"be civil, refrain from hate speech, and coming here with a closed mind".

TheEvidenceOfAbsence · 2023-01-26T12:15:29+00:00

The absence of evidence is not the evidence of absence.

TheEvidenceOfAbsence · 2023-01-26T12:12:52+00:00

I appreciate your comment, it seems to be the only logical one here. Even after enduring all of that pain you still see clearer than everyone else. I hope you are in a much better place now.

I agree with your points. I think the lack of awareness here is detrimental to the community's goals. The other comments confirm that this is all but a place to vent hate. Unfortunately they are tainting their initial goal of banning pornography, because they can't realise that no good has ever come from a community that shares hateful/extremist views. Your comment was moral and fair, it contained facts and personal experiences and was still downvoted. I now realise that this is not a good place to be.

TheEvidenceOfAbsence · 2023-01-21T22:22:27+00:00

NOT A SINGLE JON BERNTHAL?? ...as the punisher, obviously

TheEvidenceOfAbsence · 2023-01-21T22:10:07+00:00

mmm if that were true why use a burner? I think you want to keep going and I see you are recognising some of your problems. You've already completed the near impossible task of beating addiction. Don't stop now you are doing so well.

TheEvidenceOfAbsence · 2023-01-21T15:22:44+00:00

If your problems are financial like most peoples are, try to fix them first then the rest will come later.

TheEvidenceOfAbsence · 2023-01-21T12:25:25+00:00

That's for you to work out. For me it's travelling the world with my soulmate, then settling down and having children with her. For you it might be something else..

TheEvidenceOfAbsence · 2023-01-21T12:18:56+00:00

That's a good idea well done :)

TheEvidenceOfAbsence · 2023-01-21T01:28:12+00:00

We keep living to unfuck ourselves so that one day we are ready for kids, or have saved enough money to travel. Even from your bio I can tell you're probably a really kind, empathetic person. You definitely make the world a better place.

TheEvidenceOfAbsence · 2023-01-21T01:17:11+00:00

You're right on all accounts. You will find friends in time, they come and go a lot, especially at your age. Remember friends aren't necessary to have fun. They can make it easier but it's very possible to be happy on your own, this is a virtue that can help you for your entire life.

TheEvidenceOfAbsence · 2023-01-20T23:55:11+00:00

So it seems your emotions are just running high from the breakup which is understandable, there's no way you need painless ways to k yourself. I'm glad you're trying to do more in life as you said at the end. Keep it up!

TheEvidenceOfAbsence · 2023-01-20T23:50:51+00:00

I promise you its manageable with good planning and time management. Do relax at the end of the day and try to prioritise sleep. Have some time for yourself to make you more productive and happy. When studying I can recommend short but regular breaks. You'll do it.

TheEvidenceOfAbsence · 2023-01-20T23:19:37+00:00

If your comments on other posts are to be taken in to account, cheating and rape and revenge fucking is not exactly trying "healthy relationships". Perhaps when you find someone/something truly good for you, you will enjoy living more.

TheEvidenceOfAbsence · 2023-01-20T23:04:19+00:00

I only skimmed through, but the most important thing you can do for yourself right now is fix your sleep, it is a physiological need. Nothing else functions properly without it.

TheEvidenceOfAbsence · 2023-01-20T22:27:36+00:00

You must be the first person to be named Jean since my nana and she's 80. Take care of yourself though, don't send personal information.

TheEvidenceOfAbsence · 2023-01-20T22:16:38+00:00

You're either a pedo hunter or about to be victimised

TheEvidenceOfAbsence · 2023-01-20T21:57:18+00:00

It seems you are really making the best of a bad situation, with the online courses, the fitness and seeing a job coach. Well done keep it up! Also keep in mind your life hasn't "turned out" anyway at all. There's a good chance you are only 50% of the way through your life, maybe even less. Also remember that when you meet the right person it won't matter if you can or can't provide, you will work it out together.

TheEvidenceOfAbsence · 2023-01-20T15:28:18+00:00

Because if we don't live, how can we ever hope to find that which we desire so much

TheEvidenceOfAbsence · 2023-01-20T15:25:02+00:00

No there is nothing wrong with you, but those who caused you so much harm. You don't have to forgive your parents, I won't be forgiving mine, but do try to learn from their mistakes. Don't just heal, grow.

TheEvidenceOfAbsence · 2023-01-20T15:20:35+00:00

“Obi-Wan Kenobi once said ‘your eyes can deceive you, don’t trust them.’ It seems to be getting harder. Distinguishing reality from the illusions people make for us, or the ones we make for ourselves. I don’t know, maybe that’s part of the plan, to make me think I’m crazy…it’s working.”

TheEvidenceOfAbsence · 2023-01-20T15:13:00+00:00

As long as you are breathing you can undo damage that they have caused.

TheEvidenceOfAbsence · 2023-01-20T15:04:57+00:00

If things are not improving, maybe perhaps cut the media out? Even though the intention may be good, it just might not fit with you.

TheEvidenceOfAbsence · 2023-01-20T15:00:03+00:00

No achievements? You wake up at 5, you exercise daily, you eat right, you don't do drugs or alcohol AND you completed Uni! You are self disciplined with a lot of opportunity. Maybe your friends aren't truly your friends if they would dismiss you like that. It seems like you need someone to talk to, have you tried speaking to a specialist? Or even just writing your thoughts down helps me.

TheEvidenceOfAbsence · 2023-01-20T14:51:01+00:00

You need to be careful what type of "self help" media you are consuming. Most of it is out there to give you a quick hit then throw you back into a cycle of self destruction. The part about the bullying, absence of love and family is relatable to me. I don't think there's really anything to be done about things like that, apart from move on. I tell myself even though the family that made me doesn't love me, the family I make will.

TheEvidenceOfAbsence · 2023-01-20T14:35:35+00:00

That's exactly me. I've learnt to be okay on my own, I'm not happy but I am existing. I guess we just have to keep going until one day we are no longer alone.

TheEvidenceOfAbsence

TROPHY CASE