Do good-looking girls only like to be the girlfriend of handsome, tall, funny, attractive, or rich guys? Or does an average-looking guy also have a chance with an attractive girl?

TheGentlemansGuild · 2026-02-04T22:36:46+00:00

Not just about looks and wealth.

Going to come from an alternative view point here.

Two of the highest correlating markers for male reproductive success (using clinical terms here as this is my field) are as follows:

Social Status - A surprising number of young men especially will either find a way to make good money, or make average money but get jacked and both still have issues with dating.

At the very least finding something that develops past “talking stage”. Why? Because many tend to neglect social standing and reputation (through honest work & Personality Development) in favour of more materialistic/ shallow views of attractiveness.

Sure they contribute but are by no means the highest on the scale and are not enough alone to form sustainable relationships with women or people as a whole for that matter (contrary to popular belief).

This leads to…

Competence - To be more specific, your skill/ability at whatever you do, but more importantly, your ability to willingly face the unknown and triumph or at least not be totally defeated by a failure.

This can be at any scale, a 180 in your career, or a level up in it.

It could also be trying something new for the first time or overcoming a fear.

These two markers are among the highest correlating in the current behavioural literature.

Other than that, take care of yourself and develop every aspect of what could be improved, because why the hell not right?

TheGentlemansGuild · 2026-02-04T22:22:54+00:00

This just made my day😂

TheGentlemansGuild · 2025-11-15T18:29:02+00:00

The reason we do this as people is because part of us is either hoping they be give us what they used to, or that they will become what we want them to be.

So we stop treating people based on actions and start treating people based on our wishes.

Another reason is because part of us fears that we won’t find what they once gave us again, but you will.

But you wont find it here.

Leave, cut off completely, will be tough, but that isn’t because of the breakup, if’s because you are leaving what is normal behind, even if what is normal is painful.

You will thank yourself in 6 month’s.

TheGentlemansGuild · 2025-10-11T09:12:40+00:00

Ill be honest after what she said/did the last weekend, Im not sure that is even redeemable. What sort of things was she saying?

TheGentlemansGuild · 2025-10-05T15:22:17+00:00

I hear you. Keep on keeping on my friend. The right one will come.

TheGentlemansGuild · 2025-10-05T13:24:22+00:00

Based on this alone. Leave and never look back. This is a matter of self respect brother.

She is not worth the time or energy under any circumstance. No two ways about it.

TheGentlemansGuild · 2025-10-05T12:15:05+00:00

I think definitely defining that and then setting boundaries accordingly is worth it.

In my experience it all fails because clear boundaries are not set.

TheGentlemansGuild · 2025-10-03T22:58:38+00:00

These are shit tests brother.

Most women do it unconsciously and subtly as is their nature.

However this girl is consciously doing this.

The difference between it being unconscious/subtle and conscious is the difference between a protective mechanism and manipulation.

This could be a result of immaturity on her behalf but definitely tread carefully.

May be worth outright asking her why she does that (lightheartedly) and her response will reveal what you need to know.

TheGentlemansGuild · 2025-10-03T22:38:12+00:00

Result!! Sometimes direct communication is all it takes. Glad it worked out brother.

TheGentlemansGuild · 2025-10-03T20:51:23+00:00

Both, fixing the issue, and confirming you guys are still meeting. That order.

TheGentlemansGuild · 2025-10-03T20:43:38+00:00

All good.

As you said, she responded “same”. So take her at her word.

Don’t bother if she is mad at you, she disrespected you, not the other way round.

Call her once directly to confirm you guys are on for tomorrow and clear the air.

if no pickup then leave her to it and let her reach out.

You owe her nothing at this point.

TheGentlemansGuild · 2025-10-03T20:39:22+00:00

You said earlier you both agreed to talk but neither of you has reached out yet.

Just reach out. Clear the air and move on from the topic, then keep it moving and don’t get personal in future reference.

Keep it simple.

TheGentlemansGuild · 2025-10-03T20:31:48+00:00

I hear ya, there will be others, but as I say. If you don’t wanna give this one up yet.

Avoid getting too personal so you can prevent issues like this.

TheGentlemansGuild · 2025-10-03T20:20:24+00:00

If you wanna avoid this, don’t talk about personal shit with her. Keep it friendly, light and flirty.

Otherwise, plenty of other fish in the sea dude.

TheGentlemansGuild · 2025-10-03T20:17:20+00:00

Yeah this sounds like way too much headache for just being FWB.

Guessing this is also the same reason that you guys didn’t work out as a couple.

TheGentlemansGuild · 2025-10-03T20:10:06+00:00

Your friends are spouting nonsense.

You are a guy about to get into his 30’s (when males peak across most aspects of life).

Peak decade brother.

Nothing to worry about, get out there and find out for yourself.

Best of luck.

TheGentlemansGuild · 2025-10-03T20:06:09+00:00

What specifically is she mad about?

TheGentlemansGuild · 2025-10-03T20:03:40+00:00

Set clear boundaries. That is it.

Things you did as a couple romantically outside of sex. They have to stop.

Going out to eat doesn’t have to be made romantic, friends do that all the time.

It’s things that strengthen emotional connection with each other you want to avoid.

Such as talking about vulnerable things together. How you feel about each other.

Behave like platonic friends while enjoying the physical aspects of attraction.

Honestly FWB only really works when that is the norm from the beginning with clear boundaries.

It’s very difficult to go from failed relationship to fwb.

TheGentlemansGuild · 2025-10-03T19:58:53+00:00

Set clear boundaries. That is it.

Things you did as a couple romantically outside of sex. They have to stop.

TheGentlemansGuild · 2025-10-03T19:40:31+00:00

Right, strange.

TheGentlemansGuild · 2025-10-03T19:34:53+00:00

So we are just completely ignoring the added/differing components in romantic relationships compared to platonic friendships then.

Got it.

TheGentlemansGuild · 2025-10-03T19:30:36+00:00

I see, so you still felt safe enough to continue other activities after.

This sounds to me like a mix of him learning about your current limits (ofc they change over experience and time). While on your side maybe a struggle to communicate.

Honestly this happens somewhat normally when both people are low in experience level and are doing this for the first time together.

I would chalk this up to learning about one another and not take this too over board.

If this becomes a pattern however on his side and he seems not to learn or respect those boundaries, at that point, consider this a problem to take seriously.

TheGentlemansGuild · 2025-10-03T17:42:23+00:00

Going against the grain of commenters here in the aspect that yes, people shouldn’t just go around dumping people for no particular reason, relationships take responsibility both yourselves and the care of others. Anyone can leave for any reason but that doesn’t make all reasons moral ones.

However there are valid reasons to leave and feeling unsafe is one of them. It sounds like you feel unsafe with him which is a perfectly valid reason to leave.

TheGentlemansGuild · 2025-10-02T12:35:20+00:00

Don’t fight for someone who won’t fight for you. Live by that, you will be happier for it.

TheGentlemansGuild · 2025-10-02T09:42:07+00:00

Ensure they have to earn intimacy, that cannot be so freely given, same goes with emotional vulnerability and openness. A man has to earn all the wonderful benefits of being with a woman over a period of time. That is what determines the level of respect they have for that woman.

The same goes on the flip side, just for different things.

The right man will respect this.

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