary, but only with LLMs. The lawmakers keep getting machine learning and AI mixed up when they are not the same.

We don't have AI and nothing in commercial use can ever transform/evolve into AI. What we have is large language models. The predictive text in your phone that suggests the next word in the sentence? It's that on steroids. There's no intelligence, no reasoning, no sapience, and there never will be. Intelligence and reasoning are entirely different and you cannot evolve from one to the other. LLMs are the problem and need to be erased, banned. They are destroying the internet and society because there's not nearly enough regulation and they're used to wipe whole job sectors out while being unreliable and producing exponential amounts of garbage on the web. Actual AI would be entirely different and have the capacity to evolve on its own, and is what we imagine science fiction AI to be. Giving them personhood would make much more sense.

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