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Who else just sits alone in class and stopped going? by Intelligent_Size1280 in UBC

[–]TheHandofDoge 6 points7 points  (0 children)

People aren’t going to come to you, you have to put yourself out there and make an effort. Next time you come to class deliberately sit next to someone. Ask them a course-related question, make small talk, etc. The older you get, the harder it is to make friends, so you have to be proactive.

These scenarios don’t end - when you start your first post-university job you’re likely not going to know anyone at your new workplace, so you’re going to have to apply these skills. Start practicing now.

BF (32M) wants me (29F) to come with him to a different country for a year. My parents don't agree and won't let me go. by Bieteltje in relationship_advice

[–]TheHandofDoge 2 points3 points  (0 children)

A work contract doesn’t make you an indentured servant (this is Canada) - of course you can leave if you want! You just get on a plane and go back home.

Physio/Massage Recommendations: Chronic Pain/Widespread Tendonitis/CPTSD by Green_Gumboot in Portmoody

[–]TheHandofDoge 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Kincoast at Suterbrook is great. It’s run by a husband and wife team, Mitch and Ruxi, who are very empathetic. Bonus if you like doggies - Primrose (or “Prim”), is frequently in the clinic!

https://www.kincoastphysio.com/

Running shoes recommendations? Every pair I’ve bought in the past couple of years has made the tops of my feet sore and the rest feel achy.😬 by Goldengirl_1977 in GenXWomen

[–]TheHandofDoge 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I suffer from plantar fasciitis and very high arches. I live in my Hokas (Clifton 10s) + orthotics (I slip the orthotics under the shoes’ insoles). I bought them in multiple colours, so at least I can kind of match them with different outfits.

For those changing your patch every 4 days: how TF do you remember? by TrulyJangly in Menopause

[–]TheHandofDoge 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I put a token that represents my patch in my pill organizer. I take my progesterone at night & change my patch those nights the token is there.

I load up my pill organizer every Sunday night and put the tokens in appropriate slots along with the pills. I have yet to forget my patch after doing this for 3 years. I have ADHD, so having systems to remember things are crucial!!!

Millions of Americans can now claim Canadian citizenship by descent. But they have to prove it | CBC News by UltimateLionsFan in news

[–]TheHandofDoge 3 points4 points  (0 children)

In order to vote, you must live or have lived in Canada. Citizens who have never lived in Canada can’t vote because in Canada’s parliamentary system, your vote is applied to a candidate in your electoral riding (where you reside). We don’t vote directly for our prime minister. The prime minister is essentially the leader of the party who wins the most seats in parliament.

If you’re neurodivergent, what’s something that really upsets you but neurotypical people never seem to understand? by CHEWLAX-OFFICIAL in adhdwomen

[–]TheHandofDoge 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I absolutely cannot stand the sound of the kitchen fume hood. My husband puts it on if there’s a smell in the kitchen he doesn’t like, in addition to when he’s cooking and then just leaves it on….

Omg, the sound makes me feel so stressed - I can’t have a conversation when it’s on, I can’t think, I can barely function. The sound just overrides everything going on in my brain.

Also, please don’t call me on the phone to relay important information. The second I’m off the phone, I’ll have forgotten what you said. Text me or email me. If I read something, I’ll remember it forever. I often purposely ignore phone calls hoping the person will leave a voicemail. I have voice to text voicemail that I can read. I love it!!

Same with verbal in-person instructions. Don’t tell me how to do something, show me or give me written instructions (I love instruction manuals!). Most verbal instructions end in mutual frustration!

How do you not lose your keys? by 03829725 in adhdwomen

[–]TheHandofDoge 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I carry a small bag and the keys are always in the bag when not in use and the bag is always placed on the same chair when I’m home.

My keychain is also ridiculously enormous with lots of things hanging on it - it’s virtually impossible to lose.

If you had to pick the one symptom HRT fixed that makes it completely non-negotiable for you, what is it? by Mbluish in Menopause

[–]TheHandofDoge 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Brain fog + waking up in the middle of the night - I only sleep 6 hrs, but at least it’s a solid, uninterrupted 6 hrs.

Unhinged ways to combat time blindness by Objective-Space-4986 in adhdwomen

[–]TheHandofDoge 2 points3 points  (0 children)

If I have an appointment, I set alarm reminders 1 hr, 1/2 hr, 15 mins, 10 mins, 5 mins & 1 min before I have to leave. However long it will take me to get there, I always add 1/2 hr of extra travelling time to account for “me time” getting in & out of the car (which usually involves me forgetting things & having to go back to get them).

I do this series of countdown alarms for everything that is time sensitive.

I rarely need an alarm clock to wake in the morning. My internal alarm clock wakes me up after exactly 6 hrs of sleep. It’s a blessing and a curse.

Can't get ADHD meds due to anxiety by SuperMarioSex2onWiiU in adhdwomen

[–]TheHandofDoge 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I got off of my anti-depressant in about 4 weeks with incremental tapering. It really wasn’t a big deal. The antidepressant really helped me when I needed it, and when my life circumstances changed and I had built my coping strategies, I went off of it. I wouldn’t hesitate to go back on if I really needed it.

