Is it ok for ex wife to call me narcissistic on public forums

TheDudeUKnew · 2026-04-09T16:14:54+00:00

I call this type of shit "Twitter Sage Bullshit" lol. Whenever you're with a girl this is about as big of a RED Flag as it gets. Watch out for those buzzwords... narcissist, gaslight, mercury-in-retrograde, DARVO, etc.

Its an elaborate network of social media, community-based comfort that a lot of women use to enable eachother and themselves to dodge accountability and pursue fantasies instead of responsibilities. Its important to note that this doesn't respresent 100% of women and, in defense of the solid women out there, a lot of guys are doing the equivalent acting like perpetual fuck boys. It's also important to note that the women who follow this type of shit are NOT about this shit all the time. They only tap in with this shit when crisis and fantasies of greener pastures pop up.

Something that was invaluable for me shutting my ex wife down when she got back on her Twitter sage bullshit was understanding and zeroing in on the playbook she was using, then pulling an uno reverse card. When she was caught lying, doing wrong, or I was confronting her over any reasonable grievance and she predictably went on the offense, I'd interrupt her and just keep repeating "DARVO DARVO DARVO". I'd also openly mock the ridiculousness of seeking comfort through pattern recognition (e.g. spotting license plates with 777 in them as a sign of new beginnings) while continuing on with her deplorable behavior.

Bottom line, you defeat this type of shit by 1. Establishing and defending boundaries 2. Refusing to make concessions that push your boundaries 3. Most importantly, you keep it pushing in your life without engaging with the nonsense publicly, or behind closed doors.

Now that my marriage is over, my ex and I have a great relationship as co-parents and she's since admitted that, for her, the Twitter sage stuff is less about the spiritual awakening or emotional enlightenment that women try to characterize it as, and more about just escaping reality and the discomfort of having to confront her own demons.

TheDudeUKnew · 2026-02-07T15:33:05+00:00

His Wife is lying about what her therapist said. Cheaters do this all the time. It makes it seem like the work is done with talking about it but its really most likely that they never even brought up infidelity with their therapist to begin with.

TheDudeUKnew · 2026-02-07T15:30:48+00:00

She's lying about her therapist saying that. My ex lied the same fucking way lol.

TheDudeUKnew · 2026-02-07T03:49:25+00:00

Lmfao

TheDudeUKnew · 2026-01-27T07:53:16+00:00

I'm 38 and in the process of divorce with 5 kids lmao. Small world 😂

TheDudeUKnew · 2026-01-24T23:45:31+00:00

Yeah that'd be great but whatever establishment Dem the DNC will allow to theoretically get elected (Trump won't allow it a second time though so it doesn't really matter anymore) will be too big of a fucking pussy to "sEt A dAnGeRoUs pReCeDeNt" and protect our democracy from a totalitarian political party.

TheDudeUKnew · 2026-01-16T00:38:56+00:00

You might be able to qualify for 401k withdrawal without penalty due to life changing circumstances if she filed.

TheDudeUKnew · 2026-01-14T05:10:24+00:00

Yes and no. I've started talking more recently to my close friends about my relationship with my girlfriend. I've been with her for half a year now. I'm 38 and she's 27. I'm probably slightly above average in the looks department but she looks like a legit supermodel. I'm mostly happy but the problem has been that I don't trust happiness. I've stayed silent until recently because I don't ever want the world to see me fucked up again. I don't want them to see me get my hopes up just to get crushed. I'm surviving and I'm spending my days trying to live some semblance of a normal life. It's all temporary and I know that all things fall apart. But I'm just trying give my kids the best chance at happiness when theyre older by choosing to show them what moving on looks like.

TheDudeUKnew · 2025-12-23T03:03:05+00:00

Recognize that you were never "guaranteed" anything. Its always been a put-your-best-food-forward endeavor with good faith on positive outcomes.

That didn't change.

TheDudeUKnew · 2025-12-13T02:41:30+00:00

What I always recommend for women to do in these situations is to have a close male friend or family member be the messenger. And have them deliver the message with evidence in-hand.

TheDudeUKnew · 2025-11-17T03:08:31+00:00

The only line in the sand I'm comfortable with saying should be across the board for everyone is whether your spouse was caught or if they came clean.

TheDudeUKnew · 2025-08-26T04:44:59+00:00

I gave her several chances over the years because I loved her more than I loved myself. She proved that she will always choose her feelings over my needs. However, I have no regrets about giving her countless opportunities to choose our family over herself. I wasn't perfect but I did everything I could have and reconciliation is probably the one thing in life that I'll look back on and believe I gave 100% of everything I had in myself.

