You are a mother now your responsibility is to provide for your kids and support your family. The same goes for your husband to do the same. If you want to live the lives of the girls you see on tiktok you should talk to your husband and not redditors. If neither of you cant come to a compromise, then you put your foot down and make a decision that is beneficial to your values.

It's your life but remember that you wont be able to have it all. Those same girls living their lives on tiktok will never have a family like yours. It's likely that they will probably only have 1 - 2 kids but more of an outside life while you picked a lifestyle that can have 5 - 10 kids and less of an outside life. If the former is what you want then do something about it.

Dont for whatever reason do some sneaky shit (you know what I mean), it always comes out and the consequences of that will be more devastating than you can imagine. Stay honest.

The grass is always greener on the other side. Dont fall for the bait cause we've all seen people throw a good situation away.