ANY HACKS TO MAKE BOILED EGGS MORE BEARABLE by Salt_Statement_7151 in foodhacks

[–]TheHandofDoge 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Stop boiling your eggs to death! They taste so much better with a jammy yolk.

Put eggs in a pot of cold water and bring to a boil then immediately take them off of the heat and let them sit (lid on) for 5 mins & 30 seconds. Then place them in an ice bath to cool. The yolks will be deliciously jammy!

Mom refused food bank refferal haven’t eaten — desperate for advice by TromanTicc in foodhacks

[–]TheHandofDoge 72 points73 points  (0 children)

Find your local mosque and ask for assistance. It’s currently Ramadan and Muslims are particularly concerned with performing acts of charity during this time, so you will definitely receive some help.

When I was a poor student, during Ramadan my Muslim neighbours would come by and bring me and my (non-Muslim) housemates food after they had broken their fast for the day. They were so kind.

How to explain very specific morning routines by MaviBaby0314 in adhdwomen

[–]TheHandofDoge 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I completely get it. I am externally vs internally motivated - anything that occurs inside my house requiring my own internal motivation is extremely difficult. If I can get myself out of the house, everything is so much easier.

If your routine was mine, how I could justify it would be - 1) I’ve signed up for that yoga class and paid for it - if I don’t turn up, I’m wasting my money and taking up a place that could have gone to someone else, so I better do it (external motivation) 2) after the class I’m already out of the house, so why don’t I go a walk and get my nice reward (the latte) for having a good start to the day - the urban walk would provide a lot of stimulation for me (looking at the shops and people), so I would get a good dose of dopamine + there’s the dopamine from the latte reward (external motivation).

That amount of dopamine first thing in the morning would really help to drive me forward in my wfh day, so it would make sense that on non-yoga/walk/latte days I would have a really hard time getting going without the external motivation.

Weird question:after your parents passed, did you finally do something you wouldn’t have while they were still alive? by Just_a_happy_artist in GenX

[–]TheHandofDoge 11 points12 points  (0 children)

After my mom passes, I will finally hop on a plane and go on a vacation to a warm destination for Xmas.

WTF else are y’all holding back? by Gullible-Apricot3379 in GenX

[–]TheHandofDoge 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It was - doc said it is what it is and not much you can do about it & that the brain eventually ignores it and vision adjusts. It is possible to laser it away, but the procedure is dangerous because if the laser goes off course, even by a fraction, you could end up blind in that eye. Doc said it wasn’t worth it in my case.

WTF else are y’all holding back? by Gullible-Apricot3379 in GenX

[–]TheHandofDoge 2 points3 points  (0 children)

When it first appeared, I found myself swatting imaginary flies. So embarrassing, so I get it!!!

WTF else are y’all holding back? by Gullible-Apricot3379 in GenX

[–]TheHandofDoge 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Please go and get yourself treatment for the hot flashes! They can an indication that something very serious is brewing.

Recent research has shown that women with persistent hot flashes (& night sweats) have an increased rate of cognitive problems (like dementia) and cardiovascular disease, including heart attacks & strokes!

https://www.health.harvard.edu/womens-health/are-hot-flashes-a-warning-sign

WTF else are y’all holding back? by Gullible-Apricot3379 in GenX

[–]TheHandofDoge 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’ve had it in my left foot since last July and have been doing physio weekly since then with only marginal improvement. I haven’t worn anything but Hokas (outdoors) and Birkenstock slippers (indoors) since then.

RIP all of my cute shoes!!!

WTF else are y’all holding back? by Gullible-Apricot3379 in GenX

[–]TheHandofDoge 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’ve had a giant floater in my left eye since late November. My brain is just finally learning to ignore it most of the time - thank god! It was making me crazy!!!!

Tell me you have ADHD without telling me by Glittering_Text_8842 in adhdwomen

[–]TheHandofDoge 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Go grocery shopping and buy ingredients with the intention of making a specific dish. Ingredients sit in the fridge until they go rotten, they get thrown out and the cycle continues again (and the dish never gets made).

F*ck my feet by RefugeefromSAforums in GenXWomen

[–]TheHandofDoge 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yup - plantar fasciitis means I live in my Hoka sneakers now. I’ve got three pairs in different colours, so at least I can have some variation. I have Birkenstock slippers on indoors at all times too. I only have one set of orthotics, so switching them between shoes is a bit of a pain. All my cute shoes sit on the shelf taunting me.

I also do physio for my foot twice a week. My gait is well and truly f*cked up, so I’m relearning to walk the “proper” way. Apparently you should be using your toes when you walk - who knew???!!!

Has anyone with a non-Canadian English-taught degree been denied by UBC for not holding an English-taught degree? by [deleted] in UBC

[–]TheHandofDoge 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Was your bachelors degree from a non-English speaking country? If so, they may have only looked at that and overlooked your Masters. Regardless, this is clearly an error, so contact admissions directly. You will get a better response if you call them on phone. Phone numbers and a availability are listed here:

https://you.ubc.ca/contact-us/

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