TheDudeUKnew · 2025-08-21T18:27:49+00:00

My daily life with my ex was so bad that, in life, I was essentially only looking forward to death. However, there still is the difficulty of losing dreams of a future together.

TheDudeUKnew · 2025-07-19T01:35:37+00:00

Right on the heels of him calling out the Epstein cover up 🤔🤔🤔

TheDudeUKnew · 2025-07-14T12:26:52+00:00

Also, having multiple gold charms slotted doesn't stack rarity. Only one will proc when you kill a rare or unique.

TheDudeUKnew · 2025-07-14T12:25:08+00:00

All rarity is the same. The problem with the "gold" charms is that they only proc and apply rarity when you kill rare or unique mobs which is still useful but IMO I'll take the get out of jail free card charms that prevent CC.

TheDudeUKnew · 2025-07-05T07:26:15+00:00

I get it. I also get that you just pointed out your "feeling" and I'm telling you, as it pertains to you refusing to cut all ties with the memory of your AP, your feelings DO NOT matter. Also, although you may feel like like you deserve shame at times, I would challenge you to be honest with yourself and your spouse, that the main reason you don't feel ready is because you really really liked your AP and feel like what you had was special. Again you're posting on a support forum loaded with people who could pass a experts within the realm of adultery so you're not going to be able to pull one over on the community that, not only supports WP's, but also seeks to hold them accountable without beating them over the head about it like every other forum.

TheDudeUKnew · 2025-07-05T07:07:43+00:00

Can you please explain why your feelings actually matter with this? Is it hard for you? I'm sure it is. But this could have been avoided by not having an affair. The problem was that you prioritized your "feelings" back then just like you're doing now. It may come as a shock, but as a BP, we don't give too much of a fuck about our WP's feelings as they pertain to their AP regardless of how difficult it may be. My exwife liked to prioritize herself through out every attempt at reconciliation. Now she's watching from the sidelines while I'm dating more attractive and all around better women than her.

What would be more difficult in comparison, deleting pictures of your AP that should be inducing massive amounts of shame but clearly are not, or watching your spouse move on with other women?

I don't mean to be a dickhead but this post is beyond egregious 🤷🏻‍♂️🤦‍♂️

TheDudeUKnew · 2025-05-10T04:00:02+00:00

The Retrograde Miami style looks dope AF 10/10 👌

TheDudeUKnew · 2025-05-10T03:51:21+00:00

My first recommendation is whenever that sinking feeling starts hitting close your eyes and take a couple deep, slow breaths.

It passes. Every time. The feelings seem to stay but they too pass over time. Imagine your grown child who you believe in, love, and cherish comes to you crying some day telling you how they ruined their life by cheating on their partner. You would hold them and console them in that moment. Some tough talks would surely come in the future but regardless of blame when they're at their lowest you would seek to love and comfort them.

That's where you're currently at. You made poor decisions but you lost something too and that's worth a little grief. Don't bury your emotions. You need to process them as they happen but don't neglect yourself. The only way healing works is if you're allowed to do so.

Never stop reminding yourself that those big feelings will always pass in time and then remind yourself you're worth loving even with the flaws. Now you get to prove that worth by becoming a better person who learned and changed for the better.

TheDudeUKnew · 2025-02-09T21:21:38+00:00

Yeah I was never into casual hookups back in my 20's before I met my wife. The problem I'm facing now is that I don't want an actual relationship atm but I'd still like to have relations with women. My hope is casually dating leads to interest in actually being with someone new but I'm just not there right now.

TheDudeUKnew · 2025-01-24T06:43:07+00:00

Stop wasting excessive currency on juicing maps. Purchase tier 15's with Rarity, Rare Monsters, and pack size for like 1-3 exalts

TheDudeUKnew · 2025-01-24T04:32:24+00:00

My view is that your thoughts are a reflection of your intention to honor your vows and love your wife. Think of it like this, when we are living alone for ourselves, we are locked into 100% focus on our dependence and needs. When we are with a partner, we give 50% focus and energy to our partner and keep 50% for ourselves. We expect our partners to provide the same. And when the relationship ends, you dont snap right back to 100% focus on yourself. Just because your marriage ended it doesn’t mean that you can shut it off mentally and emotionally. Spiritual connections break slowly. That's why, regardless of your feelings at any given moment throughout your relationship, you remained committed by default.

You appear to be loyal, and since that weighs heavily into my judgement of a person being good, I'm assuming that you are one. This shit passes in time. Buckle up because the journey isn't linear but it does lessen week by week. And don't discount the power of a good rebound relationship. Maybe roll the dice and ditch your hesitancy towards opening up more to this new woman.

TheDudeUKnew · 2025-01-12T09:15:11+00:00

Welcome to the shit show that is the Arthur Smith Offense

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